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* I wake her up almost every morning. She gets snoozes if she asks. (She always asks) 

* When she sleeps away, I pick her panties from what she has given me as a selection the night before. When she sleeps with me, I reach into her bag and pick one. 

* Every morning she wakes elsewhere, I get devotional pics of her wearing the panties I’ve chosen for her that day.

* When she sleeps with me, I pack her morning bowl.

*When she sleeps with me, I pack her food to take to work. 

* When she gets morning wake up calls, the final call ends with me telling her, “boots on the ground little soldier”. 

* When she spends the night, we share a cigarette before we part to head to work. 

* She gets medicine reminders at 9am and 9pm every day. They are always, “Take your medicine little girl.”, to which her response is always, “Thank you Daddy.”

* Whenever we leave each other I text her emojis within minutes to remind her that though she has gone, she is still being thought of. 

* In eating food three times daily, she reports her food intake with me throughout the day. 

* Each day she hits all the beats in her structure, she earns a sticker at the end of the day. 

When I sleep with Daddy and wake him up from a nightmare, he holds me close and pets my hair.

When I need to get clean he helps dry me off, brushes my hair, puts my lotion on me.

*Every morning we have a wake up routine that includes a kiss, many snoozes, and pretty consistently, 2 orgasms with the Hitachi. 

* When she sleeps away, I pick her panties from what she has given me as a selection the night before.

*When she sleeps with me, I reach into her panty drawer and pick one.

*Every morning she wakes elsewhere, I get devotional pics of her wearing the panties I’ve chosen for her that day.

*When she stays with me overnight, I pack her morning bowl.

*When she stays with me overnight, I pack her food to take to work.

*When she stays with me overnight , I drive her to work.

*When she stays with me overnight, I brush her hair the next morning.

*If she showers or baths while at my place, I remove her collar and put it back on when she is clean.

*If she wants to rest wearing the collar, I remove it for her and put it back on when she is ready to wear it again. 

*She gets medicine and food reminders several times a day. They are always, “Take your medicine little girl.”, or, “Time to consume food little girl.”, to which her response is always, “Thank you Daddy.”

*Whenever we leave each other I text her emojis within minutes to remind her that though she has gone, she is still being thought of.

*In eating food three times daily, she reports her food intake with me throughout the day.

*Every weekend I buy her a package of her favorite cookies to eat, for when she returns from her weekend adventures.

Some structure has remained exactly the same. Some structure has added. Some structure (like the cigarettes of old) has fallen away. Structure will morph and change as your relationship does.

Spankings and other PAIN inducing punishments, are some of the most USELESS ways to discipline your sub within the realm of BDSM. You can’t correct the behavior of a MASOCHIST with PAIN. Pain is meant to MAINTAIN a MASOCHIST, not CORRECT them.

That said, my Monsieur doesn’t like to spank me for punishment because it doesn’t work well for him. He prefers to find the right punishment for each individual infraction, and more often than not, he opts just to have a conversation with me about why the rule matters and how I can ensure I obey it in the future. But my infractions are pretty few and far between.

Thank Them for giving you stability.

Thank Them for helping you see the best in yourself.

Thank Them for helping you work out the worst parts of yourself.

Thank Them for giving you tasks (I.e. structure).

Thank Them for giving you somewhere to send your particular brand of love and submission.

Thank Them for taking out the trash.

When I call her PIP, it’s because I am speaking to the submissive who is mine, and who is ours. A partner. A kinkster. A blogger. She is Pip.

Sometimes I want her to feel smol, so I call her HALF-PINT, or BABY LOVE, or LITTLE BEAN. 

If I want her to feel my desire for her, or her desire for me, she is my DESPERATE LITTLE CREATURE, my FIVE STAR FUCKDOLL or one DELICIOUS LITTLE FUCKTOY.

When I want her to wake up and feel her role right away, I say, “Boots on the ground LITTLE SOLDIER!”

…but when I want to say something real, something important, and speak to the whole girl, and not just the submissive who is mine, and who is ours, I speak her REAL NAME. The more of it I say, the more I mean for her to understand that I see and love her down to her core, and that what I’m saying I am being dead serious about. I’m not just speaking the submissive girl who brings all the piles of fun stuff. I’m not just addressing one aspect of her being. 

Give her many names, and many titles, which communicate many things, and then feed her by wielding them wisely, and precisely. 

JD 

Hi awesome educators! I have a question a out forgiveness: My Daddy and I had a recent very bad incident where we both did some pretty hardcore f-ing up. (He broke a Little promise and I had a world class tantrum) We had a constructive Meta talk (eventually) and an effective punishment. While D/s requires forgiving each other and moving on after, I am struggling a lot with self forgiveness. I don’t know how to get past the shame, guilt and embarrassment I feel for how I treated Daddy :(

Some people are happy… it’s just who they are…

Some people just can’t stand to see others happy…

Both are contageous…

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of course I know how to take initiative and do it own my own. 

I am strong, and smart, and perfectly capable of achieving my own pleasure and can aptly handle the challenge of denying myself the same.