gender pareidolia

hi. for the sake of this blog, you can call me a shortened version of my username, core. this is a sideblog, i do not follow people back from my main, and no you cannot know my main either. quarantine.

i am white, disabled (both physically and in other ways, which i'd prefer not to disclose beyond that), trans (obviously?), and located in the US (help).

pronouns are e/eir/em or it/its.

cagab is a fuck, i'm not telling you. if that makes you mad, cope. same goes for tme/tma; while i see the purpose and use of the latter terms, how they're actually used in practice most of the time do not reflect the actual intent of their creation and i will not be party to furthering that until people get their shit together. if they get their shit together.

this blog largely exists to discuss trans community issues that are specific to the niche tumblr ecosystem.

i will post/comment about anything that seems to pop up/catch my eye regarding "discourse" and try to tag accordingly as needed. i'll add any tags that become regulars to my blog.

🚫 ICE & PRO-ICE SUPPORTERS, TERFS, RADFEMS, TRANSPHOBES IN GENERAL, NAZIS, FASCISTS, ZIONISTS, QOS, CHASERS, AND ALL OTHER FORMS OF BIGOTRY & HATE NOT EXPLICITLY COVERED HERE 🚫

🚫 YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE. 🚫

this pride month i am encouraging everyone on tumblr who gives a shit about feminism to read the original article about intersectionality by kimberle crenshaw, the Black woman who coined the term.

read it once. read it twice. save it. keep it in your archives.

it deserves to be read and remembered, and her definition of intersectionality deserves to be read from with her words and examples rather than summarized by other people who may not fully understand.

this is regardless of your opinions on anything. inform yourself. educate yourself. enrich yourself. i don't care how you need to get it done, read it directly. you will be all the better for it.

to be the target of misogyny even if one is not a woman; to have misogyny enacted upon oneself due to being seen as female through the lens of society

like i don't want to tell you a lot of that shit. quite frankly most of that shit is none of your business. you don't need to know a vast majority of things that are much more exclusive to my medical professionals, and that is doubly moreso the case as someone who is a stranger on the internet carrying inherent biases instantly applied to whatever you read about someone in their bio.

"afro-indigenous intersex nonbinary transfem. hm, but are you really a trans woman? what's in your pants, huh? where's TME/TMA? where's agab? huh? huh? h"

"oh, this person is... a white afab they/them nonbinary transneut individual. okay, birthday boy hitler. blocked."

"let's see. white puppygirl TMA transfeminist she/her siscon. clearly a real life actual pedophile, i will not look deeper into this person's blog to investigate if this is actually the case"

"hispanic cafab pansexual trans man. biphobic fake trans who's really a transmisogynistic terf because all intersex people in the community are terfs"

do you see my point. this isn't parodying anyone specific, it's just shit i've seen repeatedly.

this is not how intersectionality works.

this is not how any legitimate branch of feminism should work.

the moment you become insular (in any community) and refuse to release your biases from your heart and perception, you—yes, you—are perpetuating the same violence which has been perpetuated upon you.

just because it isn't physical or is phrased within the context of supposed theory/praxis does not make it any less harmful.

remember that if you want more anonymity from your governments, socmeds, and ISPs (which you should), you also want them from each other in public spaces. you can discuss theory without half-doxxing yourself on the internet every time you speak.

i leave you with this video.

now, do i think this is necessarily an incorrect response? no, tara knight's article was fucking nasty as well as a joke of an "article" that attacked the crime of daring to be disabled and a trans women. which is fundamentally incompatible in her eyes, as to be transfem, to be a trans woman, you cannot be disabled, because to be disabled you must be cared for, and that is actually just learned helplessness, a male trait. so, yknow, fuck her.

but i think it's interesting to see rhetoric changing and i'm seeing posts like "if a transfem with a platform does something terrible, it's okay to just block her, you don't have to post about it or defend her for being transfem despite her doing something/being terrible" which would have been awesome to see for previous fiascos (regardless of how you feel about whatever comes to mind).

like i think we could all do a little better with more of this, and that's not because i'm "a dirty harasser who wants transfems to suffer" or whatever. but because there's been a lot of people who have been dishonest with each other and themselves about their feelings out of a sense of obligation to defend their controversial tgirl idols despite not actually having their hearts in it.

i don't think it's that surprising that this change is only surfacing after someone looked up to within the community has turned on them and spouted such vile rhetoric that it can't be ignored. i don't know what it means for the future. i do think, though, that it was kind of inevitable, from someone, somewhere.

it does make me very sad though. like, believe what you want about me and this blog, but i don't actually like seeing people hurt, transgirls included, especially "puppygirls".

i generally don't go here but all i'm really gonna say is that teenagers dating teenagers while actively in high school is. normal? it's normal. there's no world where that isn't normal. you don't become a perfect adult with a fully formed frontal lobe the moment the clock strikes midnight on your 18th birthday. you are in fact still a teenager even at age nineteen. wow crazy i know

i don't know much about any of you people (and fyi i don't want to know more, don't tell me more, i will block anyone who gives me unsolicited information i did not ask for ⚠️) but i do know some things, and the important thing i do know is that britt is a victim of grooming. that much is blatantly clear.

viciously going after a victim of grooming to the point of blatantly ignoring basic logic and common sense as some kind of "gotcha" against her because you (checks notes) ...do not like her, just. discounts your entire presence in any space you try to carry yourself in that actually takes this shit seriously instead of just a popcorn fest. you know that, right? fuck, i sure hope you do!

besides, the "evidence" of regret that you keep performatively begging for is easily found. it is no one's fault but your own that you refuse to let go of the narrative you have built up.

i don't care if britt is a "good" or a "bad" person. i don't know her. what i do care about are facts and there's a lot of pretty big lack of that here on the "accuser's" side of things. truthfully this is just a catfight no one even wants to bear witness to.

there are far better ways to resolve (or not resolve, i guess) your problems without deciding to try to falsely pedojacket the grooming victim in public, one who has already expressed regret and explanation years ago for her actions anyway.