Is there ever a time when a safeword wouldn't apply? For example during a punishment?
Very simply: no. There is *never* a time when a safeword doesn’t apply.
BDSM is about consent first and foremost, right?
A safeword is a withdrawal of consent. It means “hey, I no longer consent to whatever is happening right now”. It is a red light and can be used any time for any reason.
Remember, a submissive is only a submissive because they choose to be. They make a conscious choice to hand over some power over themselves to a dominant partner. But that doesn’t stop the submissive from being a grown-ass adult with full agency. And that means that the submissive can and should take that power back whenever they feel the need.
Submissives are not children. When they get punished, it’s because they *want* to be punished, because they want to be held accountable for rules that make them feel like their life has structure. When they safeword out of a punishment, it isn’t the same as a child protesting getting put in timeout. It’s an adult saying “hi, as an adult I don’t want this to be happening to me”. And that’s a valid choice that should be respected.
Anon, Sangi and I are 24/7 d/s. I’m always her dominant. She’s always my submissive. But we’re also still people. And people get to decide what they do and don’t participate in. Full stop.
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