Lark in the Sky

I am extremely proud of myself for this session and how far I have come. Its so nice to step back and enjoy it vs nitpicking like I always do. 

If you’re “too lazy” to do your research and read up on the plethora of information, advice, tips, etc. you can find here online, you honestly don’t have what it takes to be a sugar baby. 

I’ll probably get a bit of criticism for making this post, but I think it’s important that it’s said…

This is my “Tough Love” post: It’s for the ones who undoubtly have done NO research of their own.

When girls expect me to spoon feed them absolutely everything about sugaring, without making a conscious effort on their end, I just can’t. I would be doing them a complete disservice.

It dramatically reduces their desire to put in any of their own effort. These ladies will never find themselves (AND maintain) a successful SB/SD relationship without putting in any effort. 

A lack of effort can create a lack of appreciation, and devalue the advice they’re receiving. 

If a fellow SB isn’t willing to help themselves by putting in a little effort and doing some research, why should I help them? 

I’m not making this post to sound condescending, but I value my time. I help a ton of other SB’s and answer dozens of asks privately, so I am in no way trying to bash new SB. 

It’s like if you were tutoring a kid to help them with school. If they didn’t read any of the material assigned to them and just asked you for all the answers, would you do all their homework for them? No, you’d tell them to do their reading and come back to you if they still have questions. Same concept!

I’m rooting for everyone here in the Sugar Bowl, but honestly, this lifestyle isn’t for everyone. I don’t mean to put anyone down, but we’ve become a generation of coddlers, where everyone gets a gold star and trophy simply for participating. “You can be anything you want to be…” NO, you can’t! I will NEVER be an astronaut, or professional basketball player.  That’s a fact, so this whole, “Believe it, and you can be it” concept gets taken too far sometimes. 

You need to be realistic with yourself. If you’re too lazy to help yourself and do research, STOP. 

Stop, take a step back, and help yourself first.