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Chiron-Sun aspects: “smiling through the pain,” remaining positive, constantly trying to maintain inner vitality in the face of suffering, resorting to egocentric behaviors (narcissism, attention-seeking, defensiveness, etc), adopting an “out of sight, out of mind” mentality and purposefully distracting oneself, looking to playfulness & creativity & validation for comfort or healing, forcing happiness.

Chiron-Moon aspects: retreating to what is familiar, withdrawing, internalizing, leaning on family, searching for sympathy and support, resting, relying on or over-indulging in material & physical comforts/pleasures, periodically flushing the emotional & psychological systems, acquiescing to circumstance, wallowing in pain and feeling it fully until it “runs its course” or to receive pity.

Chiron-Mercury aspects: rationalizing, over-analyzing, taking the problem too logically or too clinically, taking the problem too seriously or not seriously enough, detaching emotionally from the source of pain and thus dehumanizing oneself, “turning off” emotions, invalidating one’s emotions, reflecting on & studying circumstance, distracting oneself, moving on too quickly.

Chiron-Venus aspects: romanticizing pain, downplaying the severity or depth of pain, beautifying circumstance, refusing to be introspective or reflective and choosing feeble superficial solutions instead, relying on others to the point of unhealthy dependence, searching for healing in art & love, ignoring problems to maintain an appearance, pretending to heal to avoid complications/disharmony.

Chiron-Mars aspects: instantly going into survival mode, feeling threatened and reacting with hostility, defending oneself harshly, allowing instincts to rule as a form of self-protection, releasing tension and pain through antagonism or constructive creativity, retreating or turning aggressive, funneling or stimulating interior energy through the physical body, turning off the mind, acting out.

Chiron-Jupiter aspects: philosophizing or preaching about pain, turning one’s own suffering & hardship into a lesson for others, trusting that there is something to gain or learn from pain, making noble efforts to grow, fleeing from the circumstance or source of pain, feeling trapped or limited by unhappiness, unwisely viewing all unhappiness as a lower/underdeveloped form of existence.

Chiron-Saturn aspects: seeing pain as punishment or duty, draining all one’s energy into solving the circumstance, feeling exhausted and burdened by suffering, “getting used to” hardship, trying to “toughen up,” choosing to bear pain all alone to avoid being a burden/nuisance or to “be strong,” telling oneself the pain is deserved or necessary, trying to self-improve through hardship.

Chiron-Uranus aspects: drawing inspiration from pain or inspiring others with it, rebelling & acting out, initiating big changes to shake up the circumstance and avoid stagnation, seeing one’s pain as a reflection of a broader concept, contextualizing one’s pain into all of humanity, using community to cope, allowing pain to change the way one lives / looks / behaves, detaching.

Chiron-Neptune aspects: romanticizing or sanctifying pain, getting lost in suffering, resigning to hardship & becoming a martyr to it, “suffering so that others don’t have to,” trying to escape pain completely, trying to bring others into one’s suffering to create a sense of unity, fabricating delusions to avoid the reality of the circumstance, hiding one’s pain in a realm that other’s can’t reach.

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