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“In his book Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us “confuse cathecting with loving.” We all know how often individuals feeling connected to someone through the process of cathecting insist that they love the other person even if they are hurting or neglecting them. Since their feeling is that of cathexis, they insist that what they feel is love. When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abuse cannot coexist.”

“care is a dimension of love, but simply giving care does not mean we are loving.”

“A lack of sustained love does not mean the absence of care, affection, or pleasure. In fact, my long-term romantic relationships, like the bonds in my family, have been so full of care that it would be quite easy to overlook the ongoing emotional dysfunction.”

“understand love “as the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.”” (The Road Less Traveled)

“One pattern that made the practice of love especially difficult was my constantly choosing to be with men who were emotionally wounded, who were not that interested in being loving even though they desired to be loved.” -> hm. gender thoughts. connect to incels and pua’s?

“It took me a long time to recognize that while I wanted to know love, I was afraid to be truly intimate. Many of us choose relationships of affection and care that will never become loving because they feel safer. The demands are not as intense as loving requires. The risk is not as great.”

“Rather than sharing strategies that would help us become more loving it actually encourages everyone to adapt to circumstances where love is lacking.” -> attachment & creating secure relationships?

"The 5 women who were close friends with a man spoke of a boundary that made the relationship “safe” and minimized the complications of sexual or romantic attraction that interfere with many malefemale friendships. That is, these women were married or lesbian or their male friends were married or gay, and so, they said, those friendships had clear parameters."

- Wilson, 2000

Community & Access

It's really hard to go from immediate relationship and community access to having to rebuild all of it. One of the participants says, "it's a major logistical—not to mention financial—task to get together."

2. Emotional difficulty

There's fried involved with losing friendships. The time leading up to the parting, the parting itself, and the time afterwards are all painful. Some interviewees focused on work.

3. Rebuilding community and connection.

Creating new bonds was difficult for all interviewees, especially due to how long it takes to develop them. She identifies how moving to small towns is especially tough for marginalized women (singles, lesbians, women of color) because it can be isolating.

In all situations, the intervewees put effort into maintaining their current relationships. However, when it came to making new friends, there were many difficulties. Age became a barrier, due to the shrinking pool of friends, and the time that said friends had due to their existing families and careers. Additionally, being in higher career positions meant that making friends at work became non-options.

So, some of them decided to not make new friends. Sometimes, this was because they already had enough people in their lives. Other times, this was to avoid vulnerability and hurt. When the calendar is full, friends are the ones who get cut, because family comes first, and careers are a necessity of life.

Strikingly, those who continued to make friends tended to be single and did not have immediate families who were with them. This makes sense, as they have room in their lives.

Derived from the Latin term ballare, which implies to dance, ballroom dancing is performed by a pair with a single particular person leading the other. There are 5 major designs of ballroom dancing: Sluggish Waltz, Viennese Waltz, Quickstep, Slow Foxtrot and Tango. Latin dance variations that are also categorized as ballroom include the Cha Cha, Samba, Rumba, Paso Doble and Jive. Learning ballroom dancing in Long Island was created significantly less complicated for me by attending the Silva Dance Academy.

Slow Waltz or Boston Waltz is a romantic dance performed in closed place in &frac34 songs time. Characterized by sleek flooring glides and pendulum swing physique action, this is a slow dance in which the pair moves as a single. The waltz is danced at ninety beats per moment even though its rapidly-paced whirling model, the Viennese Waltz, is danced at about 180 beats a moment.

Invented by vaudeville actor Harry Fox in 1914 in New York Town, the Foxtrot was a quickly dance that concerned stagger slow-sluggish-rapid-speedy ways. It was the most well-known quick dance until eventually the 1940s, when it progressively split into Sluggish Foxtrot and Quickstep versions. A complicated nonetheless versatile ballroom dance, Slow Foxtrot performs completely with a vast assortment of new music designs and tempo.

Initially done by Caribbean and African dancers, the Quickstep is a fast-shifting upbeat dance comprising of hops, runs, turns and chasses or 3-stage glide patterns. Complex light footwork is essential to executing the renowned “Jogging Right Turn”, “V6”, and “Fishtail” speedy actions.

Powerful, provocative, sultry, alluring - the Tango is the most passionate of all ballroom dances characterized by staccato ways and sharp head turns.

Also identified as Latin Waltz, the Rumba is danced on a spot relatively than all about the floor, emphasizing body movements instead of footwork. It really is a well-choreographed rhythm dance with an element of “tease and run” amongst male and woman.

Cheeky and carefree, the Cha Cha is a ballroom dance with triple stage movements danced in among two rock beat movements. In contrast to its predecessor, the Mambo, Cha Cha new music is slower and the rhythm is a lot less difficult.

I am not exaggerating.

As of now, anybody can be disappeared, no due process, no recourse. Trump is openly disregarding a Supreme Court order and says he’ll send US citizens to El Salvador.

This is not a drill.

Call your House rep and tell them they must impeach. Tell them if they cannot bring themselves to impeach, they must resign. A more open and shut case to impeach is not possible. Trump and his administration are saying openly, in public, that anybody can be kidnapped by ICE, even in error, and disappeared permanently.

Call your senators, too, and tell them to support impeachment (it goes to them once it passes a majority House vote).

I am reaching out today to urge Representative ______ to call for the impeachment of President Trump due to his refusal to comply with the Supreme Court's April 10th decision regarding Kilmar Abrego Garcia, who was unlawfully deported and has been charged with no crime. As Justice Sotomayor stated, this inaction implies the government's ability to 'deport and incarcerate any person, including U.S. citizens, without legal consequence, so long as it does so before a court can intervene.' This precedent is unconstitutional, highly illegal, and grounds for impeachment. Every individual, regardless of immigration status, must be guaranteed a right to due process.

Representative _____, I urge you to stand on the right side of history today by calling for President Trump's impeachment. This administration can not be allowed to continue unilaterally defying the checks and balances that are intrinsic to our government."

You can also find your representative and senators and their phone numbers on https://5calls.org/