Daytime Sleeper

Text: first groupie of the tour! And then a condom, notably not filled with blood cum

was reading my Angela Chen book when I got reminded of this "erotics of mentorship" essay that made me deeply uncomfortable; Chen also mentions an a counter-essay by Joe Fassler re his experiences as a grooming survivor that very much highlighted why I was so uncomfortable.

if you have the stomach for either nauseating amounts of abuse apologism (the first essay) or difficult personal recollections of abuse (the second) I'd very much recommend reading them together.

the first one in particular has a lot of striking hallmarks of "leftist" abuse apologism; the calling back to an intellectual tradition like Socrates or Arendt (whose abuser was also a Nazi collaborator, but that apparently can be forgiven), that insistence that failing to be "veiling the subject in silence" (i.e. being honest about the harms of teacher-student relationships) means being responsible for [real] exploitation on [worthy] victims, moral panics about moral panics, and nonsense like this.

Who exactly is being "victim-blamed" by the phrase "teachers shouldn't be sexually attracted to their students? the answer doesn't matter, the point is to appropriate anti-abuse language and weaponize the guilt of the reader for not being "taboo" enough for the purpose of the entirely un-taboo and conventionally expected task of abuse apologism, which survivors like Fassler are able to see through quite clearly: