call it you and me

#i was writing down some thoughts on femmephobia which naturally bled into pornophobia#which bled into how misogyny and sex negativity go hand in hand because patriarchy#at least the kind prevalent in western eurasia#associates sex(ual desire) with the body with emotion with women#and because people classed as women perform immense reproductive/gestational labor#and because that is such a defining part of the role-identity womanhood becomes inseparable#from the act of sex itself. and sex becomes the prototypical heterosocial act#it represents THE moment of male/female interaction and as such#the blurring of the binary and the sensory and bodily#and so it is an experience that is powerful and must be heavily controlled#heterosex MUST be a Patriarchal Act because if it isnt it becomes a profound threat#and again the class of woman becomes so defined by its reproductive labor#while hypothetically male homosocial spaces are if not non-sexual than other-things-besides sexual#so sexuality can and does exist in male homosocial spaces but it is not defining#this connects to pornophobia because sex workers exist outside the typical identityrole of women as daughterwifemother#they perform sexual and emotional labor but in the role of a wife and without performing reproductive labor#(& are PAID for it making it explicitly labor unlike a housewife whose labor is unpaid and unrecognizable)#so in a sexphobic patriarchy they represent the most excessive uncontrolled form of womanhood and are thus reviled

“transition poses some ethical questions. Such as, from what age should you be allowed to irreversibly change your body.“

This is all completely true and correct, of course, but on the topic of changes that irreversibly change a child’s body, prithee, go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

I was a ballet dancer (among other styles of dance) for 10-11 years, starting at age 6-7ish. I loved it, but not enough to make a career out of it. Dance was just a way to exercise is a fun way.