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Hello, dear community! Emma here, your Mummy-in-training, with a little update that feels like another quiet win in our MDLB and FLR journey. James’s old iPhone was starting to show its age and he asked me about getting a new one. I had been thinking about it for a while because although the screen time controls on his old phone worked okay they were quite buggy and I never really felt fully in control. So instead of a regular upgrade I surprised him with something very different.

I got him a pinwheel phone (the kind similar to Bark in the US). Oh my goodness I absolutely love it. It lets me set exactly what he can and cannot see which finally gives me that sense of true oversight I was missing. All the apps are carefully curated to be child friendly with no social media at all which he is completely banned from anyway. I approve every new contact and I can read his messages although I trust James so much that I rarely need to check. It gives him some gentle freedom to message his friends and stay in touch but always inside a very safe environment that helps keep him firmly in the right little headspace.

The safety ratings for every single app are excellent and I can control precisely what he is allowed to do. For example the whole phone shuts down automatically two hours before bedtime which fits perfectly with our routine. We also have the standing rule that the phone stays only in the living room and never goes into any bedrooms. There is even a child friendly version of Chat GPT so James does not feel like he is completely missing out on modern things but I can still review the chats to make sure everything stays age appropriate and innocent.

I could not recommend this kind of phone more highly for any Mummy who wants to manage technology without constant battles. James pushed back at first when he realised it was not a normal smartphone. He looked a bit shocked and mumbled something about it feeling too babyish, especially the dinosaur cover I bought. But when I calmly explained the choice was a safe phone like this or no phone at all he quickly changed his tune and accepted it with only a small sigh.

Now a few weeks in he seems much more relaxed with it. He knows the boundaries are clear and consistent and that Mummy is quietly watching over things. It has removed so much of the old tension around screens and lets him have just enough connection with the outside world while protecting his little boy energy.

Has anyone else tried a pinwheel style phone or something similar for their little one? How has it worked for keeping technology safe and age appropriate without killing all fun? I would love to hear your experiences or any other clever tech solutions you have found.

Thank you for reading my happy little tech win story lovely community. James is still my best boy and these small steps forward keep making our dynamic feel smoother and sweeter every day.

With all my love

It’s Sunday, which means bubble tea, a comfy Bumz diaper, and getting lost in Baldur’s Gate for a few hours! 💕 I also wanted to show off my new nails, which might be my favorite set I’ve ever gotten! 🌸

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

Hello, lovely community! I’m so excited (and a little nervous!) to share our story with you. My name is Emma, and I’m a wife stepping into a new role in my marriage that feels both unexpected and deeply right—a “Mummy” in a Mommy Domme/Little Boy (MDLB) dynamic blended with a Female-Led Relationship (FLR). My husband, James, and I are venturing into this space together, and I’d love to connect with others who might have experience, advice, or just a kind word to share as we navigate this beautiful, unique path.

How We Got Here

It all started when James approached me about exploring a Female-Led Relationship. He’s always been drawn to the idea of me taking the lead in our marriage, and I’ll admit I was intrigued. I love the idea of guiding us, making decisions, and creating a structure that helps us both thrive. But as I started researching FLR, I found some of the dynamics a bit too… cold for my taste. I’m a warm, nurturing person at heart, and the idea of leading in a way that felt distant or overly strict didn’t resonate with me. I wanted something softer, more loving, and more connected.

That’s when I stumbled across MDLB, and oh my goodness, did it click! The idea of being a Mummy—of providing care, structure, and love while still holding the reins—felt like the perfect fit for me. It’s not about being harsh or detached; it’s about creating a safe, cozy space where James can let go, be himself, and feel utterly loved. At first, I wasn’t sure how he’d feel about the “little” aspect, as he hadn’t initially expressed interest in that dynamic, but we’ve been talking a lot, experimenting gently, and finding our rhythm together.

Why MDLB Feels Right for Us

For me, stepping into the role of Mummy feels like an extension of who I already am. I’ve always loved taking care of James—whether it’s making sure he eats well, reminding him to slow down when life gets hectic, or just being his safe place to land. MDLB lets me lean into that nurturing side while also giving me the authority to lead our relationship in a way that feels natural and fulfilling.

We’ve decided that James’s baseline “little” age will be around 10 years old. For us, this feels like the perfect balance. At this age, he can still make some basic decisions—like choosing what game to play or what snack he’d like (within reason, of course!)—but he still needs Mummy’s permission for bigger things, like going out with friends, buying something expensive, or staying up late. It’s a sweet spot where he gets to feel a bit independent but still knows I’m there to guide and protect him.

For example, we’ve set up a bedtime routine where he has to be in bed by 8:30 PM unless Mummy gives special permission for a later night. He also needs to check in with me before heading out anywhere, and I handle our budget, so he runs purchases by me first. These rules aren’t about control for control’s sake—they’re about creating a structure where he feels safe to let go and I feel empowered to lead with love.

James’s Hesitations—and Our Journey Together

I’ll be honest: James was a little hesitant about the “little” aspect at first. He loved the idea of me leading as he wants to work on himself, but the idea of embracing a more childlike role felt new and a bit vulnerable for him. We’ve been taking it slow, talking openly, and checking in often to make sure this feels good for both of us. What’s been so beautiful is seeing how much he’s starting to relax into it. The other night, he curled up with a blanket while I read him a story, and I could just feel the stress melting off him. Moments like that make me feel like we’re on the right path.

What I’m Hoping to Find Here

As much as I feel like this dynamic is right for us, I know we’re just at the beginning of our journey. That’s why I’m reaching out to this amazing community! I’d love to hear from other Mummies, littles, or anyone with experience blending MDLB and FLR. What’s worked for you? How do you balance the nurturing side with the leadership side? Are there any pitfalls we should watch out for as we settle into this dynamic?

I’m also curious about ways to deepen our connection in this space. Maybe some activity ideas that fit a 10-year-old little age? Or tips for creating rules that feel loving but firm? Honestly, any advice or encouragement would mean the world to me as I step into this Mummy role with my whole heart.

A Little About Us

James and I have been married for six years (UK based), and we’ve always been a team. We love cozy nights in, silly board games, and dreaming about our future together. This new dynamic feels like a natural evolution of our partnership—a way to lean into our strengths and love each other even more deeply. I’m so excited to see where this journey takes us, and I’d love to connect with others who are walking a similar path.

Thank you so much for reading our story! I’m sending so much love to this community and can’t wait to hear from you.