Audaciousjohn

In the search within myself, I have discovered that my satisfaction and happiness is closely tied to a number of things. First, I am happiest when I am with a woman who is open and honest about who she is and what she wants and needs. I think this is probably because it takes a woman having extraordinary trust in order to be 100% open with anyone, even herself. Especially herself. I look at this trust as my reward for being honest and emotionally engaged and willing to accept whatever response she gives, including no. I am finally at a place in my life where I am completely comfortable with others not responding positively to what I am or what I say or do. That is very liberating and allows me to truly be who I am in a relationship, whether intimate or not.

Secondly, I am happiest when a woman who is confident and capable enough to take care of herself and all of the myriad of events going on in her life, chooses to allow me into her world and to care for her. I am not happy with codependence or drama seekers; however, a confident and capable woman who also is willing and able to show her vulnerable areas and receive support and love and guidance if appropriate is sexy as hell to me. I love nothing more than to see someone face their fears and conquer them and grow in the process. That is amazing.

Thirdly, I am happiest when I can have truly open communication without fear of being shut down and judged for what I am thinking or saying. I am a little strange in that I like to talk out my thoughts on subjects and events that I am going through. Being able to engage in conversation - deep and passionate conversation - and to be able to gain perspective on why or what someone belives and to be able to better think about my own beliefs is my jam. Being able to keep those lines of communication open in the bedroom (or wherever is currently being substituted for the bedroom) is when I reach my nirvana. Sex starts in the mind and forplay should never end.

Finally, I am happiest when I know that life with me in it is easier and better than it is without me. I know there are aspects of life that are brutally hard emotionaly and physically and the only real thing I can do is be present, lend an ear, and be supportive in the appropriate way. However, if that is my “job” at that point, then I take pleasure in knowing that I did the best I could for that person.