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Why aren't we talking about the real reason male college enrollment is dropping? (Celeste Davis, Oct 6 2024)
"White flight is a term that describes how white people move out of neighborhoods when more people of color move in.
White flight is especially common when minority populations become the majority. That neighborhood then declines in value.
Male flight describes a similar phenomenon when large numbers of females enter a profession, group, hobby or industryâthe men leave. That industry is then devalued.
Take veterinary school for example:
In 1969 almost all veterinary students were male at 89%.
By 1987, male enrollment was equal to female at 50%.
By 2009, male enrollment in veterinary schools had plummeted to 22.4%
A sociologist studying gender in veterinary schools, Dr. Anne Lincoln says that in an attempt to describe this drastic drop in male enrollment, many keep pointing to financial reasons like the debt-to-income ratio or the high cost of schooling.
But Lincolnâs research found that âmen and women are equally affected by tuition and salaries.â
Her research shows that the reason fewer men are enrolling in veterinary school boils down to one factor: the number of women in the classroom.
For every 1% increase in the proportion of women in the student body, 1.7 fewer men applied.
One more woman applying was a greater deterrent than $1000 in extra tuition! (âŚ)
Since males had dominated these professions for centuries, you would think they would leave slowly, hesitantly or maybe linger at 40%, 35%, 30%, but thatâs not what happens.
Once the tipping point reaches majority female- the men flee. And boy do they flee!
Itâs a slippery slope. When the number of women hits 60% the men who are there make a swift exit and other men stop joining.
Morty Schapiro, economist and former president of Northwestern University has noticed this trend when studying college enrollment numbers across universities:
âThereâs a cliff you fall off once you become 60/40 female/male. It then becomes exponentially more difficult to recruit men.â
Now weâve reached that 60% point of no return for colleges.
As weâve seen with teachers, nurses and interior design, once an institution is majority female, the public perception of its value plummets.
Scanning through Reddit and Quora threads, many men seem to be in agreement - college is stupid and unnecessary.
A waste of time and money. Youâre much better off going into the trades, a tech boot camp or becoming an entrepreneur. No need for college. (âŚ)
When mostly men went to college? Prestigious. Aspirational. Important.
Now that mostly women go to college? Unnecessary. De-valued. A bad choice. (âŚ)
School is now feminine. College is feminine. And rule #1 if you want to safely navigate this world as a man? Avoid the feminine.
But we donât seem to want to talk about that."
I always knew this but it's crazy the power we have when you see it laid out with stats- if we can influence men to stop being vets, teachers, designers, writers etc. what else can we do? As women live a more expansive life, they retreat. No wonder they see female liberation as an active threat to their well-being. We could potentially "Girls Have Cooties" them into exiting life itself (hopeful).
I'm surprised that it hasn't been added that once a field becomes female dominated, income drops. It's late and I've had a couple of wines but if you look at various fields that were once male dominated, the more women dominate the industry the more the wage of said industry stagnates. This I'd prevalent in teaching, in what we now call "soft sciences", in health care. It's rampant, and its noticeable.
âThere is a right-wing ideology and a left-wing ideology. The right-wing ideology claims that the division of mother and whore is phenomenologically real. The virgin is the potential mother. The left-wing ideology claims that sexual freedom is in the unrestrained use of women, the use of women as a collective natural resource, not privatized, not owned by one man but instead used by many.
Men of the Right and men of the Left have an undying allegiance to prostitution as such, regardless of their theoretical relationship to marriage. The Left sees the prostitute as the free, public woman of sex, exciting because she flaunts it, because of her brazen availÂability. The Right sees in the prostitute the power of the bad woman of sex, the maleâs use of her being his dirty little secret. The old pornography industry was a right-wing industry: secret money, secret sin, secret sex, secret promiscuity, secret buying and selling of women, secret profit, secret pleasure not only from sex but also from the buying and selling. The new pornography industry is a left-wing industry: promoted especially by the boys of the sixties as simple pleasure, lusty fun, public sex, the whore brought out of the bourgeois (sic) home into the streets for the democratic consumption of all men; her freedom, her free sexuality, is as his whoreâand she likes it. It is her political will as well as her sexual will; it is liberation. The dirty little secret of the left-wing pornography industry is not sex but commerce.
The new pornography industry is held, by leftist males, to be inherently radical. Sex is claimed by the Left as a leftist pheÂnomenon; the trade in women is most of sex. The politics of liberation are claimed as indigenous to the Left by the Left; central to the politics of liberation is the mass-marketing of material that depicts women being used as whores. The pimps of pornography are hailed by leftists as saviors and savants.â
â Andrea Dworkin
Pornography: Men Possessing Women / ch. 7, pg. 207-208
I've seen a lot of women who think they're lesbians because of their repulsion, discomfort or fear of men. Bisexuals who call themselves lesbians on the internet because they feel uncomfortable with men, even if they know they feel attracted to them. I just want them to know that it's okay to be bisexual and still not be with a man. Hell even as a straight woman, it's okay to never touch a man if you don't want to. These are called boundaries, you always have the choice to put yourself and your comfort before your attraction. You don't have to call yourself a lesbian to prioritize women in your life. Personally it took me a long time to accept my bisexuality, I've been with men before but i convinced myself i was a lesbian with comphet, but deep down i knew it wasn't compulsory heterosexuality, i knew there was a part of me who actually felt attracted to them and i hated it. Knowing all the harm men have done to women over history, knowing all the harm men had done to me personally, i felt absolutely repulsed around them and i deeply regret being with men in my life. I thought my repulsion and regret over my past meant i was a lesbian who gave up to society's expectations and was now disappointed, but i wasn't. Know that you can feel repulsed by men and still feel attracted to them, this is not contradictory. Seeing all the posts in this website that say bisexuals are like half straight and don't experience real opression because they can always be with the opposite sex and will most likely end up with them, this made me feel awful because i couldn't think of a worse destiny than being in a relationship with a man. But to everyone else, know that these people aren't right. You can be bisexual and never (or again) be with a man in your life, in any kind of a relationship. As bisexuals we can choose to be with any of the sexes we feel attracted to, and you have the right to choose women every time.
About how men rape women with âconsentâ
This post is not mine, but one radfem woman from our community. She works as a sexologist and shared her experience in her work. If you too are a sexologist, or even better, have some statistics on this topic, please share your experiences or links. ---------------------------------------------------------- "When I first started working, I discovered that many men had never experienced the need to refuse intimacy with a regular partner. That is, a man in counseling complains that his partner often refuses him, he attributes her refusals to personal dislike and faded feelings, and when he tries to turn the situation around and remember when he himself had to refuse her, he does not understand what we are talking about. Because he has never had to - he responds to the initiative of his partner every time and considers it a sign of love and attraction on his part.
I heard this very often, I couldn't catch the lie and at the same time I couldn't interpret it. They are not robots, after all, to be available 24/7 at all hours of the day and night?
One day a client in a session literally opened my eyes with one phrase.
She said: âI CAN SEE WHEN HE'S NOT UP TO IT.â
That's the secret. The notorious emotional service. Subsequently, and many other women have confirmed this in a targeted survey: when the desire for intimacy arises, a woman assesses her partner's condition BEFORE taking the initiative. If she sees that her partner is tired, sick, in a bad mood, or preoccupied with something, she does not consider it appropriate to offer sex. I have also heard from many women that in a situation when she can not clearly assess the state of the partner, she prefers to flirt, as if casually get naked, as if accidentally do something that usually arouses the partner. If there is no reaction to this, the woman usually refuses to take the initiative and solves her problems on her own, without forcing the partner to conflict and feel guilty.
Men don't want their partners all the time - it's just that no one gets in their underwear when it's inappropriate. No one forces them to think about sex when they don't want to think about it.
Men themselves don't usually check against anything but their own erections.
They don't care when to offer sex to a woman(the following is a real and far from complete list):
Who is asleep (well, seriously, I don't know any woman who would ever think of waking up a sleeping partner to satisfy her sexually);
who's back from her 24-hour shift;
who just finished cooking a holiday dinner for ten people;
who has a high fever;
who's been vomiting all day;
who is eight months pregnant with a complicated pregnancy;
who has undergone a termination of pregnancy that day;
who is in the terminal stages of cancer;
who's just had a pet die;
returning from the funeral of a beloved grandmother;
waiting for a call from the NICU where their (mutual!) child is (âLet's get a little loose while we waitâ) - and so on and so forth.
It may seem like it's a matter of cognitive distortion, that they just don't get itâŚ.. But they do. I asked one of them once: does he really think that a person in such a state can want sex? Yes, it is clear that they don't want to, he replied, but I'm just in case - maybe it will work out. I asked him how he would react if it didn't work out, and he admitted that he would be hurt and angry. And that's another âsecretâ - why it does burn out. Because refusal will inevitably lead to conflict, and a woman often does not have the strength not only for sex, but also for an argument. When he offered sex, she basically can not get out of the situation without damage - either to be raped, or to deal with his tantrums and offenses. And unfortunately, sometimes the first one turns out to be the lesser harm."
Unfortunately very, very real. Here are situations Iâve been taken advantage of by my ex male partners:
After grieving a loved one, in particular when my grandma died in Mexico (I wasnât able to go), and when a friend died from murder (Itâs happened 3 times in my life). The excuse: âyou will feel better from sex!â
Having a panic attack while smoking weed. Excuse: âSex will ground you back to reality!!! You will feel safe when having sex!â (Spoiler: I didnât, I had no idea what was going on)
Mental illness , depression , PTSD in general. There will be periods my libido will be lower than hell. Excuse: âDo you not love me anymore?? My exâs never wanted to have sex with me :((( â (I can see why buddy)
Took too much allergy medicine and I was so drowsy, I fell asleep. Excuse: there wasnât any, I was raped in my sleep.
The worst one was when I wasnât feeling well in my stomach, I told my ex moid I didnât feel well at all, and in advance I said âI do not want to have sexâ. Went to bed cause my stomach was hurting. He kept trying to touch my ass and my pussy and I kept shaking him off and moving his arm. He did this maybe 10 times, so fucking annoying. Then he stopped. Then I heard him crying, literally like a toddler, balled up his fists crying. I was like wtf. Turned into a 2 hour argument about how his exâs hated him and now I hate him because I didnât want to have sex. Literally because I refused that 1 time. I noped out of there and shortly after the relationship crumbled because I realized he didnât care when I said âI donât feel like your girlfriend, I feel like your sex servant because we never do anything and you always expect sexâ
This is why I donât engage in romantic nor sexual relationships with men anymore. Itâs not just 1 man, itâs not just 1 instance. It has been many instances from many men who have tried to guilt trip me into sex (rape with âconsentâ). Yes itâs true. I didnât have energy to constantly deny sex and on top of that have an argument why I dont want to have sex. Itâs constant in every male relationship and I refuse to deal with it much longer. Yes this is TMI. But most moids will read this and go âwell thatâs just one man!!!â No. It seems to be every man, I fear.

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Grown women who mock 10-year-old girls on tiktok for using too much makeup and skincare are so ironic and painful to watch.
Acting like these girls didnât get their ideas from you. They were listening when you were telling them how you should start your retinol treatment as young as you can. They were listening when you told them 30 step routine is a game changer. They were looking at you, at women on the billboards, magazine covers and in the TV shows with perfect skin, perfect eyeshadows, perfect hair and realised they should do the same, they should start as young as they can or it would be too late.
These girls are present when you mock other women for their age. Young women ages 20-30 get bullied for having normal faces. âOh my god i thought you were 50â at a woman who is clearly in her thirties.
These âhelpful tipsâ how to not get wrinkles which include donât lift your eyebrows, donât emote in general, use anti-wrinkle straws, donât forget to get botox on time.
Red light therapy, sleeping with your mouth sealed, in one position on your back so either side of your face wonât get squished and swollen.
But these little girls are funny, yeah, letâs mock them. Why donât you mock the promoters of these ideas? Why donât you mock billion dollar industries? 10-year-olds at Sephora are funny, I wonder if you find the absence of women with real faces on screens as funny
I try to avoid online feminist discourse about women in the West because the level of freedom they talk about is something I can only dream of for people in my country. I wish we could have debates about things like bi-erasure in media or subtle misogyny, but that feels so far away in a place where same-sex marriage isnât legal and marital rape isnât even recognized as a crime.
That is why when I see some white woman bragging about her choice to be a "trad wife" or adopting Hinduism as a religion, it disgusts me. These arenât empowering choices for us - theyâre tools of our oppression. Here, women are forced into arranged marriages, denied basic education and pressured into being docile housewives. Hinduism isnât some liberating "girlboss" religion - itâs deeply rooted in Brahminical patriarchy.
And oh boy, when these kinds of videos and discourses from the West make their way into the Indian manosphere, it just gets harder for us to fight against these oppressive, patriarchal practices.
FROM: off our backs, August/September 1999, V.29; N.8 p. 7, Word Count: 2852by Karla MantillaâAfter doing some reading in postmodern theoret
After doing some reading in postmodern theoretical texts, several things about the theory suddenly struck me as incongruous. I have been trying to see not just what postmodern theorists say about their theory, but more importantly, how postmodern theory functions in the worldâwhat are the effects of adopting postmodern thinking and theorizing. What became clear to me after some reading was that the overarching effect of postmodernism is to silence thinking and speaking, both personally and politically. I am aware that this is a rather outrageous statement given the attention postmodern theory pays to privileging the voices of
marginalized people, to giving voice to those previously unheard, and to investigating the silences embedded in the dominant discourse (to sling a little postmodern verbiage myself). However, in a deep reading of how postmodern theory functions, I find that these claims are little more than lip service. The important thing to see is not what postmodernism says it does, but how it actually functions.
One of the things that has made me especially curious about postmodernism has been my experience working with interns, for the most part, undergraduate college students, at off our backs. Often, as may well be imagined, in the midst of getting a mailing out, shipping out back issues, or some other tedious office chore, I tend to get involved in discussions of feminism with interns. More frequently than I wish, after offering my perspective on a particular event or theory, interns will reply to me, âYou canât say that.â My usual reply is, âI just did.â I donât mean to be flip in my response, but I am trying to communicate that you can in fact state your opinion without self-censorship or an overexaggerated reluctance to say something that others disagree with. You can in fact state things clearly and concretely, however controversial. Others can disagree, but you do, after all, get to say things
One intern, assigned to cover an anti-choice event, became confused about how âYou canât say that anti-choicers are wrongâthey have a viewpoint too. You really canât say any viewpoint is wrong.â She actually became confused about her stand on abortion after hearing the fervent beliefs of anti-choicers. Not that she was convinced by the merits of their argumentsâthat would have been at least an honest mistake. It was her inability to hold any argument as being more valid than another, so that as long as there are competing positions on any topic, she seemed unable to take a stand on it. This, as I see it, is the cumulative effect of postmodern academic teachings on students of womenâs studies these days. They are rendered unable to take even the most obvious of stands with any conviction.
The advent of postmodernism as the prevailing academic theory is of great significance, not only within academia but for feminist as well as progressive social movements. There are several problems with postmodernism, the first of which has to do with the way it has coopted some of the key insights of radical feminism, but stripped them of their political impact.
Radical feminism, diluted
One of the core insights of postmodernism is that everything is socially constructedâgender, race, class, personal attributes, etc. Postmodernists take great pains to elaborate on every nuance of every social system that has been constructed. There is great emphasis on constructions arising from particular places in the social orderâa white rich American man will ascribe to a worldview that confirms and legitimizes his position. This is nothing newâradical feminists had this insight years agoâsocial systems profoundly shape and determine peopleâs lives in ways that donât seem readily apparentâeven intimate and personal aspects of peopleâs lives such as gender roles, sexuality, even their sense of self.
What is really interesting is the way postmodernists theorists write as though this is big news. Radical feminists have been saying this for years. And in a classic patriarchal reverse (a la Mary Daly), postmodernists accuse radical feminists of being essentialists, that is, believing that gender and other qualities are biological. That is precisely the opposite of what radical feminists have been saying all alongâthat since gender is so thoroughly socially constructed, it can be constructed differently, more equitably. Where radical feminists do part ways with postmodernists is their understanding of just what a difficult project this is to undertake. And the radical feminist view that this has not yet happened nor could it happen so facilely is why they are accused by postmodernists of being essentialistâbecause although it does not arise from biological differences, there is now a significant difference in the ways women and men are raised and socialized, hence there is currently a great difference in some ways. I think of postmodernists as a brand of âyouâve-come-a-long-way-babyâ feministsâblithely in denial about just how deeply patriarchal conditioning runs and patriarchal institutions are entrenched.
Subverting the subordinate paradigm
In addition to the cooptation and subsequent dismissal of radical feminism, another even more insidious way postmodernism subverts the subordinate paradigm is the way some of the key insights, while claiming to allow more voices to speak, actually silence all voices, causing proponents of postmodernism to be muzzled and muddied in their speech and writing.
Postmodernism: the masterâs tools
The hallmarks of postmodernist thinking are tools and methods that serve to reinforce the way things are now. Even while espousing radical politics, the cause of marginalized people, working against all oppressions, the tools of postmodernist thinking foil the project from the start. Some of the primary tools that have the effect of silencing speech are as follows:
Writing styleâAlthough the obtuse writing style is an easy mark for criticism, it must be emphasized again that even highly educated people struggle with its nuances and meanings. As I have struggled to make it through the painfully dense and clumsy prose that is characteristic of postmodernist writers, I have discovered that the thinking underneath the layers of prose absolutely does not merit such convoluted presentationâthe ideas are no more complex or complicated than ideas in progressive, marxist, feminist or other theories. This writing style is more than inconvenient and cumbersomeâit has an effect.. As Katja Mikhailovich writes in Radically Speaking (see review in this issue) âMy first response, and the response of many women I have talked with since, was to doubt my own intellect and ability to make meanings of these texts.â The effect (presumably unintended but effective nevertheless) is to create self-doubt in the intellectual abilities of the reader and to discourage students from theorizing about their own experiences and lives thereby making the connections necessary for radical consciousness and activism. The ability to create theory is relegated to those in authorityâprofessors and their ilk. Even thoughtful and analytical students come to see theory making as excessively complex and out of their reach.
Another conspicuous feature of postmodern writing style is an abiding hesitancy and reluctance to say anything definitive. Witness the reflexive self-doubting parentheses and unanswered questions posed for effect. Also there is much âcalling into question,â âmoving toward a theory ofâŚâ and âcalling for a discourse onâŚâ in the place of definitive statements. Statements are frequently qualified out of existence. New words are made up almost daily (the old ones I presume are too precise in their meaning) which add mystique and uncertainty about what is really meant. Finally the advent of the irritating, unnecessary, and inappropriate âsâ on the end of every other word rounds out the obfuscation (added even to nouns which are already plural)ââknowledges,â âdiscourses,â or âpositionalities.â
It is ironic that with this prolific onslaught of postmodern verbiage and theory, hardly anything is in fact said. Sheila Jeffreys points out in Radically Speaking that ââŚin post-modernist feminist writing there is much agonising on how hard it is to speak or write.â The net effect of all this is to silence and muzzle speech and to inhibit taking a strong clear passionate stand on anything.
Denunciation of the meta-narrativeâFor the uninitiated, a âmeta-narrativeâ is an explanatory statementâone that attempts to explain something as a generalizable concept rather than simply describe a specific individual situation without any generalizations. So according to postmodernists, any time someone uses the dreaded âmeta-narrative,â they may be suppressing and silencing other voices. If you are willing to say something definitive, someone somewhere is bound to disagree. If you are saying something with which no one disagrees or no one feels is wrong, you are probably not challenging the status quo (or anything for that matter). It is a grave mistake, however, to conclude that you must self censor because, by speaking, you silence othersâ speech.
The other feature of the denunciation of the âmeta-narrativeâ is that it effectively subverts the meaning of the personal is the political. In postmodernism, the personal, rather than being the political, becomes only and exclusively the personalâany attempt to create bonds between oppressed individuals or to raise consciousness about how individual experiences are really reflective of larger social forces is reinterpreted as silencing other voices. Any attempt to make generalizations is seen as silencing and rendering invisible those people for whom the generalization does not apply. This defies a basic understanding of the concept of a generalizationâof course it is not true for every single person in the groupâit is, after all, a generalization. Exceptions alone do not, however, disprove the validity of generalizations. If I make a generalization that people stop at red lights while driving, certainly it is true that occasionally, some people do not; however it is an accurate and useful statement that people stop at red lights. It describes, with reasonable accuracy, a social phenomenon. To say that the generalization is not true simply because a few people do not fit it, is ludicrous and leaves us unable to describe or name even the most obvious social norms.
The overall effect of this turn away from âmeta-narrativesâ is to stop people from being able to describe their social conditions, from being able to generalize about personal experiences in their lives, from being able to see the commonalities of experience that can mobilize them to see problems as political rather than personal. The net effect is a lot of womenâs studies students saying, âYou canât really say that,â about even the most basic truths.
Denunciation of binarismsâBinary thinking involves thinking in dualistic mutually exclusive categories such as good or bad, gay or straight, woman or man, etc. In postmodern thinking, binarisms are bad (that in itself is an unavoidable binarism). Some theorists say that binarisms are the root of all oppressionâthat without them we could not oppress others. Unfortunately, without binarisms, we also cannot make a definitive statement. Making a statement, especially a political one, requires that we say one thing is better than (or worse than) in some way than another thing. If we avoid binarisms (a feat which some postmodernist writers do manage to approach in their flailingly uncertain prose), we cannot say, for example, liberation is better than oppression, being fed is better than starving, being healthy is better than being sick.
By demonizing binarisms, the effect is to stifle clear articulate speech. People become so mired in trying to avoid choosing one thing over another that they are rendered incapable of sustaining a passionate conviction on any topic.
Taking the social out of social constructionismâWhat is perhaps most fascinating about postmodern theory is that for all the talk of how things are socially constructed, they forgot the implications of âsocialâ in social construction. After their supposedly new insight that nearly everything is socially constructed, they do not advocate much for transformation at the social level, ie. for changes in institutions, social norms, social structures such as the family, etc. Instead there is much attention to individual acts of transgression of conventional social norms as a way of highlighting that social norms are constructed and not natural or inevitable. This kind of rebellion in postmodernism is a very isolated activityâit consists of individuals taking it upon themselves to fight battles all alone. There is not an emphasis among postmodern theorists for building a critical mass of people united in a social movement which could begin to effect changes at the social level. There is instead a very superficial understanding of the how social forces workâa naive and libertarian emphasis on individual actions and choices as though the cumulative effect of each isolated individual choice or action will effect largescale social transformation. The net effect of such an atomization of individual activities serves to prevent rather than foster social change.
The curious timing of postmodernism
What I find most interesting about postmodernism is not what postmodernists say about it, but how it functions in the real world (and Iâm assuming there is one) in terms of social change. The effects of the intimidating and obfuscating writing style, of inhibiting generalizations and so the formation of commonalities between people, of ruling out binary thinking and so eviscerating impassioned convictions, and of overemphasizing individual rather than collective action is to create a multilayered system of disconnection, silencing, and disempowerment.
What is also interesting is the timing of the advent of postmodernist theory. As Somer Brodribb and Barbara Christian point out in Radically Speaking, postmodernism came into vogue in academia just when the voices of women and people of color began to assert a significant presence there. It seems that when groups other than those in power attempt to say things, suddenly truth dissolves into meaninglessness. This is a little too coincidental for my taste.
The coincidence becomes even more striking when it becomes apparent that this is not the first time this has happened. Right after the first wave of feminism, in the 1920s, when women had made some advances, had gotten the vote, and began to gain some access to academia, another nihilistic kind of theorizing became the rage in academiaârelativism and existentialism. Again, just when women were trying to gain access, and to articulate our points of view, suddenly nothing was meaningful anymore, everything was relative, and meaninglessness was lauded as high theory.
I suggest that postmodernism is nothing more than the new relativism and that relativistic theories emerge as a new line of defense when power structures are becoming threatened. It is a very insidious and crafty defense because it mouths the words of liberation while simultaneously transforming them into meaninglessness. The real agenda is masked in clever obfuscationâto preserve the status quo by rendering dissent meaningless and ineffective, unable to gather any social or political power. Notwithstanding postmodernismâs purported intention to deconstruct social norms and by so doing, make way for changes, its actual effect is to atomize peoplesâ experiences, obliterate the potential for solidarity, silence articulate and forthright speech, and render passionate convictions meaningless. It leaves us unable to condemn anything as wrong or oppressive with clarity, certainty, or conviction. Furthermore, nearly all of the so-called insights of postmodernism are simply rehashed and depoliticized versions of radical feminist ideas. Postmodernism is a theory which denounces the act of theorizing, it is speech that silences voices, it is writing that stultifies and obscures, it is a position which advocates no position at all, it is a politics which refuses to take a stand on anything. And we must see the politics of thatâit is a viper that womenâs studies and English departments have nursed to their collective bosoms. It is a theory, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. It is a stealth theory that contains a virus which, once incorporated, explodes all possibility of impassioned righteous collective action for changing the conditions of our lives.
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"I'm pretty with makeup"
"I'm pretty without makeup"
Radical feminism: "It doesn't matter if you're pretty at all. You don't exist to be pretty."
"Female body hair is okay"
"Female body hair is not okay"
Radical Feminism: "Female body hair simply exists and is completely neutral. Talking about whether its 'okay' doesn't even make sense."
"Presenting THIS way makes you a man"
"Presenting THIS way makes you a woman"
Radical feminism: "Nothing about the way you present makes you a man or woman. Gender isn't real."
I love that radical feminism just removes you from so many binaries of thought. It makes them completely nonsensical. Why would I analyze whether I'm pretty when it doesn't matter either way? Why is the acceptability of my body hair even a subject of discussion? It merely exists, just like the bark on a tree. Does society sit around and debate whether a tree ought to be able to keep its bark?
I've come to realize that I've been handed a ton of "either/or" choices about who I am all my life and told to make a decision on each one. And they were all illusions! I just exist. I never had to justify the way I am or even formulate an opinion on it.
I have a deep disdain for looksmaxxing and everything it represents. I came across an account captioning a before-and-after transformation with the question: âWhich version do you think is happier?â
This caption is a glaring example of how society conflates the distortion of facial aesthetics with emotional well-being. It perpetuates the harmful notion that happiness is directly tied to one's adherence to an idealized image. This line of thinking reinforces societal pressures, suggesting that altering your appearance to fit unrealistic beauty standards will somehow unlock personal happiness or fulfillment.
But the truth is, happiness doesnât stem from conforming to external ideals. It is not a product of surgical enhancements, filters, or societal validation. Instead, happiness comes from withinârooted in self-acceptance, meaningful connections, and freedom from oppressive standards that reduce our worth to how closely we align with impossible beauty ideals. Promoting these ideas only deepens insecurity and fuels the beauty industrial complex.
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Naomi Wolf compared this shit to cult recruitment tactics.

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If youâre having writers blockâŚREAD!!!! CONSUME MEDIA
I feel like I donât hear that given enough as advice for writers block..just read? Watch tv? Movies? Find inspiration in media.
Writers block is a lack of inspiration, so go collect more.
and i hate when people say âjust because you find it degrading doesnt mean it isâ okay but there are clothes, sex positions and actions that are clearly meant to be degrading, like thats their purpose. there is no world where kneeling down in front of someone with your hands tied and having a dick shoved into your mouth to choke from it is not degrading. âbut i enjoy itâ yeah because for whatever reason you get sexually aroused from being degraded - its still degradation. in fact you enjoy it because it is - as does your sexual partner. im so sick of all sociocultural discourse being tainted by intellectual dishonesty. postmodernism is just deconstructing and questioning everything even when somethings explicit purpose is not ambiguous. i once asked a man why he liked deepthroat, if it feels better? and he said no its just nice seeing you choke on that dick. and some women might internalise this as enjoyable, but there are still objectively identifiable power dynamics to it. sick and tired of hearing about personal feelings. come back when you have general arguments and ready to see the big picture. we are analysing social structures here
If people are arguing that that isn't degrading, I don't want to know what they DO find degrading.
âWhen I hear non-disabled people frame the use of women in prostitution by disabled men as a human rights or sexual expression issue, my blood boils. There are three false statements implicit in this argument. The first is that disabled people are so sexually unappealing that no one would have non-paid sex with them. The second is that sexual preferences are a human right. The third is that the sexual appetite of disabled men should take precedence over the advancement of womenâs equality. - Jess Martinâ
â The notion that itâs ok for disabled men to pay for sex is rooted in misogyny and ableism (via feministcurrent)
Also, human rights are things we are OWED, and it is generally morally permissible to TAKE in order to have these rights upheld.
If I cannot afford to eat, it would be morally permissible for me to steal food in the eyes of most reasonable people⌠Water? Nobody would consider me a bad person for drinking from someoneâs hose out the front if I had no other access to clean water. If I am unable to find shelter, it would be morally permissible for me to break into a disused building (even if it causes damage).
By calling sex a human right, we imply that it is morally permissible to obtain without consent, or by force, and that not giving another person âaccessâ to your body is the moral equivalent to denying them food or water.
This is so well-put. Also, isnât it interesting how disabled women are suddenly invisible in this narrative?
Why arenât disabled men bringing up their fellow disabled women in these discussions?
Why canât they just partner up with their fellow disabled women? Oh right, because theyâre not âdesirableâ so you couldnât possibly expect us to partner with them!
What about their right to purchase sex from men as well? Why arenât they pushing for more men to enter the sex industry work force for these women? Oh right, because they donât actually care.
Itâs all a ruse. To cover for the fact that they truly believe their access to womenâs bodies is their birthright. Purchasing this access is how they compensate for not being able to take by force.
I think women should be allowed to have bad opinions. Idk. I donât really trust anyone whoâs violent or hateful towards women they donât agree with. Iâd never tell a woman who is completely antifeminist that she should kill herself. Iâd never threaten to rape a woman who votes for Trump. I might not want to be best friends with these women. But theyâre still women. Theyâre still human.
See, this is why the reaction to TERFs feels weird to me. A lot of those who âcriticizeâ gender criticals self identify as feminists. You are not a feminist if your reaction to a woman having a different opinion than you is to threaten her, tell her to kill herself, insult her appearance, etc. No matter how bad the opinion is, NOTHING justifies threatening to rape a woman.
I remember years ago there was a post saying âif youâre not Xist, slurs arenât part of your mental landscape and therefore they wonât âcome out in the heat of the momentâ no matter how angry you are.â Same with rape threats. You donât say that shit unless you think itâs fine to rape women.
this is like when people get caught doing something wrong and they blame it on drink or drugs and say "people who know me know that's not me, i'm not Xist"
the thing is either people do know they're Xist or they just found out because if you're Xist under pressure or drugs or drink
you're Xist
guy next to me on the beanbags in the uni library is watching the name of the rose on his phone. slay
I've ordered this book a couple of days ago and I'm so excited for it

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Lundy bancroft legit has dedicated his life to working directly with abusive men to interrupt their thinking and behavioral patterns, and making said patterns knowable and nameable by women. That is what male feminist ally behavior actually looks like. Obviously the every day person isnât going to spend their entire life doing the kind of work he does, but on a micro level, recognizing and speaking about male pattern aggression/manipulation and disrupting those patterns in yourself and those around you is something you can actually be striving for.
That means not using your newfound gender awareness as a way to make women caretake your guilt, or coming up with clever ways to âovercomeâ that guilt, or using feminist rhetoric as a social capital or manipulation tool. Itâs not that weâre not all very glad that youâve learned how to cry â it would just be nice if you werenât just doing all the same old stuff âonce more, but with feeling.â
I love the way he never believes in their lies. I love the way he looks at things with complete honesty about the situation. I love how he is a man who is genuinely unwilling to trust abusers.
Hereâs a free pdf of his book, Why Does He Do That?
I cannot believe I didnât realize until this moment that Lundy Bancroft is a man.
He also really doesnât beat around the bush. He comes right out at the beginning of the book and says heâs using âheâ for the abuser and âsheâ for the victim, because that is the majority of cases. As with all âgoodâ men, Iâm cautiously optimistic, but Why Does He Do That? is a very resource to have. At the time of writing heâd counselled over 1000 abusive men IIRC.
I decided to look at Andrea Long Chuâs âfemalesâ essay(?) and holy shit, it is worse than the famous quote. a man who admitted to being a porn addict in the essay telling us what it means to be female because he read one Solanasâ work and watched copious amounts of lesbian porn is absolutely disgusting.