Broken and blessed.

Both partners view the other realistically, recognizes that the other is an imperfect human being, and learns what is realistic to expect.

Both partners take responsibility for their own personal growth. 

The better each person is at self-care, the more they will be able to let their partner be their natural self.

Both partners take responsibility for their own emotional state. This is a matter of practicing self-awareness of how our thought patterns create corresponding feelings. Healthy partners avoid inappropriately acting out of a “child ego state” when past wounds get triggered, communicate appropriately, and find a way to return to an adult state.

Both partners approach problems by focusing on how to resolve the issue most efficiently. Both take responsibility to resolve the problem.

When one partner expresses needs and wants, the other can be supportive without sacrificing their own self-care and without doing their partner’s work.

Both partners can negotiate and accept compromise. As people experience increased levels of self-value, self-empowerment, and abundance, they can surrender the need to get their way all the time.