becca brynn

🌷  think back to what made you dislike yourself. know that it isn’t your fault. were you ignored, bullied, mocked, or compared to others by people? in that case, just know that other people can be really mean and their actions are based on their own insecurity. other people’s mean words are not a reflection of who you are.

🌷 similarly, your mean words towards yourself are not a reflection of who you are. it’s based only on insecurities and fears, which you can’t rely on to tell the real picture. you are not ugly, stupid, boring, incapable, a loser or whatever insults you throw at yourself. it’s the insecurity, not who you are.

🌷 reflect on your actions. you can override your old beliefs by overriding your old actions. do you view media that makes you hate your body? do you eat regularly and healthily? do you sleep at suitable times? do you exercise? do you spend excessive times on negative forms of social media? do you isolate yourself intentionally? do you “mind-read” others? do you excessively overthink? these are good starting points for change.

🌷 whenever you do something that perpetuates your self-hatred, do or think the opposite thing. for example, when you don’t want to eat, eat something. when you want to sabotage a task, do the task so well that you surprise yourself. when you hate your body, smile and dismiss the thought as dumb and remind yourself of your beautiful features and how your face looks when you smile! you will feel powerful when you defy your old habits or beliefs. your self-hatred will get weaker the more your do the opposite thing.

1. Remove the discomfort around being alone. Take the time to learn yourself, by yourself. Do it often.

2. Start anew. Pretend you are learning to love a stranger. Familiarize yourself with even the most menial aspects of yourself, learn it wholly.

3. Understand and accept that you have changed, you are changing, and you will change. Attach yourself to nothing too tightly if you want to grow.

4. Grow more comfortable listening to the faint impulse within you. Follow it as much as you can, no matter how faint until you can hear it clearly.

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The ultimate love spell. The ultimate attraction spell. All is full of love. You deserve the purest form of love. The truest and most genuine love. You deserve a love unlike any other. And, you will receive it.

This is a lovespoon. They’re found in several cultures worldwide, particularly in Scandinavia, but most famously in Wales (that photo is a Welsh lovespoon) and, from at least the 17th century, they were given as gifts by a suitor to his intended lady. They’re supposed to be carved from one block of wood, and decorated with various symbols which have slightly nuanced meanings, all basically a variation on ‘you’re rad, want to get wed?’

Because marriage in poor, rural parts of Wales was often more akin to cohabitation at the time (i.e. you didn’t really have a big ol’ legal ceremony, you just sort of said ‘we’re married now’ and shacked up together) a lovespoon could act as a wedding ring of sorts; you’d put your goshdarn heart and soul into carving it and you’d give it to the dame you sought, and if she accepted the spoon, then you were essentially wed, or at least bound together in a meaningful way. It’s assumed that they were initially supposed to be at least somewhat functional, because people did in fact eat with wooden spoons back in the day, but they’re now purely decorative. And hoo boy, can they be decorative. These are some of the ones on display at St Fagans Museum:

Nowadays, they’re generally mass produced, and tend to look more like this: