May the love you attract in 2025 feel soft, nourishing, reciprocal, and easy. Not traumatizing, ill-timed, or emotionally immature.

Thank you this is the first post about self love that hasn’t made me want to throw things

If you are feeling low, depressed and blue, I want you to remember not to be too hard on yourself, darling. When we feel like we hit rock bottom, we usually shut down; we stop talking to others, we stop replying to messages, we push the ones we love away, which often makes the other person feel like they did something wrong. That’s okay, my love. You are not a bad person if you react like this. If this is what you feel like, then feel it out. And if feeling it out means you need to isolate for a while, then that is okay too. This is your way of coping and I know that you might have little to no influence on it, because part of you is hurting and your emotions take over. So, don’t text back. Don’t force yourself to smile. Don’t pretend to be happy. Don’t talk to anyone. Just know that you should reassure people that it has nothing to do with them. It is just you, trying to survive and even though it seems wrong, if this is what you have to do, then do it. I am not judging. I understand. I truly do. Do not beat yourself up for the way you cope, for it does not make you a terrible person, my love, it makes you a fighter.

when lizzo said “self love is survival” and when hannah gadsby said “do you understand what self-deprecation means when it comes from somebody who already exists in the margins? it’s not humility. it’s humiliation” and when mitski said “i used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that’s awfully convenient to the world. for some of us our best revolt is self preservation”

when audre lorde said “caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare”