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Good on you for continuing, however that looks for you. If you are able to or have to work, good on you for continuing to show up as much as possible and doing your best! If you're studying, you're awesome, keep up the good work! If you're housebound or bedbound, good on you for pushing through the day, for contributing to online communities, for messaging friends, for loving your pet!

At the same time though, if you're struggling to keep up with all of it, it's ok to take a break. It's ok to reassess and pull back from some things. It's not just ok to look after yourself first, it's imperative.

"I hope you can rest soon."

"I hope you have a good day soon."

"I hope the pain lowers soon."

Saying "i hope you get better soon!" Sounds like "i have never interacted with a disabled person, i have no idea what to say to in this situation so i will say the thing i think im supposed to say."

We are not going to get better in the way you assume.

sometimes self-care is eating anything at all

sometimes self-care is logging out of all social profiles and ignoring messages

sometimes self-care is vividly imagining suicide to get a fraction of the thrill of attempting

sometimes self-care is closing your eyes and existing when it feels like you can’t

sometimes self-care is making the hard choices, writing the hard letters

sometimes self-care is going off at someone to get them to back down and leave you alone

sometimes self-care is sitting in a dark room and blocking out as much noise and light as possible

sometimes self-care is listening to old playlists

sometimes self-care isn’t pretty, or aesthetic or romanticisable. Sometimes it’s the kinda shit that therapists label ‘problem behaviour’.

Some people check the weather forecast, they prepare an outfit for the next day, or plan very far ahead

I don't do that

I just let it happen because maybe I will get hit by a car on my way home, or someone will decide to stab me on the street

Or maybe I will kill myself, and there won't be any tomorrow for me