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Racism is not the only thing black people face in their lifetime. There is also a thing called colorism. It’s not just that they are discriminated because of their race, this is deeper. 

A young African American Stanford Grad Student  Chika Okoro delivered an amazing speech on how colorism affects lives of black people with a darker skin tone. And you should not miss that. 

1. If your significant other claims to, or is known to “have a thing” for men/women of your race.

This is called fetishism, which generally consists of sexual/physical attraction based on stereotypes. For example: the “exotic” Asian/African women stereotype, the sexually potent Black male stereotype… If you’re with someone who just is “into” people of your culture, try asking them why. 

2. If they have a friend with racist views. Birds of a feather typically flock together, and when it comes to things like this, the rule still applies.

3. If they don’t check (educationally confront) those friends when they express those views. What you fail to speak against, is what you ALLOW to happen… I’ll leave it at that.

4. If they don’t bring you around family members. This is sometimes done to shield significant others from discrimination of family members… But beware, the mentalities of family members can be infectious…

5. If they are ignorant of, or not making an effort to learn about you or the history/experiences of people of your ethnicity/culture. Anyone who truly loves/appreciates a person will go out of their way to learn about the cultures which produced this person. That’s a no-brainer. When a person doesn’t make the effort to learn about the societal factors which shape the life of their significant other… that is a problem.

6. If they claim to be “colorblind”, or that “race doesn’t matter” or any of that other so-called post-racial, fake liberal B.S.

A person who says this is lying. They’re not saying that race doesn’t matter to them…. they’re saying that deep analysis of such topics make them uncomfortable and for their sake they’d rather just ignore any differences. As the saying goes “being blind to race is just ignoring something that you already noticed.” 

7. If you refer to dating them, or they refer to dating you as “trying something new”.

Doesn’t sound right to me… If you want to “try something new” try a new pair of shoes, or a new show on Netflix… But you don’t romantically try other ethnicities as if they’re flavors of Ice Cream, you experience people for who they are.

8. If you seem to be the only person of your race that they are fond of.

Do I need to explain this one?

9. If they cosign your criticisms of your ethnicity

I’ m not really a person who is big on criticizing members of my race when I’m around people outside of my race. Some discussions should stay “in the house” metaphorically speaking. But if you must talk about these kinds of these, your significant other should just be a listening ear. Anything more is out of line.

10. If they cannot, will not, are afraid to, or unable to have discussions on racism.

hey guys!! 

so since i’m a rising senior i’ve been working hard all summer in preparation for applying to colleges this coming fall. throughout the duration, i’ve found some amazing websites to help you through the process, and resources i think are worthwhile to check out. 

email

set up an email specifically for colleges (best to do this before/during junior year) b/c

your inbox will overflow with college emails

you will hate yourself if you don’t

use it as your email for college-oriented websites you sign up for

put it on interest cards you fill out during college fairs/visits

colleges are going to email/spam you 24/7 just direct them here honestly

google drive

make a folder for college

put your essays in there

you can share essays with editors really easily this way

make a spreadsheet of all the colleges you are applying too with categories like size, type, location, etc. 

make a list of achievements, awards, teams, clubs/extracurriculars, etc. that you can refer back to during applications

make sure to have an emergency flashdrive with your important college documents on it

finding colleges & stats

cappex: helps find colleges that fit you, calculates admissions chances, helps you plan college visits, helps with scholarship search, etc.

through cappex you can access meritaid, a great scholarship resource

naviance: a college readiness worksite site that does a ton and is basically a combination of every single site listed. it’s used through your school, normally, so get in contact with your counselor about making an account

unigo: this site gives reviews/advice/experience from current or former college students regarding the school they attended, and also offers tips and tutorials for admission from professionals, plus a college database

collegenavigator: exactly what it sounds like. this site has a ton of info on schools and it’s really easy to use

collegeboard: general resource! 

collegedata: lots of statistics and overviews of schools

collegeresults: shows the graduation rates of colleges

collegeinsight: gives info about affordability, diversity, and student success

admitted.ly: this is an awesome website (and app) for matching you with schools, and it’s really organized/manageable as well

collegeniche: this is basically yelp for colleges. reviews for students, by students, about specific colleges

organization/tracking

overgrad: tracks college and career goals

makemeafreshman: this website is an actual godsend. enter all the colleges you are applying to (including what type, such as early action, early decision, etc.), and it will generate a schedule of things you need to do and specific dates they need to be done by (submitting fees, completing the commonapp and FAFSA, etc.)

scholarship oriented

posse: organization that identifies gifted scholars, then groups them into “posses” by region, and hands out full scholarships to top colleges 

questbridge: links exceptional students (esp. low-income) with colleges, scholarship providers, enrichment programs, and employers

college greenlight: amazing for finding scholarships to apply for (they can find a scholarship for anything), plus does college matches based on criteria you give

majors

collegemajors101: provides info about a variety of majors, like course requirements, career options, etc.

i’ll definitely keep adding to this list, and if you have any questions about the sites or have some you think should be added, please message me!

remember, the best thing you can do is get things done early. summer’s not over yet and there is still a lot of time between now and application due dates. make the most of it! get organized, and get educated about college.

❤ Hi Guys! ❤

So it’s been awhile since I made a post to appreciate all of you for making me laugh and overall making this site as bearable as possible all the way up to 2k16 and helping me get close to 2K (also excuse this shitty edit). I have alot of non-mutuals on here that I’ve following for years that put a smile on my face and also help me get through the day and I wanted show them love as well! There are so many of you that I wish I talked to frequently and just tell you how much I appreciate you! Okay, I don’t wanna be an emotion heaux but again thanks so much for the fun memories and helping me get through with the surrounding support!!!

❤ bold = fave mutuals, strike = blogs that I love dearly and low key stalk daily ❤

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@6drizzy6 , 

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@abelshair, @abnormalfangirl, @antidisscourse, @aubreyownsthisass, @benwinstagram,  @beynoceknowels, @bitcht1, @brennuh , @browneyedbabe ,  @bus1talk, @caramelho, @carribbeanhoe ,  @champagnepadre , @champagnespop @champagnezaddy , @chicani, @chonceinalifetime , @coldpressedharry , @completebabe,  @darkskinheaux , @dihanjane,  @dominicanhoe , @drakecantdance,  @drakechurch @drakesideheaux , @dreamsmp3 ,

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@fakethiccharry, @fcktwigs, @feelingformation,  @fondzouis, @freddieslilgranny , @frogmeme , @girlalmihgty , @haylorwasfake , @hinduheaux, @hoesofcolor , @harrysalbum , @harryedward , @harrystiddyofficial , @harrywildin ,  

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@im21, @importedmuslim , @irlsiren , @j4ya,  @jadelust , @jawllines,  @justinsblackgf , @lcuigi , @leighsgf, @liamheaux,  @limpnudeharry , @louyouwhore , 

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@makeupho, @march27-th , @matteangel, @mattyfromawkward, @mexicanbab, @mexicanho,  @mindofminealbum , @mindofzmine , @mothernicki, @mrbulian, @myzallah,  @niallsblackgirlfriend ,  @niallthedinglehopper ,@nigerians ,  @pansexualpapi , @persianho @preordermindofmineonitunes , @problematicassharry, @purchasepillowtalk,  @pussypoptarts, 

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@rbmichael, @rosehighlighter , @smallthot,  @smoline , @sofaries,  @sugasmom , @thatgaptoothedbitch , @thicbrows , @thotprobs , @tittytenda,  

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@uneducatedharry, @winemom1972 , @waryblackgirl 

✿ Y & Z ✿

how to protect your home against break-ins

effortlessly earn $50-100 from surveys online

reasons to take a foreign language

harsh truths

questions to ask in an interview

getting an apartment

list of jobs based on social interaction levels

long distance relationships: how to stay in contact

how to find a college

marriage

how to ask for a recommendation letter

how to choose a college major

what to do if your wallet is stolen/lost

budgeting

how to write a cover letter

how to handle a phone interview

how to get a copy of your birth certificate

first-time flying tips

Me and tumblr user opwagun have been thinking about starting up a new hashtag for native people and other indigenous people as well (of south America, Australia, Pacific Islanders if they would like too, etc.) Took a while to think of a name but I think this one will be good, not intended to offend any older activists at all, the name is chosen because of the struggles that our people continue to go through and are still overcoming. I don’t know how well it will take off and am kind of worried about being in over my head with this, but I really think it is a good idea!

#TheReturnofRedPower

Basically this hashtag is starting up for native people to be a platform to post pictures/selfies of themselves (or just text posts) along with a story or struggle they have encountered throughout their life as an indigenous person. Also speaking out on our issues, activism, and native news related issues. I will be reblogging selfies in the tag and that kind of thing! I think this will be a good platform for native people to use our voices. I know the #REDPOWER tag is also pretty active but since this is a new hashtag the scrolling will be smaller and easier to navigate and is meant for more so personal posts!:) this hashtag is in no way meant to overtake that hashtag and again not meant to offend any older native activists!!