What do you think of people who associate Harry and his less aggressive traits with submission and passivity? Lol
for a ship that is supposedly about equals, some people really enjoy positioning harry in narratives as lesser than tom. which is the prerogative of whoever wants that, but i won't claim to understand the appeal.
some people want tom to be weak, but only for harry. and then they want harry to be weak... but more often than not, he's just weak, period.
just as i don't see tom being truly satisfied with ruling over the world once he's conquered it, i also don't see him being satisfied with harry once he's broken him.
to me, there is little to no narrative satisfaction in breaking a character like harry in this way. harry is resilient. he's a fighter. he also isn't so easily tricked, it is a literal point of canon is that he understands tom better than everyone else does. to push him into a passive, submissive role, he might as well not be harry anymore.
tom, however, who thinks himself above emotions like love, who obsesses endlessly over his self image, is much more fun to plague with concepts like submission. that is a transformation that either brings him closer to harry, or drives him further away. the confrontation of vulnerability is always delicious.
the way i see it, tomarry is like...
harry: i can fix him
tom: i can make him worse
except it backfires on both of them. they both make each other worse but in different, unintentionally unhinged ways.
