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transmasc bisexuals!

transfem bisexuals!

nonbinary bisexuals!

cis bisexuals!

ace bisexuals!

aro bisexuals!

bisexuals with a male lean!

bisexuals with a female lean!

bisexuals with no lean!

bisexuals in a straight-presenting relationship!

bisexuals in a gay-presenting relationship!

bisexuals who aren’t in a relationship!

polyamorous bisexuals!

closeted bisexuals!

bisexuals who are out and proud!

bisexuals with internalized biphobia!

bisexuals without accepting parents!

bisexuals with accepting parents!

bisexuals who just figured out they’re bi!

bisexuals who’ve known they’re bi!

bisexuals on the split-attraction model!

all bisexuals!!!

y’all are amazing and deserve the world <3

Wendy Curry: Former BiNet USA President & recipient of the Brenda Howard Memorial Award presented by the Queens Chapter of PFLAG

“If you really study diversity acceptance you’ll see that people start to respect people once they respect themselves. As long as we were in this endless begging for inclusion, we weren’t addressing the respect issue. So, those two themes – wanting to respect ourselves and wanting to celebrate the previous years’ battles – were the dual driving forces behind Celebrate Bisexuality Day. The day was not an education day. It was not a coming-out day, it’s not about GLBT partnerships building or proving ourselves to anyone else. It’s not a ‘Pride’ day, though many of us are proud. It’s not about usurping a gay event and making a smaller one for ourselves. It’s a truly unique day, just for us.”

“We were sitting around at one of the annual bi conventions, venting and someone – I think it was Gigi – said we should have a party. We all loved the great bisexual, Freddie Mercury. His birthday was in September, so why not Sept? We wanted a weekend day to ensure the most people would do something. Gigi's birthday was Sept 23rd. It fell on a weekend day, so, poof! We had a day."

Gigi Raven Wilbur: Former member of the BiNet USA Board of Directors & recipient of the American Institute of Bisexuality Globe Award

“Celebrate Bisexuality Day has three parts to it. Autumn equinox is on September 21st. The autumn equinox is important in the pagan community, because this is when we gather our crops. The pagan community believes that the autumn equinox is a “calling out day.” Having Celebrate Bisexuality Day during the autumn equinox would be like “calling out” to all bisexuals.” So, I thought what day wouldn’t be better than calling out day?” September 23rd is also my birthday.”

Michael Page: Creator of the Bisexual Pride flag

“The pink color represents sexual attraction to the same sex only (gay and lesbian), The blue represents sexual attraction to the opposite sex only (straight) and the resultant overlap color purple represents sexual attraction to both sexes (bi). The key to understanding the symbolism of the bi pride flag is to know that the purple pixels of color blend unnoticeably into both the pink and blue, just as in the 'real world,' where bi people blend unnoticeably into both the gay/lesbian and straight communities."

BI VISIBILITY WEEK 2021: ↳ Rosa Diaz (Brooklyn Nine Nine)

He asked me if I had ever heard of Steve Crowder. I immediately tensed. Because I have heard of him and he makes my blood boil (you can find his YouTube channel here if you feel like making yourself mad). 

Basically, the discussion was Steve Crowder said rape culture doesn’t exist because no one actively promotes rape. There is no one in America (this was the country we were talking about because it’s the one featured in his video) that tells people it is okay to rape people. I don’t know if this is a fact or not, but I had to explain to my brother all the reasons this isn’t true.

Rape culture isn’t a group of men telling people it’s okay to rape people. Rape culture isn’t a group of angry women shouting that all men are rapists.  

Rape culture is encouraging sexual agression, or seeing it as okay; seeing it as normal. Rape culture is this agression and violence being seen as normal through popular culture. Rape culture is the fact that we even need apps to try and prevent it. Rape culture is people not being punished for raping or harassing someone, because it might damge their reputation. Rape culture is the victim being blamed because they didn’t watch their drink. Because they wore a short skirt. Because they went on a date alone. Because they flirted back. Because they were outside at night. Because they were polite.  

Rape culture is teaching girls not to be raped, instead of teaching boys no to rape. Rape culture is the fact that only 3 out of 1000 rapists are convicted. Rape culture exists. And it’s a problem. 

Rape culture is why I didn’t realise I was raped. It was my boyfriend. We were 17. He wanted me to give him oral and I was scared, drunk and didn’t want to. But he made me. And I thought that was okay because he was my boyfriend. It’s why I thought it was okay that a different drunk boyfriend basically forced me to have sex with him. It’s why I thought it was okay because he apologised in the morning. It’s why I thought I couldn’t say anything when the guy behind me at a concert kept grabbing my arse.

It’s why TWO of my bosses at work have just been moved to different offices for sexually harassing girls, instead of losing their jobs. It’s why the (underage) girls weren’t offered counselling, apologies or explanations for what happened and what was said to them. It’s why they were asked to keep it quiet. It’s why I’ve since quit and encouraged them to do the same.

It’s why I keep my head down when people call out from cars or on the street. It’s why I pretend I’m on the phone when I walk past people. It’s why I keep my hand over my drink when I’m out. It’s why I’m scared to walk home at night even though I work two blocks away from my house.

It’s real.

While I agree it is the most intimate and vulnerable person, I’m not going to let it define my relationship. I’m not going to give that power to anyone. I’m my own person. The idea of ‘saving myself,’ as though I’m the property of the person I marry, literally makes me sick. Virginity is a construct. There is nothing life altering about having sex for the first time.

I enjoy sex.

sapphic solidarity <3