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it's because you're always on that damn vibrator

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for anyone confused:
Hating men is not feminism. Saying 'kill all men' is not feminism. Going out of your way to ridicule and mock men is not feminism. SEXISM IS NOT FEMINISM. Feminism is described as 'the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.' Notice how it says SEXES? That's INCLUDING of men. Feminism is not hate speech against men, it's EQUALITY against men. Hate to break it to you, girl, but hating on men is in no way at all close to feminism and what it's about. You're not a slay queen girl boss feminist, you're just a bully.
#tired of y'all being awful to men.#Like yeah some deserve it#but men as a whole are not all evil#I hate to 'not all men' but seriously
I'm getting really fucking tired of explaining that this, in itself, is indicative of how we as a society are taught to dehumanise women and girls. Domestic violence, rape, and straight up fucking killing women and girls are all rampant but I never see you people coming in the feminism tag and expressing anger about that. Yet you dare to come and say this. All I can say is, how dare you. How fucking DARE you.
OP is 19 years old. This kind of safeguarding-ass post is indicative of an desire to want everyone to get along. I get it. At 19 I was also very worried about the health and welfare of men, and still am very much so today. What's shitty about this post is that one, OP is trying to tell people what to do. This is a blogging platform that has nothing to do with political activism and never will, as with anything on the internet ever will, and that OP thinks that a bunch of anonymous people on Tumblr posting KAM is a overarching political statement because it's on "feminism blogs" is a sign of immaturity. Secondly, people are, for good or bad, allowed to post nearly anything they want. The proportion of posts that beg to choke and strangle women, either sexually or violently, outnumber the immature and reactive KAM posting, yet that violence is so normalized that it's seen as an individual taste or sexual fetish that is free from criticism. I understand that OP feels that in order to subvert the system for women's equality, we must do it legally and with men at our side. But feminism is not for men, and men are far better supporting each other and women in the fight of classism, which is for both sexes. OP is misinterpreting the anger of individual people and the comments that they make to systemic oppression, but there is a difference between those things. I appreciate that OP considers someone's vent post or tag to be of equal power as men who disappear women in suitcases and bury them in landfills, but in order for sexism to exist in the way you say it does, OP, women have to have been in positions of legitimate power, legal, cultural, and social, in order to oppress men. It hasn't happened. If anything, your post can be interpreted that because you're posting this, you could never feel this way, and you're morally better than those that do, hence the offense.
To me, when a woman really centers men in her life that whole behavior has a wash of immaturity over it. Like oh my God I cannot believe at this age you still live in this fantasy land where men care about you, or are worth the amount of respect you're giving them. I find it immature that you're not centering yourself 
It's really something to just lay on the ground in the rain about when you realize that women have been brainwashed since birth by their mothers, fathers, relatives, church members, coworkers, classmates, media, religion, and culture to have this mentality and to center it into their wellbeing. They take the morally good nebulous concept of doing well for people that is in every child's heart and they make it subservience to men for girls and subservience of the patriarchal establishment for boys.
Drain yourself. Bleed yourself. Starve yourself. Deprive yourself of being in the single, individual life that you have because your sex has been legally determined inferior in a thousand year history. Women have never needed independence when they have a man to take care of them, so what if he doesn't see you as a person? As least he doesn't beat you. So what if he beats you? At least he's not leaving visible marks. So what if he's beaten you so badly you've ended up in urgent care under a pseudonym so he doesn't find you? At least you're still alive.
Everyone in a woman's life is pushing her to center men. Every word spoken or held back faults her for wanting to live her life beyond his 2-dimensionality. Most women will live their lives this way, it's the only way that the patriarchy struggles to stay afloat. When a woman is held into a status quo of being "Boy crazy" I don't fault her. The system doesn't want independent women, and I understand what it's like to have a life where you're taught to think like that.
“I don’t want to be seen as a woman, I just want to be seen as a person!”
Believe it or not, women are in fact people.
”I just want to be seen as a person!” yeah me too that’s why I’m into this feminism stuff
from “the case against the sexual revolution” by Louise Perry

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Lynch him.
I have nothing else to say on the topic of pornography except this
I can't know for certain because you know, we don't live in that timeline. But I have a sneaking suspicion that if some of the stuff happening with young men right now were happening with young women instead it would be treated as evidence of female inferiority. If boys were outperforming girls in school, you'd have op eds in major newspapers questioning whether girls need or deserve a formal education. Folks would be trying to revive the debate over colleges admitting women. If young women were losing tons of money to sports betting, you'd have serious proposals for giving men control over their finances "for their own good". The notion that any group of people is inherently inferior and should be excluded from society is wrong, not matter who it's applied to. That idea is considered off the table when we talk about men, but not so much about women.
“A woman from the audience asks: ‘Why were there so few women among the Beat writers?’ and [Gregory] Corso, suddenly utterly serious, leans forward and says: “There were women, they were there, I knew them, their families put them in institutions, they were given electric shock. In the ’50s if you were male you could be a rebel, but if you were female your families had you locked up.”
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Stephen Scobie, on the Naropa Institute’s 1994 tribute to Allen Ginsberg
Absences of women in history don’t “just happen,” they are made.
(via everthehero)
most female pop singers are a face used to market songs written and produced by men, styled and choreographed and directed by men, dressing men's thoughts up as women's thoughts and then convincing the world this is how women think and feel because men's words are coming out of a woman's mouth
Omg yes I have been wanting collect the most sexist songs that are sung by women and then look up who wrote them. Can we crowd source that?
musician here- 15+ years in it professionally- I can! The pop industry can be picked apart pretty quickly, it's not that big.
I like to call it 'the game'.
What music companies do is come up with a brand to target a market, then sign talent to fit that market. Here's The Game: how well each album does determines how much creative control you as an artist have over the next album; you sign for multiple albums at a time, and if you make no money you're done. This means you can be 'shelved' in favor of another artist in your genre; you cannot sign with anyone else but they won't approve release of your next album.
If you come to the table with no writing chops, your job is pretty much to sing what's written for you until you can prove yourself. Example; Taylor Swift used to write pop with the people her teams chose frequently (as you'll see in a moment!), but as a superstar she's been working with Aaron Dessner from The National (and I, a former hater, give folklore a *chef's kiss*)
Aight let's fuckin go let's start with the song that made my mother ban Britney Spears from our house:
there are lots of places that list songwriters, but the easiest way is usually to check the lyric sites (which pull from those places)
Max Martin and Rami. Very famous writing/production team (both men), who have made pop songs for decades now. That album was one of their first projects together. Max Martin you may have heard of before. Here are his Billboard Hot 100 hits; you can see how he writes to the "brand" of each artist:
MAX MARTIN ALSO GOT DR. LUKE FAMOUS. Dr. Luke (of abusing Ke$ha fame) was the fucking guitarist for SNL until like 2007- but he met Max at a house party and they started swapping songs and eventually they wrote a big P!nk song together- THIS ONE:
Their next big hit was "I Kissed A Girl" for Katy Perry (who was discovered and signed as a 15 year old LITERAL CHURCH GIRL SINGING GOSPEL SONGS BY THE WAY!) Are you getting the picture? Dr Luke signed Kesha when she was 18!
Somewhere along the way Max Martin started another writing team called Wolf Cousins, which still functions as a songwriter club where he mentors other men on how to crack the charts. They made 1989 by Taylor and "Talking Body" by Tove Lo and Ariana's My Everything and Sweetener and and and - the list goes on, you can look it up.
Want a different genre? Let's check a song from someone who came to the industry with more influence and social power, at an older age: Cardi B's "WAP" (w Megan Thee Stallion). They're both credited as songwriters, but look at who else is:
Austin, James and Jorden? Yeah, I know em that's these guys, Ayo N Keyz and Megan's ex-boo Pardison Fontaine:
So, this was a kinda meh song Cardi (a brand) was making with Ayo and Keyz (recording) and Pardison Fontaine (writing) - until PF got close with Megan in 2020 and got her involved for some verses, and then they were cooking with sauce:
and THIS WAS THE FINAL PRODUCT! BEHOLD, "HOW TO RECEIVE SEXUAL PLEASURE FROM MEN BY CARDI B"
So yes, I'm sure Cardi/Megan wrote some lines on that song. Only they know who wrote which parts - but my point is this:
If you, as an artist, can't write a charting hit alone, the music companies are gonna stick you in a room with someone who can. Those people - at the company and in the room - are almost always men.
If you want to play The Game, your music gets filtered through the male gaze.
Nothing in pop is exempt from this process.
Everyone uses this model. Everyone. You like Doechii? She was put with Gotye (yes Im serious, the "Somebody I Used to Know" guy). Gracie Abrams? That's Aaron from The National again. Ryan from OneRepublic wrote songs that ended up with Adele and Ellie Goulding. Beyoncé took a song or two from him too, as well as from Ne-Yo and a bunch of others. Jack from Fun/Bleachers has a whole career doing this.
"Fancy" by Iggy Azalea and Charli XCX? I see seven writers credited, they're the only women listed. Remember "Glamorous" by Fergie? Six writers, five are men. Miley Cyrus has star power in her brand and can request to work with who she wants, but she doesn't write well - so her new song "End of the World" credits her, and Molly from Alvvays (an amazing musician and songwriter), and then five men. Miley's first big hit that I remember was "Party In The USA" - but she's not even a credited writer. That song came from Dr Luke and a producer being put in a room with 20 year old Jessie J- and they gave 15 y/o Miley that song because it was a winner and she was an industry baby with a Disney brand who needed a song and could outsell Jessie. "Monster" by Rihanna was another big one. That was Bebe Rexha's (written by Jon Bellion and friends) until it was given to sexy sexy Rihanna and Eminem was added for star power. You can still find Bebe's version leaked on YouTube.
Halsey? Last I checked was Nine Inch Nails. Rosalia? Yes, she plays the game too. Selena Gomez- yup, definitely. Camila Cabello? Haha! Lizzo? Yeah, I think her big hits were all the guy who wrote Derulo's "Talk Dirty". I could keep going. No one is exempt from The Game.
You can be smart about it, like Megan Trainor and Lady Gaga, and study music until you're hooky enough to sign with a label who can see you as a writer and you choose your own cowrites, harmless mostly gay men or older family men, but you can't escape The Game.
As a woman: if they can scout you young and train you to be a consistent cowriter (Lana, Taylor, Lorde) - great! If you can write for others and yourself (Sia, Julia Michaels, Starrah) - even better! If you can't write for shit, you can always be a sexy sexy singer (Katy Perry, Rihanna, Dua Lipa) and have the good ol' boys write for you. (Until you're not sexy sexy anymore, at least.)
Male singers have to play The Game too; Bernie Taupin wrote for Elton John, Jimmy Napes writes many of Sam Smith's hooks, Benny Blanco has a huge career writing for the pop charts- but. BUT. Women write for women, sometimes- while men write for men and women, always.
There's a difference between being a singer/songwriter and being a ghostwriter for people. Being just a writer, as a woman? Difficult as fuck. We can sometimes break into that world (Amy Allen for Sabrina Carpenter, Lauren Christy for Avril Lavigne, Kara Dioguardi, Laura Veltz) and live on royalties without fame, but you must still write for the male gaze brand, selling something that can make music videos and tour and partner with huge sponsors- it's still a boys club. Which is why I started the post with Max fucking Martin who runs a literal songwriting boys club. His is very far from being the only one. His just specializes in this Brand Artist trash for young women, and is good at keeping trend-relevant producers around so they've haunted the charts like misogynistic Swedish ghouls for decades. Look up some recent hits and you'll see Dr Luke is out of favor and Shellback is the new hot sound, and I'm sure some new one on the way.
TLDR- there are a bunch of women in music (hello!) BUT we rarely get signed to write unless we can ALSO perform as the face of a brand; unless we can be sexy sexy marketable. Men are the radio heads, label execs, studio owners, songwriters and producers and gatekeepers, all beholden to a $30 BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.
So yeah. it's a fucking thing. It's at the core of how it works. Women are the face of the brand catered to a market, men hold the power.
Ive been in this since the aughts and it's been horribly sexist the entire time, top to bottom. I've been stuck in those rooms with those men. I've been badgered for sex. I've been groped (and worse) and stalked and threatened and harassed and more, and I know plenty of industry scandals where women took settlement money to stay quiet about sexual assault, discrimination and more. The hierarchy is clear to everyone. Every time you're in the label offices or studio you see some pretty young women with stars in her eyes, being shown around and promised millions by a sleezy old douchebag.
This shit is systemic. Sex sells and the companies that control everything want to make money so they make and sell sex. It's designed to sell over authentic music not produced by a huge team of marketing specialists and predatory and self-obsessed men. Once in a blue moon does someone escape this formulaic hellscape of the music charts I've tried to show here and - lemme tell you - I fucking live for the moments that they do. All of us in the music world constantly have our ear to the ground for aberrations, moments of genuine artistry and authentic creativity powering through to popularity as these huge music corporations fight with each other for space on the charts. I think the most recent for me was Gigi Perez.
When you start paying attention, it's easy to see who's making money for what. The harsh truth, from a woman in music, is that a lot of women in music are just recording artists who decide to play the game and let men write their brand while they tour and dance in music videos, and it's insidious as fuck what the end result is.
fuck this business
anyways go GO FORTH with this knowledge on how to pick apart a pop song and slay. sorry for ruining the radio for you.
oh, and don't fall for the "breakout indie music" schtick either; Chappell Roan's cowriter is Dan from As Tall as Lions and his other recent project was Olivia Rodrigo:
NONE OF US ESCAPE THE GAME
🫡 thank you for your service to our country.
From the moment I heard ‘my heart belongs to daddy’ sung by Ella Fitzgerald I thought huh, those lyrics are odd for a woman to sing. Yeah it’s written by Cole porter. Turns out it’s all like this, thanks for outlining how it works boudicasdaughter!
Amazing commentary, thank you!! If you look at the backlash around Katy Perry’s most recent album, you find the pop culture girlies mocking Katy for working with Dr Luke despite having a “feminism” brand and nonetheless making a flop album. But given this commentary, it puts into perspective how little control she has over this and how really women being the face of the shitty male music makes them also the punching bags when things dont go well

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Yeah he deserved it
anyone got any good papers on surrogacy? all the stuff i’m finding are pro surrogacy or right wing “what about the nuclear family 😣” bs. i’m taking a debate class and im struggling with finding material
I just finished this book. It’s strongly critical of surrogacy, and reading that section made me well up a few times. It’s a horrible practice.
Want to back up this recommendation. Reading Being and Being Bought last year (along with Broken Bonds: Surrogate Mothers Speak Out, also published by Spinifex), completely made up my mind on the evils of this practice.
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there used to be a time where black women would centre themselves & other black women & girls only in their activism. they would write & publish statements talking about & heavily critiquing liberal spaces that were anti-racist & anti-sexist with how they tend to leave black women & girls out of the conversation. even before the term intersectionality was coined, black women knew exactly how to explain their own oppression. nowadays, black women don't have that same focus for their own issues anymore & it's actually very sad & disappointing. many liberal black women believe themselves that if they're not fighting for everyone else other than themselves, even when they show them their asses to kiss constantly with their clear investment in misogynoir, then their social justice warrior-ism is pointless & useless. many liberal black women, especially the activists, believe that only focusing on the very prominent issues black women & girls face is not enough.
The whole 'men evolved to hunt, women evolved to gather' thing is total nonsense.
Evidence shows women have always hunted. They found a 9000 year old female hunter buried with weapons in Peru, and there’s a ton of other research showing women were just as involved in survival work as men.
The influential idea that in the past men were hunters and women were not isn’t supported by the available evidence
During Prehistoric times, women also hunted large mammals, painted cave walls and practiced warfare. This was stated by the prehistoric arch
If you're interested in the topic, I recommend reading this article too.

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there's something so sinister about these latex suits to me to that's just occurring to me now. this image barely even looks like a human woman. it's clearly a woman to us, but she's designed in every way to look fake. the latex makes her look synthetic. the animal ears, the way her whole head is trapped, how none of her human skin is showing...this looks like a sex doll. she looks inhuman. and that's exactly what they want from us. that's the appeal. this is sexy to men because this makes us even more steps away from being human. this separates us even more from humanity. this makes us even more fake looking, allows men to disconnect from our humanity even more, to hurt us and feel like they're hurting some creature, not a whole real human. i never understood how this could ever be sexy to anyone, but i get it now. she doesn't look human. she looks like some created creature that's far enough away from human to neutralize your shame. this is disgusting