17, they/them, queer

clothes sorted by body shape and style, instead of gender

removing unnecessary gender markers from non-medical documents like a driver’s license

genderless bathrooms where the stalls have floor-to-ceiling walls for privacy

abolishing gendered toys, colors, professions, hobbies, etc.

they/them as the default if you don’t know someone

And NOT:

poems that remind you of your penpal, or poems you wrote for them

a hand drawn portrait of them, if you’re artistically inclined

a list of book, movie, or tv show recommendations

a connect four game! you just draw out the board and then color in a chip every time it’s sent back and forth between you

homemade crosswords, personalized to your penpal

homemade word searches

doodles you’ve made! you can even put double stick tape on the back, cut them out, and then put them on wax paper to make them into stickers!

a playlist of your favorite songs at the moment

homemade collages matching the aesthetic of your penpal

a list of questions for them

recipes

pressed flowers

friendship bracelets

little embroidery squares! these are so cute and you can personalize them

cute crocheted things, like hearts, clovers, flowers, etc

iron on patches