Sugar sweet, my ass

1: Sugar Babies are offering an experience not a service. 
*escorts/prostitutes provide a service and exchange usually per hour or per time. Sex is the primary focus of exchange.

In the past, especially with MC and another SD, I was always extremely cold and distant. I always knew the value of being “on” and playing the girlfriend role even if I wasn’t totally feeling it at that time or for that person particularly. I even blogged before about the type of SDs I tend to attract and that the majority of them are emotionally needy in one way or another and fall for me super hard, super quick. This always pissed me off and I would let it show. I knew I didn’t want to get their hopes up and tell them “yeah, I love you too” because it wouldn’t have been genuine and that’s just depressing.

But I’ve since learned that shutting down completely once they caught feelings for me ended up hurting those arrangements more that I ever realized. With my current SDs I’ve been trying a bit of a different approach. All of them have caught feelings. However, rather than shut down emotionally and not respond to their feelings at all, or lie to them, I try to reinforce the things I do value and greatly appreciate about them.

For instance, yesterday I hand wrote a card (older men usually notice and appreciate the effort of a handwritten note) for my one SD (who I have decided to call Mr.R) and asked if I could bring it to his office on my way home from school. Mr.R is the extremely sensitive type, and I quickly learned is filling the void his ex-wife left, with me. It only took an extra 5 minutes out of my way on the way home, and in fact I slipped it under his office door without even seeing him. The note wasn’t anything special, although way mushy-er than anything I’d ever seriously write to someone, but I knew he would like the wording:

(excuse my shit handwriting)

This morning I got a text from him telling me how much the card meant to him and how it had made his whole week. He told me to check my Paypal for something to brighten my day too.

For “back to school things”. Although fortunately, I don’t really need anything. Point being, the whole “you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar” thing is true. I didn’t compromise my emotional well being by lying to appease someone else’s feelings, but I also reinforced to him how grateful I am for his generosity and kindness. Plus, extra money is always awesome!

I am a woman of the highest caliber, and I deserve only the best. I am providing a valuable luxury service to men who do not deserve me and have to earn me by funding me and treating me like the lady I am. No man who would act entitled to my time, my company, or my body deserves it.

If you’re using tinder for serious sugaring and not organic, normal dating, then perhaps think about making a separate Facebook for this. This is important as I almost got myself a stalker. Also as tinder uses your facebook info, you can stalk him too! But obviously guys, too, can make fake profiles, especially those looking to beat and bounce.

Filter out guys by changing your age preference. Unsuspecting older guys will be very flattered that you’ve “liked” or “tapped” (or whatever is you do to them to express your interest for) them. Then talk normally, find out what they do (weeding process), where they live (weed out further), describe yourself in the best light, flirt lightly, play hard to get (!!!) and finally when it comes to the topic of meeting, ask where they would like to take you. This is v. important as you’ll be able to filter out them out more. Of course guys may impress you on the first date to get into your panties, but hold out. 

While you’re talking find out what they’re looking for and when they ask you, say, “Maybe something serious, but I’m not sure. Just going with the flow. Meet new people..etc” They know you’re young, but you come across as mature and focused, so hopefully they take you seriously!

Oh, another tip, is be forward. “Have you ever been with someone this young?” “Does my age bother you?” Ask innocently and inquisitively, laden with subtle compliments, and play hard to get!! This is so they don’t think you’re just after money, and also tell you a bit more about him. Heck, even lie and say you’ve never been with an older guy - that’ll excite him. 

Good question! To be honest, I tell my parents and friends I have a job as an executive assistant to a wealthy investment banker, whichhhhhh is kind of true, I’m just assisting him in other ways, and executive assistants make anywhere between 40k to 65k, without a college degree, per year. Which explains why I’m ballin’ lol while I’m still in school. I also live in Chicago while my parents live in a neighboring state. I know it’s really bad to lie, but it covers up why I travel so much and how much money I make. My parents trust me so when I tell them that, they’ve never questioned it, they’re just like sweetttt we don’t have to pay your bills.

I would never indorse being dishonest but I’m proud of all the nice stuff I have and I don’t want to hide it, but people will begin to question your wealth no matter what, and to admit what you do to anyone else, even though you understand this lifestyle and it’s so beneficial, others will probably not see it that way. So it does have the downsides of having to cover it up a little bit. Even if you hid your money, maybe your mother will ask why you have all of these new clothes or shoes, ect. There will be questions. So unfortunately you will have to tell a little fib- but hey, if you feel like they would understand, tell them the truth, but I wouldn’t. Lol danger, danger.