cali💫

Hi!✌🏼Newly 28, new profile to match.

Mum of 2

Married

External age: 38

Internal age: 78

Level of sleep deprivation: Makeup neaarly doesn't cover it up

Level of boob sag: possibly enough to make my husband sad

Directions postbreastfeeding nipples point: East and west

Pelvic floor strength: can pee a bit with a sneeze

Level of care given to fashion: Kmart

Level of self care: celebrates a solitary undisturbed poop

Social activity: If truly necessary

We spent our Lunar New Year with our lovely friends (which is fast becoming a yearly ritual 😆) had great food, great company surrounded by love.

The past year, I watched my son grow as did my garden and learnt that where there is balance in nature, everything will flourish. It applies to everything in life.

Generally people are really nice about it, might just look in the direction of the scream and smile at him and give me an empathetic, understanding smile. HOWEVER. The last couple of times I've been out, once in a cafe and another time today just getting a quick sushi lunch, BOTH times 2 miserable old women with the most miserable sour puss faces have decided to SHUSH MY SON and give me the most annoyed look like I've interrupted their much needed nanna nap.

I never thought much for simplifying my life, I used to love to wear colour, even colour through my hair and crazy make up. Not that I don't love it anymore, but I find that when I pare back on these things that I find more time to focus and concentrate on what's more important, this stuff that's going on in my head.

I have bouts of anxiety and when it hits, it hits hard.

I struggle a lot with many unpleasant memories from my childhood up till when I first entered adulthood. Domestic violence, sexual harrasmemt and the list goes on. I'm sure there're plenty of us do.

Since becoming a mum it has really pushed me considering the kind of childhood I'd like my kids to experience. And I only want the simplest joys and happiness from them. But now I have to work hard, really really hard on myself in order to provide them that.

Just randomly recalled this story from when I was living in Glasgow. A friend tried to set me up with this very wealthy older gentleman who drives a very nice 'horse' car etc. ANYWAY she set up this group dinner in a bid to introduce us to each other and I was to turn up to this fancy schmancy Japanese restaurant in trophy wife attire.

Unfortunately this was the same period of time I decided I was a 90s b-girl who went to hip hop gigs every weekend and so happened I was planning to go to one after dinner and had no intention of changing my attire after so I turned up in what essentially Left Eye Lopes from TLC would wear. Midriff top, bejewelled cap, baggy jeans. My friend saw me and the first thing she said was "Cali WTF are you wearing???" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣