Casey Cane

So, once again, I wake up and check my messages…..I go to email, go to Smule, go to Facebook, and then to Tumblr, as I lay all cozy in my bed, with my pillows all snugged up around me, still stretching and wiping the sleep from my eyes.  By the time, I get to Tumblr, I am more awake, but still feeling lazy, but I brighten up when I see that I have a message…I have wonderful Tumblr friends, and just recently, have made a few more, but we all are very busy, and can only pop in to chat here and there.  Thus, the excitement.

I get slightly disappointed when I pop over and see that the message is from someone I don’t know, but I am a positive person, so I am hopeful for a new friend, because I love people, and making new friends on Tumblr. I open up the message from @john5291968 and it is a picture/post, but Tumblr has blurred it, because he is not someone I follow…it says tap to see clearly, and of course, I tap, because seriously, who wouldn’t?  And yes, there it is, my friends, the proverbial, unsolicited dick pic…..and it is clearly, happy to see me….protruding out of it’s owner’s jeans, and held proudly by it’s owner’s hand….no message, no face, no pre-dick pic foreplay, just an erect penis…

I look up to the Tumblr name, and I have a vague recollection of this cocknozzle messaging me his willingness to provide me with the use of his cock, when I was joking around on post displaying a soft drink dispenser having a note on it stating “out of cock,” instead of out of coke.  I was joking saying that I needed a t-shirt with this on it, but I didn’t think my Hubs would approve….Ha!Ha!.

Those of you that know me, and follow my blog, know that I am married to a Veteran, and have been for almost 23 years. I joke all the time about our somewhat lackluster, menopausal sex life. I also post Holy Hawt Dude Pics, but never cock portraits, often, and drool on my phone, because I am married, undersexed, and 51 years old, not dead. I am comfortable with my sensuality, love to flirt, and never pass up an opportunity to deliver a sexual innuendo; however, that is not an invitation to be an asshole. Unfortunately, @john5291968 thought my sexual sarcasm was an open-door to offer me the use of his penis with his 1st penis offering message. I chose to just delete the message with no response, because my post was provocative, but I also thought he would get the message, when I didn’t reply or follow. Clearly, I was wrong to assume someone who thinks with his little head, rather than his big one, would have manners.  

I did pop over to his blog, which is most assuredly, a porn blog, which is fine…whatever floats your boat…but chose not to follow, as such, and chose to just ignore…but the dick pic will get @john5291968 blocked, and I want to warn all my beautiful TumblBabes, about this cocknozzle.

However, I also want to offer a message to @john5291968-Most women have no desire to see just a man’s dick…we do not have penis envy, as Sigmund Freud postulated in the early 1900’s.  Don’t get me wrong….I love my husband’s cock, and I really wanted to see it, before I actually did, but that was because it was attached to a gentleman, who honored, treasured, and desired me, as a whole woman, not just a vagina.  If I just want an orgasm, I can get a dildo that has far more stamina and is far more impressive in size than any human cock I have seen or heard of….I do agree with Freud that we are definitely sexually driven creatures, but I also believe that for most women our sexuality is so interwoven into our feelings, and our desire to be loved, wanted, fulfilled(not filled), and needed that we cannot separate our sexual desire from our need for intimate connection.  I am finding more and more, as I get older, my enjoyment of sex is far more about intimacy and connection, than orgasms. It has become more about giving than receiving….if you focus on the intimate connection, rather than sexual prowess and/or how many orgasms you give or receive, the goal becomes more transcendent, more fulfilling…it becomes about painting the soul with Love….for me, ultimately, it will always be about the connection..two souls meeting as one, loving with quiet, but wild abandon…

Clearly, my explanation is far beyond @john5291968, but for the rest of you men out there…take heed…treat women the way you would want a man to approach your sister or your daughter…..you have no chance of competing with the good guys out there, if you choose to do otherwise…cock is easy to get…intimacy is not, and that’s what women want!

Dolly

TumblBabe Alert:

Yes, there are women out there who enjoy and “egg” on pictures of nude men, but this is a mutually consented activity, and frankly, most of these fellows, although, clearly, needing their ego fed, are harmless, like a male-stripper at a bachelorette party. However, the key word is consent-it was asked for…it was solicited.

Story very short, the culture we live in is a big part of the coarsening of civilized discourse, most particularly the internet & most very particularly the absolute inundation of internet-sourced pornography, which is at saturation levels, most very much particularly amongst the younger-ish male portion of tumblr (I make that anywhere from 13 to 30, but that’s just a hazy guess).  Porn is not reality, which is probably not news to any woman over the age of, say, 32.  It seems as though the fellas have fallen for the illusion because they simply don’t know any better (or they desperately want pornographic illusions to reflect real-world reality, even…perhaps especially…when it doesn’t).

And here I said I wasn’t going to run on!  Long story slightly longer, we had to change our intro page to reflect the fact that we were getting unsolicited dick pics to the tune of about 3 or 4 a week.  I’m sure it was meant as flattery (aka “Look how hard you make me, baby”), but that doesn’t excuse the lack of civility in my book.  So on the advice of another lady whom I trust, I started simply deleting them; initially I foolishly posted them in an attempt to be nice & all it did was…you guessed it…encouraged more such behavior when it wasn’t asked for.  That’s in bold because I think it’s important.  Unsolicited is the key word for us.  So we changed our page in the very first few sentences to let all & sundry know that unsolicited dick pics are a no-no & will draw an immediate & forever block.  That’s no bullshit either: I’ve done it in a few cases already for jackwagons who thought I was fucking around.

But…the new policy seems to have had its effect because we get almost none anymore.  Which I think goes to show if you are firm, & clear, & state yourself boldly so that there can be no mistake, you give guys a stark choice of trying to get to know you & carrying on some meaningful discourse or being an idiot & a stupid asshole & getting cut off for good.

Again, thanks for the post, it was wonderful.

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