Intro + Faq + infodumping about my gender
Ahoy! I’m caius, I post a horrible amalgamation of Vox content, trans and sex positivity (trans sex positivity), disability rights, cats, and things that make me laugh. My blog is a safe space for me, the rest of you are in danger I think
artblog is @spitemonger (please don’t call me “spite”, spitemonger is a title)
I make and absolutely love podfics! See my current list of works I’m considering recording, and my currently published works.
I sometimes post pictures of spiders, which are all tagged #spiders.
i’m in the process of tagging and organising my posts it’s just gonna take a while :S #🌌🩸: things that made me think of or I sent to Nyx
last upd8d 16/6/26
sexuality: pansexual (this means your gender! <3) allo/allo — I know I have a sizeable number of a-spec followers, so I just want to flag that I am not one of you, but a) you deserve the world, and b) I’ll punch anyone that thinks otherwise
gender: Domgender. perisex, TMDP. In trans terms, I’m multiflux with preference. In cis terms, I experience three gender identities — a masculine one, a feminine one, and an agender one (I think of the agender identity as being a gender, just a gender that is ungendered; I know this isn’t the same experience for other agender people) — but they fluctuate in their intensity and overlap with one another every day. But one identity, the masculine one, tends to dominate over the others: it happens more frequently, it tends to be more intense, and I feel a stronger attachment to my masculinity than my femininity or agenderness. This puts me in between a couple of categories. I’m both genderfluid and transmasculine. I’m happy to be referred to as such. I don’t consider myself nonbinary, even though my gender is quite literally not binary. My gender shifts from both random chance and specific stimuli. The reason why I wake up one day and feel like a demiboy? Couldn’t tell you. Why my femininity puffs its chest out when someone says something misogynistic? VERY deliberate.
pronouns: he/him. I’ve tried using multiple pronouns and it’s not really for me. I’m not on HRT (and I like it that way), so I have to fight so hard to be called he on the regular, so when someone does gender me correctly, it gives me euphoria even when I’m not feeling particularly masculine on that day. To be super technical (the best kind of technical), when I’m very strongly agendered I actually like using an em-dash (—) as a pronoun. “Caius has a blog where — doesn’t differentiate between —s fandom posts and philosophy posts”. This is very fun in theory, but in practice, a) it’s quite statistically rare for me to feel very strongly agendered on a particular day, and b) when I am I am so not likely to tell others about it. So it’s a footnote but not something I expect, or want, people to do in practice. To reiterate: I use one set of pronouns. Don’t call me they.
post tits? nah man, i’m post-tits. 12/2024
physically disabled: no mentally disabled: yes intellectually disabled: basically the opposite, honestly
what’s OCPD?: Try wikipedia. Explaining my disorder upsets me. Please take the initiative to inform yourself about personality disorders, their effects on the individual, and the way they’re stigmatised. I rarely have the emotional energy to educate you about myself.
age: xx/xx/2000. I have an embarrassing zodiac sign, you’re not getting it out of me
location: not the united states
ethnicity: white. i was born in australia and emigrated when i was young. i’m not very well-versed in aussie politics, especially LGBTIA issues, and my ties to the continent remain rather tenuous — but i make an effort to maintain them principally because in the continent in which i now reside (no you may not know which, although it’s not impossible to figure it out), Oceanians aren’t very well represented. I am genuinely aussie, I do have real ties to that (stolen) land in both blood and culture; but I am a (white) immigrant and will always reside in a liminal space of being neither fully Oceanian nor deeply connected to the land I currently occupy. I’m fine with this, it’s not a grating absence. generally, you can call me transpacific.
day job: scholar. It’s broadly possible to determine more specific details from what I post, but I will not answer direct questions about my major or research interest because academia deliberately makes it easy to identify people based on that information. If you genuinely, seriously, and wholeheartedly want details? I’d need a picture of your student ID.
spirituality: yes, Wiccan. ☽❍☾ My practice is very deliberately private, and you’ll only see small sparks of it here; but in effect, when I say “divinity” with regard to nature, gender, sexuality, and creation — I mean it. If you reveal yourself to also practice a non-christian religion I’ll be significantly more likely to talk more about it.
politics: From the river to the sea. Abortion is healthcare. Addiction is a disability. Immigration is good. Land back. I do not make politics, calls to action, petitions, and donations a prominent feature of my blog. I post information that I did not know, want others to know, or find particularly pertinent on an infrequent basis. I would encourage you to find other sources of more frequent and more up-to-date information elsewhere.
fandoms: Hazbin Hotel, Helluva Boss; Percy Jackson and the Olympians, Magnus Chase and the Gods of Asgard (no Kane Chronicles, sorry); Mass Effect, Puella Magi Madoka Magica (original series + movies), The Amazing Digital Circus, Deadlock (MOBA) I tend to remain stationary within a fandom for a long period of time. I’m likely not going anywhere, but I’ll probably add more to this list than subtract from it. I post vague snatchings of other fandoms, but nothing particularly saturated. I don’t actually read Warrior Cats anymore i just watch moonkitti videos
other socials: AO3, bluesky
is your blog 18+?: strictly speaking, I do not reblog posts that contain explicit sexual content. Many people I follow do. Please mind the bios of people I’m reblogging from. I do talk about sex as a concept. I acknowledge that it exists. I make jokes about its existence. We gain nothing as a society from shaming and shielding people from the existence of sex, and casual references towards it are an essential part of undoing the christian impulses that force us to view sex as an evil or morally unthinkable action. This is not the same as posting porn on main. Which I do not. Where I do post porn can be discovered only by mutuals via DM.
are minors welcome on your blog?: as above. I think teenagers and adults can and should be encouraged to communicate with one another in a healthy and appropriate manner. In fact, it is vital that teenagers have a healthy and diverse support network of adults in their lives, and it is a problem if they do not have access to that. Yes: teenagers and older children should be educated about internet safety and what an inappropriate interaction with an adult looks like. Yes: adults should not be disgusting. In my own particular case, people under 18 are welcome to follow. I am not your friend, and I will not become so. But I am happy to offer you advice, if you are trans, gay, disabled, or unsure of how university works.
why the fuck do you post sex education on a sfw blog?: Because if we do not provide teenagers with the resources to practice safe sex, they will have unsafe sex. It’s not that they will not have sex. That’s just not going to happen. My primary source for (very good!) sex education on tumblr, batmanisagatewaydrug, has an excellent post about this [that I of course cannot search for] where he talks about the fact that refusing to share sex education with teenagers is a form of sex negativity that not only perpetuates negative stereotypes and attitudes about sex but causes real-world harm. We know that poor-quality sex education, especially abstinence-only sex education, directly correlates to higher rates of teen pregnancy. Gatekeeping, age-gating, shaming, or censoring sex ed directly results in more unwanted pregnancies, more exposures to STIs, and twists the roots of sexual shame that much deeper. I tend to circulate and contribute to posts about prophylactics, anatomy, trans-specific sex ed, and body-safe sex toys. Because I deeply value the sharing of accurate and body-positive information regarding the pursuit of pleasure and the acceptance of our bodies. Those of you who follow my hornyblog will note that I do tend to age-gate specific, detailed information about the actual mechanics of sex (such as how you muff and not just that muffing exists) as well as most discussions about kink etiquette and education.
why are anon asks off?: I’m a trans person on the internet. It’s funny, really, the way that leaving your name on something tends to dissuade most people from saying something revolting.
why don’t you capitalise things?: depression. It started out that way, anyway, where moving my finger to hit the caps lock was just too much effort; but rhetorically, there’s a different tone of voice in which you read i versus I. I like that. I think it’s juicy. I don’t capitalise proper nouns or names like america, christianity, or white to show disrespect. Yes this also bleeds into the uncapitalised “i”: I’d never not capitalise the names of people I respect!
why’d you spell capitalize like “capitalise”?: there’s this cool thing that languages have, it’s called a dialect
can we be friends?: sure. I check the blogs of everyone who shows up in my notes, so if I follow you it means I like you. Likespam, ask, reblog, message, I don’t care. If you’re trans I’ve probably already imagined our wedding
can we flirt with you?: If you’re over 20. You have to do it off anon.
can we tag you in games or picrew chains? please! i really appreciate the gesture: it’s very sweet to know you’re thinking about me and it always makes me smile. I don’t always respond to a tag: this is because I don’t think I have anything to offer, not because I hate you specifically (I don’t <3). I generally prefer picrews over “get to know me” games.
can we have your discord? mutuals, DM for it. I hope that’s a reasonable expectation, that in order to gain access to the “messaging each other” website you have to message me. the benefit is that if we’re friends on discord you are a more valuable friend to me than my “irl” friends. i just happen to be in the same location as those people, but online friends, no, we deliberately sought out a connection and were purposefully drawn together.
how do you pronounce “caius”?: ˈkʌɪəs. [ʌɪ is like “rye”, əs like “us”.]
how do you pronounce the hhhhhh?: an exasperated aspiration. like “ughhhhhh” but without the gutteral G. A heavy, heavy sigh. It’s six Hs, by the way.
