"I have cats at home. Come over."

Sometimes stimming is scraping your fingernails up and downs your arms or legs, or picking at your skin because you're in an uncomfortable situation you can't get out of.

Sometimes stimming is making really loud noises or rubbing your hands along rough surfaces like concrete while being made to wait for something.

Sometimes stimming is biting at your cheek or tongue, or digging your nails into your hands just to try and concentrate/focus better.

Sometimes any harmful stim can happen even when you're excited.

aw tysm!!! hahahaha

They actively spend time making the place inaccessable for those with disabilities or difficulties in favour of pushing company agenda and anytime I bring it up, my opinion doesn't matter and I get shut down.

Which is hard to say whether that's the ADHD or just being inconsiderate. But I know that many people with ADHD may act on their desires before others, usually due to impulsivity. Maybe they're seeking the dopamine hit of approval from the company which makes that their priority over inclusion for others?

Disabilities that affects one cognitively can make it really difficult to differentiate between symptoms and genuine personality. And as much as it frustrates me, I feel like there's nothing I can really do otherwise I'm just assuming. I'm having to cater towards this person because I can't actively tell the difference. Even if I could tell the difference, the disability could still be tied into the actions of the personality.

Stop saying - "I wish I had higher support needs autism."

Start saying - "I wish I was taken more seriously and had easy access to supports I need."

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Stop saying - "I wish everyone was autistic."

Start saying - "I wish people were more accepting and inclusive of my disability."

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And seriously, when people say this stuff, stop saying shit like "you're missing the point". That comment means that you expect everyone to read between the lines and not take those comments at face value for what they are.

You don't wish you had higher support needs autism. Because you don't wish you were more severely disabled. You don't wish to lose your independence and become reliant on others. You don't wish to lose your autonomy. You don't wish to stop being able to do the things you're currently able to do. You don't wish to be kicked out of public spaces.

There are so many things that you don't wish you had that comes with a more severely experienced disability.

Please go educate yourselves and stop with the assumptions that all higher support needs autistics have access to and get the support they need. Even if they do get support, it's often barely enough to survive. You wouldn't be better off. You would not be taken more seriously. So many of us aren't taken seriously at all.

You also don't wish that everyone was autistic, because if you did then you would be willingly wishing the kinds of autism that are significantly disabling no matter how much you changed society. Not everyone wants to be disabled and that shouldn't be such a bad thing to say.

And please stop the whole "I said exactly what I meant", because no, no you didn't. What you think you are saying is not the reality that aligns with what you are actually saying.

But I really want to talk about clashing disabilities and how it is making my workplace a living nightmare that is single handedly ruining my mental health.

The disability that is clashing with mine? ADHD.

People keep talking about how similar it is to autism or whatever. But in solely autism and solely ADHD, they can be genuine enemy disabilities. They clash so significantly.

Especially when one is put in a position of power over the other.

A big problem that many autistics and ADHD people have is that they lack the kind of self awareness that tells them how their disability is affecting others. Quite often, they think they have this awareness but they don't. This is one of the problems I'm also running into.

I am also so incredibly tired of many ADHD people acting like they know what autism is like and how to help autistic people.

I genuinely had one tell me that if I stopped masking then my social abilities would be a lot better. Because that's what worked for them.

There is not a single moment of peace and calm in my workplace because of this. And the only accommodation that is sort of working but not really is requesting to never be put on shifts with them.

And this isn't meant to be a hate post. Outside of these situations, ADHD people are the ones I tend to befriend and get along with a lot better. Especially a lot better than other autistics.

But this isn't a single experience. This is an experience I keep coming across.

I need order. I need routines. I need rituals. I need to know what's going on. I need things to be the same. The routines, difficulties with change, and rituals part of autism is the part that heavily impacts me.

I'm not getting any of that. All because someone came into our team, in a leadership position, with a disability that clashes with mine.

The worst part? If one of us has to leave then it would have to be me. Because accommodating me becomes more difficult and the workplace doesn't like dealing with that.

And all I can think is "oh... is that not normal?", because I have a lot of thoughts like that too but I realise that I mostly just throw those thoughts out the window or embrace the potential possibility of the worst case scenario.

Ya know what a lot of the comments kept saying "We don't need a cure", and "society is the problem, not us", and "autism is a personality type", and "we don't need to be fixed".

Please, kindly, shut up. If you don't want a treatment option then don't take it. You do not get to speak for all of us.

If there becomes a treatment option that can significantly improve an autistic person's life? Then they deserve to have the choice to take it.

No matter how much you change society, many of us will always be disabled. Having treatment options will be a game-changer for so many lives.

I have yet to see a single safe space that actually was safe for autism. It just doesn't exist.

All these safe spaces have these seemingly arbitrary and unspoken rules. You have to constantly read between the lines. You have to meet the unspoken social expectations of the group.

If you don't meet these unspoken expectations then you're kicked from the group.