Bears, Daddies, Otters, Etc

Everyone wants to feel like they’re worth something. Some people build a fake sense of self-worth by pretending they’re better than other people. 

1. Go out. You may not be able to now, you may be living with your parents or in the closet, but get off grindr & go out as soon & often as you can. Some of the worst gays (& also some of my absolutely wonderful bestfriends & occasionally myself) are on grindr, but dating apps are a toxic cutthroat place that do NOT represent the best our community has to offer. It will surprise you how much different people are in person.

2. Comparison will kill you. Do not compare yourself to the instagays you follow, their lives are not as perfect as they make them seem & the grass is always greener on the other side.

3. If someone has to put down others to feel better about themselves that speaks more volumes about the kind of person they are than who they’re putting down. If the gays you follow post captions like “how’s florida?” on their yacht selfies off the coast of Italy unfollow them now.

4. Reorient your priorities in positive healthy directions. If you want friends then reach out to people you know to be friendly individuals & surround yourself with them. Friendship is not a conquest or a challenge. It should never be one sided.