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thinking about how the word "haunt" can act as a synonym for both "pursuit" and "dwelling"

be careful what you allow to make a home in you

i do think a lot of implausible medieval plot devices make more sense when considering the fact that these people simply did not have glasses

like the king arthur problem of how were these people always accidentally sleeping with the wrong person? well 1) no glasses 2) no lights and candles are so expensive 3) royal couples didn’t even sleep in the same bed a lot of the time anyway 4) arranged marriage how much do you really know your spouse anyway? maybe not very well a lot of the time 5) people are drinking a lot idk. maybe not as absurd as one might think

this post is brought to you by the one time i woke up at a sleepover and realized that without my glasses i could not distinguish one friend from the other. haunting. all of arthurian literature was unlocked to me at that moment

the way trans folks innocuous jokes get misinterpreted and turned into discourse should be studied. a while back i remember seeing jokes like "if you know my deadname no you dont" or "closing my eyes when sending my trans friend money so I dont read their deadname" well some folks must have seen those jokes and thought "ohh its transphobic to know someone's deadname" and thats why this year i saw someone in an argument say "why would you, as their partner, know their deadname? 🤨" huh??

I don't know who needs to hear this, but do not ever, ever, ever let someone guilt you into not transitioning. "But you're so pretty! You'll ruin your lovely body!" "But you're my [son/daughter/boyfriend/girlfriend/mom/dad/etc.]; I can't see you any other way!" "But we need more [badass butch lesbians/women in STEM/etc.] to show women that they can do anything!" "But we need good men like you to promote healthy masculinity!" <- None of these are reasons not to transition. Transition is for you, not for others. Other peoples' indignation or sadness over your transition is not your burden to bear, and other peoples' expectations for you are not moral obligations you must fulfill. Do not live to fit inside a prescribed role in somebody else's life. You must live for yourself. Please transition.

I hate how women get so much flack for being older parents and men don’t. Do NOT mention the biological aspect because there is a higher rate of birth defects in children with older fathers too. I get so pissed off whenever I see a man over 45 (often 50+, sometimes 60+) talking about how he thinks he’s finally ready to settle down and start a family OR WORSE YET, leave his childfree relationship because he suddenly realized he wanted children. It would be a bit more understandable if these guys were looking for age appropriate women to settle down with but the guys that suddenly decide they want to be a father once they’re brushing up against middle age always want to impregnate a woman in her 20s or early 30s because they think women their age are ‘all used up’ and they are somehow…not? The general vibe of selfishness makes it difficult for me to believe you will be a good father and I hope your child comes home one way and asks you to stop coming to their school events because all of their peers call you ‘Grandpa Dad’.