Having a Little With PTSD Means…
Knowing their triggers and how to avoid them
Their regression may not be voluntary
Knowing what a flashback looks like for them and how to safely bring them out of a flashback
Staying with them during and after flashbacks, no matter how scary it may be for you (it is infinitely more scary for them)
Learning regulated breathing techniques and going through them with your little if they begin to hyperventilate
Understanding that things such as pet names or touch may be a trigger for them, and respecting that
Never, ever, guilting or mocking their triggers. Anything can be a trigger, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem to you
Never pressuring or forcing them to tell you about their trauma. It is none of your business unless they feel safe and comfortable telling you
Helping them discern what is real and what is not during flashbacks
Apologising if you accidentally trigger them (Yes, you still need to apologise even if you didn’t mean to)
Building super special forts that are protected by magic (Bad things can’t get into magic forts, that’s why they are special)
Always having comfort items on hand, always
Helping them unsterstand where they are
Never punish them for things they do or say during a flashback
Being prepared for flashbacks to happen when they are regressed, and understanding how to deal with that (remember, when they are regressed they are a child)
Stepping back if they become scared of you during an episode. It is nothing that you did and they know that, but you pushing them and trying to explain why they should not be scared will not help the situation
Protecting them from the person who is the cause of their trauma if that person is still around (ex. family)
Being prepared to comfort them after nightmares, and not being upset if they wake you up screaming or wake you up for comfort / because they are scared
Reminding them that they are not a burdon and that they are valid
Learning how to express your love in ways other than touch (learning a new love language)
Reminding them that you will always do your best to keep them safe (and so will their stuffies)
Asking them what you can do to help. Communication is very, very important. PTSD is a complicated thing and sometimes you won’t be able to help, that is okay. Your love and support is still highly important. Always, always, always encourage them to seek help from a mental health professional. PTSD will never just “go away” and it needs to be treated by a professional who can safely teach them coping mechanisms and help them to understand their triggers, flashbacks, and trauma!
