I used to be the BIGGEST Armand hater, but thereās something so pathetic and desperate about his character that has turned me into his biggest fan.
Armand has NEVER been the first choice. He tries so hard to change himself into his partnerās desires, but itās never been enough because everyone he pursues ends up using him as a coverup for their true desires(ex: Louis with Lestat). Armand even KNOWS heās the coverup, but he just accepts it. Heās so desperate for this idea of being love, of unconditional love, that he just allows it(cue that one line from perks of being a wallflower: you accept the love you think you deserve)
In some of the first ever Loumand romance scenes, Louis is ALWAYS thinking of Lestat and Armand knows this. Even in scenes where Louis says he loves Armand, he can still hear his thoughts flee back to Lestat. He knows heās not the one Louis truly wants, but he just stays anyways. He keeps changing himself because he still holds out hope that he, for who he is, will be chosen.
At the same time heās okay with the love heās accepting because he doesnāt even truly know what he wants for himself. Heās never been his own person; he just sees himself as an extension of his romantic partners in a sense. Heās spent half a millennium morphing himself into others desires and self sabotaging.
Louis lost so much control in his relationship with Lestat that he tries to overcompensate for it in his relationship with Armand- meaning he reverts back to his hypermasculine, pimp persona. Armand notices that Louis needs this illusion of control and he so desperately needs to feel wanted, protected, and loved that he reverts back to his subservient persona. They have such a complex dynamic because of this- which, for example, is why their āpetnamesā for each other consist of Armand calling Louis āmaitreā and Louis calling Armand āArunā (the name given to him at the brothel he was sold to). They both revert back to some of their worst moments with each other, making the toxicity of their relationship cyclical.
Armand has been a survivor for so long that even if he has to revert back to such a traumatic persona, Arun, heāll do it as long as he feels some form of live in response. When Louis first calls him āArunā you see him pause and then just give in, because heād throw away his issues with the name in order to appease Louis and be what he wants. Heās okay with pretending to be meek and malleable if it means he can earn Louisā affection.
All of this is to say that Armand has known nothing but self sabotage and despair, which is why daniel molloy is so perfect for him.
Daniel figures out who Armand is, bad and all. He lives Armand BECAUSE of it, NOT despite it. Theyāre toxic donāt get me wrong, but theyāre exactly what the other needs. They provide the love and understanding for each other that theyāve been craving from others.