Have to add my frustrations with the overly sensitive in a slightly different way.
It's more than just purity culture, and people clutching their pearls at the slightest bit of ankle. Don't get me wrong though, that annoys the hell out of me too.
But here's a little something for more than just AO3
-You don't like the subject
It is so simple just to ignore something you don't like an move on, it takes less than a second to scroll past.
Setting healthy boundaries in relationships for things that are and are not okay, that you are or are not comfortable with is fine. It's good. You SHOULD ABSOLUTELY DO THAT!
Confronting a total stranger online for posting/publishing/having a conversation that you are not even a part of, whether its an art, a fic, passing HCs back and forth that involve something you don't want to see, and and confronting them as if it was apersonal slight against you, is not
Telling people you don't know what they can and can't write, post, draw is not.
Even if you do know the person, they most likely weren't even thinking about you when they created it. They were just making their own fun. Creating things, sharing ideas, participating in fandom. They are allowed to have a life outside of you.
When it comes to people sharing their works, online, they DO NOT and SHOULD NOT have to stop writing, drawing, whatever they are doing just because it has a subject in it that upsets you. If it triggers you THEN YOU ARE NOT THE TARGET AUDIENCE.
Other people may have interest in the things you don't. Other people are comfortable seeing and reading things you aren't.
AO3 has trigger warnings FOR A REASON.
Outside of that, if you see people online, or in public having a conversation that YOU AREN'T EVEN PART OF, and you butt in telling them they can't talk about that cause it makes you uncomfortable, YOU ARE IN THE WRONG. There is a difference between asking someone not to talk about the subject as loud, and guilt tripping the hell out of them because it triggers you an makes you feel uncomfortable.
It is not their fault you decided to eavesdrop and stick around allowing it to bother you. You could have walked away. You could have looked at a chat elsewhere or something else entirely.
I know it's a cliché, but seriously, for those that do this, THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND YOU.
People should not have to run everything they say, do, create, take part in by you to make sure you're okay with it first.
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