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Part 2

Full instructions in part 1

Based on the video here

More tutorials and info on shibari (and me!) here

Where I got my rope

I have a huge problem with this.  This translates to, “I figured a guy with a rape fantasy wouldn’t have qualms about lying to women, willfully and knowingly violating consent, and refusing women the sovereignty of their own bodies.”  This is personally offensive, and more importantly, broadly implicating of men who enjoy rape fantasies.

This is what ‘rape culture’ means.  It doesn’t mean ‘all men are rapists’.  It doesn’t mean ‘a culture in which men think rape is acceptable’.  Rape culture isn’t just about rape or sexual assault.  It means taking a cavalier approach to things like consent and objectification.  It means relegating women to being afterthoughts in the periphery of a singularly male narrative.  It means that the kind of attitude put forth in this brief conversation are shrugged off, seen as normal, and met without reproach.

get to kiss their girlfriend soon

get to meet up with their girlfriends if they’re in a long-distance relationship

go on fun dates with their partner 

get to hold hands and show affection for them in a safe, loving environment