Thereās so much to unpack here, starting with the obvious fact that you didnāt actually read my post, so to help you understand my rebuttal, Iām going to use bullet points.
I dumped Allan the second I dumped you.
I was never abusive to you when we were friends, I was one of the nicest to you besides Alana and stood up for you to Ryan (heāll even confirm).
You got all those donuts and shit for free, and I got mad at you for spilling my hot chocolate because 1. I told you to watch out for it because you sat down and put your foot near it and 2. you refused to clean it and it was a large, and sticky, and was all under Alanaās bed, and you didnāt even care enough to apologize to them.Ā
I got mad at you (different than treating you like shit, not like I expect you to even know the difference anymore) when my bike lock went missing because you REFUSED to set it up, and then when I asked for it you tried to play the āI gave it to youā game. So I demanded the money to replace it (my impoverished mother paid $40 for it so my bike wouldnāt get stolen again) and YOU and Allan both spent the money your mommy gave you to pay me back, and its not my problem that Allan spent the money by himself the second or third time. And I said Iād FIGHT you because you and Allan said you were going to fight me, I never threatened your life, and I never tried to āforce you into prostitutionā. And with the whole prostitution thing, I was pissed because you FORCED me to give you my bike lock and bike (cried to me that you needed to get to CCAP in a few minutes, because you DIDNāT WANT to leave on time, and then threw a pissy fit because I wouldnāt let you use my brand new bike) and then lost my lock and told me you wouldnāt pay for it, so I said āgo ask mommy or go into prostitution like you wanted toā, because you had the money, you just didnāt want to pay for it, because⦠the bike lock was found by Alanaās parents in their living room in your belongings, along with your cigarettes, cigar box, gloves, etc.Ā
You stayed at Alanaās a few times, once after eating a shit ton of icing after you mother literally told you to leave it alone, and then Alana had to clean up the mess you made for yourself in that situation. At the time, you and Alana knew each other, sure, but you werenāt close, you just need someone to clean up your mess for you. Ryan didnāt leave a mess, and he only had a backpack worth of shit. He didnāt eat all their food, and Alanaās parents love him because heās respectful. I knew Alana by the time I stayed at their house for emergency sanctuary, I didnāt bring every single one of my belongings, and I constantly used what little food stamps and money I had to buy food for the house. You however, stunk up the entire house with your foot stench (that still haunts the rugs), left messes in every room (one that was so bad it prompted Alanaās mom to clean it up, and caused Alana to have a full blown anxiety attack), left a cum stain on the mattress even after being told NOT to masturbate in that room, and then simply just being asked to use a god fucking towel, and left your (uncleaned) penis prosthetic and (uncleaned) light saber that you used to masturbate with on the floor in Alanaās room and different places in the house. You ate all of the food in the cupboards and refused to replace anything you ate, but would instead use the money your mom gave you (which was every week) to buy yourself McDonaldās and Dunkinā Donuts every day (and that one ridiculously expensive burger place).Ā
I never said wealthy parents are less abusive, but you stayed in contact with them in order to get money from them. I literally remember thinking āmy mom would actually kill me if I talked to her like that and I wouldnāt blame herā when you called your mom and DEMANDED her for money SHE EARNED while you were talking shit about and to her and refusing to go home. Honestly, it seemed like you abused them.Ā
You never had to steal. You had more money than me or Ryan and had literally everything you needed AND always went back to your house to get more. Once you came with me to the supermarket when I went to buy food for the house, and you stole garlic and ate it ājust because you felt like itā. You stole dog food, jewelry, so many gloves, a leather jacket and an ugly t-shirt (from a thrift store which poor people need to buy from), hundreds of dollars worth of clothes (including womenās clothes that you never wore), wireless headphones, chargers you didnāt need, and yarn which you forced Alana to steal for you (not like it was the first or only time). You crammed up Alanaās house with all your shit and left no room for me, I had one pile of belongings that I always kept out of the way. And you literally told me that you guys always go to Walmart to steal, you called it ācollectingā. You told us when you wanted to go and would complain until we went. And I literally asked ALLAN to steal a pair of toenail clippers for me ONCE because I needed them and wouldāve gotten caught. No one ever asked you to steal for them. If you wanna talk about shit you needed to steal; Alana begged you to steal yourself some toothpaste and a toothbrush but you refused, you wouldnāt even get mouthwash. Dude, you even stole shit you didnāt need from family-owned businesses.
You made us steal from your house. You told us it was yours and your parents stole money from you so it was only right. You pushed us to take more and more, even when I kept asking āare you SURE this is okayā and āare you SURE they wonāt get madā in which you kept saying everything would be fine and theyāre too rich to care. Allanās the only one who stole from your house when you were admitted and we hate him almost just as much. Iām glad youāre in trouble. You need to take some responsibility for something.Ā
I never said your parents didnāt abuse you, proving you didnāt read my post and youāre looking for pity points.Ā
I donāt care about your ābrandsā I have a bunch too, and you donāt see me pulling them out every time something doesnāt go my way.Ā
āLove is a distractionā is something you got from graffiti in our city.Ā
Itās literally possible to reschedule a GED test without consequence, and again, Alana told you to leave on time and you told them āno.ā
I donāt ride the red bike, you did, and so I had no reason to go look at it, but once I did I saw the gear shift was MISSING and heavily questioned literally everyone who even touched it. It was you.Ā
Allan stole your momās laptop and I donāt know what happened to the guitar, do you. And so none of that is my problem lmao.Ā
Some of your shit is STILL in Alanaās house, but weāre getting rid of it finally. By the way, I was invited to live here by Alanaās parents because unlike you, I am respectful, clean, and put food in the house.Ā
I already made this point, but just to recap; the bike lock was found by Alanaās parents in your shit in the living room, I threatened to fight you because you stole my bike lock and then you and Allan threatened me, and then sarcastically told you to ask your mom and prostitute yourself because you literally had the means to get me my money. BTW you canāt get statutorily raped if youāre older than 15. And Ryan never said he stopped me from killing you. ALLAN is the one that tried to convince me to jump you with him for like a whole hour while I was actively saying that Iām not going to outnumber you and fuck you over.Ā
Allan spending the money isnāt my problem, itās yours and his.Ā
I never said your mom didnāt hit you.
Finding headless nude pictures of your dadās present or (most likely, since the quality is bad) past girlfriend doesnāt make her your birth mom lol and having dark nipples doesnāt make you Asian or even non-white. Lots of white people have dark nipples.Ā
No one said pay rent. We said to replenish the food you scarfed down your throat 24/7.
I was friends with Alana way longer than 5 days by the time I got forced out of my house, and THEY convinced ME to live there and stay.Ā
Well, you donāt want your fake suicide attempt on Tumblr? Ryan didnāt want you posting and talking about his sexual assault (even if you didnāt say his name) anywhere but you did it anyway, a lot, even after he STRESSED to you explicitly that he DIDNāT consent.Ā
You told two different versions of the story, so get it straight with yourself. Also if youāre seventeen (17) now, and moved here five (5) years ago, then you came here when you were twelve (12),Ā and so have been fifteen (15) years old in Providence. Equation: 17-5=12 & 12<15
You canāt feel your brain, Tobias. No one can. Thatās why youāre awake and non-medicated during brain surgery. I donāt even need to tell you how you canāt figure out youāre nonbinary from masturbating.Ā Get help for your lying.Ā
We have proof from that time period and before talking about how you were trans and, more specifically, ānot a girlā. Also, homophobia?? ok.Ā
I never said all your trauma is fake but okay.Ā
I never said only. Iām referring to YPI ā13 and underā nights. Itās wrong because 17-18 year olds shouldnāt be FRIENDS with 14(-) year olds. A mentor, yes, not a friend. Thereās such a mental age gap and I shouldnāt have to explain to you why its damaging to the child. Youāre an extremely sexual person who only talks about your own trauma and sex with ANYONE who will talk to you. Younger people donāt need to hear about this shit. You shouldnāt be letting 13-year-olds āpet youā.Ā
That link (that isnāt a reliable source ANYWAY, and every reliable source says the only group of people who CAN experience Stockholm Syndrome are those who have been the victim of a violent kidnapping, and even then, only a very small percent of that group actually develop SS.) says that victims of child abuse should be able to UNDERSTAND what SS feels like. It does not say that child abuse victims can experience Stockholm Syndrome.Ā
Financial Abuse refers to forcing someone to give you money/gifts through manipulation (usually a SPOUSE), youāre thinking of alleged neglect.Ā
I wonāt lie here, I donāt believe your parents āmedically abusedā you since the school wouldāve been forced to report you being violently sick all the time (that literally happened to me AND its a nationwide law and HEAVILY enforced).
āI had to work on that farm to pay for foodā, you mean why everyone else works?? People work to pay for things! Kids (usually of color) have to get jobs very early!! To pay for food!! Wild!!
Iām not in competition with you, I just hate people who make up stories for pity. I am, literally poorer than you since I do not have access to money from mommy and daddy because they do not have money. Youāve said yourself your parents are āextremely wealthy (and thatās why we could steal from them)ā. So you admit to being white? Good. And I NEVER said white people canāt be mentally ill or traumatized, I live with two white/white passing mentally ill people, and Iāve never invalidated their struggles.Ā
You were texting me in the ambulance saying that you were going to be strapped down and you were scared, I comforted you by telling you I was strapped down to the stretcher on the way to the hospital and that itās normal and itās procedure. I was literally comforting you and you said I helped, but you know, turn me into the demon you need me to be.Ā
You claimed to be called the N-word at least 3 times on either one of your blogs, You have said that you ARE Asian, which we all know youāre not, and claimed for this to have disrupted your childhood. Now, itās great that you admit to adopting other peopleās trauma as your own because thatās exactly what you did here. Ryan had brought up with us for a great while now that his mother would mistreat him when he resembled his (black) father, so whenever he got a tan and pulled back his hair, his mother would refuse to acknowledge him. He was born darker than expected because he IS mixed, and that made his openly racist mother upset. Tobias, thereās nothing wrong with being white, but there is EVERYTHING wrong with pretending not to be, and making up stories of being called slurs. Youāre an asshole.Ā
Iāll admit to misspeaking here, to correct myself;Ā you said that you got called the N-word and that in response, youāre going to āsip your Asia manufactured tea and praise Black Jesusā. Which is just, problematic in itself. Youāre praising sweatshops, admitting you know nothing about Jesusās heritage, and fetishizing black culture all in one.Ā
When we lived together you literally washed your hair ONCE. You didnāt even do it on the rare occurrence when you showered. Iāve felt your hair when dying it black (we never bleached your hair, there was no reason to.), and its the thinnest, blondest, most caucasian hair Iāve ever worked with, and Iāve styled tons of White, Asian, Spanish, and Black hair.Ā
You didnāt shower JUST because you didnāt want to, I asked if there was a reason you didnāt want to shower when we first starting living together and you said ānoā. And itās not like you wouldāve just kept from me since you unconsentedly dropped all your trauma on me when we first met and then continued to do so throughout our entire friendship. And Iām not creepy for hating that my room now permanently smells like your feet and ass because you didnāt feel like bathing yourself. Also, Alanaās father was and is pissed that all the rugs in his house have an un-cleansable stench from your, and only your, feet (and ass), so is he a creep too?
You have a white savior complex, Tobias and all of us talk about it all the time, I canāt source your entire personality, can I? I never tried to make it look like you said shit food (also love how you censored that one cuss but nothing else), I know it said spicy, I was commenting on how PoC donāt have a better tolerance for spiciness, its cultural, which is why adopted kids donāt have a better tolerance unless theyāre exposed to the culture, which is why as a kid I hated anything with a mild spice but now season all my food to the point of having to eat alone without Ryan (who is a white-raised mixed person who cant handle spices.)
I donāt hate you because youāre white, I hate you because youāre a pity-searching, manipulative, lying, abusive, PoC-fetishizing piece of shit who wonāt leave MY friends alone.Ā
You donāt have a day job, you were fired for slacking off and then trying to blame it all on not having coffee (Iām writing all of this and functioned all day without any caffeine and while withdrawing because Iām actually caffeine addicted says my DOCTOR,) and told Alana you werenāt going to find a job until you were āfully transitionedā which doesnāt make any sense and shows how much a privileged, entitled, little brat you are. (Also boo-hoo youāre so poor that you can put off working until youāre ādone transitioningā)
Youāve gaslit and abused them. I could list all the examples just from the past year of you treating them like your own personal monkey, but the video Iām going to attach will say it all.Ā
I yelled at you when you purposely triggered me, ignored my wishes, and stole/broke my belongings. I insulted you when we were no longer friends and I saw you for what you truly are. I have tons of video examples of you saying āIām going to kill myselfā as a reaction to a joke or situation, since thatās what we all say, and I didnāt say āTobias you literally make me want to kill myself.ā I said, āOH MY GOD Iām gonna COMMITā and then laughed. I yelled at you when you played a triggering song, and then I told you it triggered me because of Edward and asked you to turn it off,Ā you REFUSED because āyou liked that songā. I yelled because I was having flashbacks and you refused to simply turn off that dumb song because you donāt actually care about anyone but yourself.Ā
You were leeching off of Alana. We were both living there, but I kept my space and self clean, I fed myself with my own self-bought food and even bought food for the house, I was polite and respectful to Alana, their parents, and their house.Ā
I got mad at you because you wouldnāt let me explain the difference between broke and poor. You were broke, I am poor. You got money EVERY WEEK (everyone can attest to this), I struggled just to eat. My family is systematically poor, your family has a great fucking life. Thatās the difference.
I got pissed because I said most, if not all, white-Americans are part Native American but that doesnāt get to count because the small, small, percentage is there because of rape and colonization and then you got ass-hurt and defended your 1/32nd part Native.
I didnāt even know about the Ingrid thing until now so thereās no possible way I couldāve physically yelled at you for it (nice made up story, bro), and we have documented proof that you were out (and proud) as transgender and more specifically not a girl to your friends, teacher, and classmates, and you told your friends that you were going to tell Ingrid you were a girl so you could ādate and kiss herā. BTW, you started testosterone 4 months later SO you wouldāve, by law, had to have had documented Gender Dysphoria for at least 6 months.
Again, I only yelled at you when you were triggering Alana ON PURPOSE, triggering me, or being ungrateful and abusive; so if you felt that you couldnāt talk at all because I always yelled at you, thatās says a lot about your character.Ā
I just highlighted that passage to prove youāre a liar and you know it. Iām sorry I donāt fetishize and romanticize mental illness like you do. Sorry, I believe in treatment instead of building up and breaking.Ā
Those pictures were on public, and you said you like showing people your Pre-T photos, AND YOUāVE POSTED ALL OF THOSE TO YOUR TUMBLR BEFORE. Again, you stole that story from Ryan, just like you did with me. And your hair is blonde, very blonde, very very blonde. And my hair isnāt straight, I have Cuban waves, you just saw it when it was so damaged it was breaking off, but even then it curled. (Also Iām Afro-Cuban and Latinx, get it right.)Ā
Youāre still racist. You fetishize black women and its disgusting. It goes beyond having a type. You objectify and sexualize them and it makes everyone extremely uncomfortable. And donāt even try to tell ME what racism is.Ā
āStalkedā, āMonths agoā, You donāt have many photos up, maybe once a month. I didnāt dig for those at all. Nice try though. And I didnāt make it up, you even admit to going to the 13 and Under nights and youāre only 18 so, you hurt yourself there, buddy. And I already covered the other things.Ā
Again, you posted them yourself, both on your public Instagram with followers that you donāt personally know, and on your Tumblrs.Ā
I didnāt stalk you, Iām not a creep like you.Ā
And youāre right, you started T JUST AFTER you dated her, proof you were out since you wouldāve had to been.Ā
And you treat your family like shit, Iāve only seen you talk down to your mother and financially abused her. (Because BY DEFINITION, you do.)
Iām a nonbinary, intersex, bi/ace 18-year-old person of color who goes to a queer/PoC-centered youth support/hang out center. I receive help and recourses and meet people MY AGE with similar interests. Tuesday-Wednesday is meant for 14-23 year olds, and Thursday evening is meant for children 13 and under (Itās called 13 and Under). I go on T-W, you go on Thursday evenings and stay to hang out with little kids and push your toxicity on them. I guess you could say thereās a difference between us.Ā
I never brought up your motherās threats. Also, Allan told me, not Alana. And again, never threatened you with death or prostitution.Ā
I stole when you brought me there and told me to do so. I asked you if what I took was okay and didnāt take anything before getting the āOKā from you. Alana, Ryan, and I are not responsible for any of Allanās actions, as we have pushed him out of our lives too, and we donāt plan to ever talk to him again. I threatened to fight you after you and Allan threatened me, and then when you refused to pay for the bike lock my impoverished, struggling mother bought me for Christmas.
You didnāt pay me back. You and Allan spent that money several different times. If rent is owned and a woman gives her husband the money to go pay it, but instead the husband spends it on cigars and beer, that does not mean that the rent is paid, it means that the husband is a shitty person with no sense of responsibility.Ā
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ATTACHMENTS: Video proof of:
-Tobias jokingly saying āIām going to kill myselfā and tying a noose around his neck.
-Tobias leaving his dirty penis prosthetic (that I gifted him) around
-Psychologically abusing Alana during a psychotic episode for his own amusement (after theyāve told him not to!)
-Sitting on top of a touch-triggered friend who said not to.