I’m posting this one more for myself. Because for a minute there I was really on my game, felt amazing to jus be in the top 4 consistently every single night. And then idk what happened but the drive I had jus like got run over by the fuck boys coming into the club and I’ve been really struggling to push and stay focused, even when I feel like I’m going 100 everyone else is going 300 and I’m jus frustrated. So these tips are so I can read this for the week of my Vaca and come back motivated and ready to keep it 1000👌
Consistency- in dancing you have to be consistent. You must consistently be on your A game, smiling and being chipper and bubbly and having your hair done makeup on. You must consistently talk and have the same similar conversation, where you from? What brings you in? How’s your day? The conversation must always stay on him even when he asks you something personal you must find a way to bring it back to talking about him.
Example. I’m heavily tattooed for my club, so when a guy begins to ask me questions about what does this mean? what’s this one? You never want to get into this long conversation about your tattoos. So I jus casually explain my arm piece and most noticed tattoo and then ask him if he has any? As quickly as possible. Almost every guy who visits our club has 0 so I tell him that I like how he’s a blank canvas and he looks good without them. Thus we are back to him.
Consistency is getting a dance so that your hustle is strong. So keeping the convo focused on him you can get to the point of the dance. I got a tip this weekend and I used it several times with success so it definitely works. When u get to the point of your asking which should be done in a 4 song time limit. You begin to explain the options if you club has any. ***Marketing tells you to start with the highest option first ending in your lowest. So let’s jus go with my club has 2 types of dances, so I would say something along the lines of.. “We have a 40 dollar special, which gets you a nude and a topless dance and a free beer (or 3$ off a mix drink) or we can do a topless dance for 20 dollars.” Now as you say this once you get to the close of the sentence you take the man by the hand, letting him know you want him and your ready then you lean yourself away from him and begin to pull on his arm to get him to come with you. The look your trying to create is one that the man feels like omg look how much she wants me, she’s actually pulling on me. Your tryin to make him feel like I’d he doesn’t go all the other men will see him as a lil punk bitch bc a hot ass girl is beggingly pulling on him. I’ve found that staying silent after this and/or nodding sexyly a little (another marketing and manipulation trick) usually works. A sales guy once told me once you’ve closed you stop talking you’ve made the sale there’s nothing left you should say. Don’t over sell if they’ve already agreed.
Consistency is making sure you ask everyone and use the above mentioned conversation style and actions. If there’s 20 ppl in the club and you ask them all in different ways then you never really nail down a rythem and it feels like your all over the place. But if there’s 20 guys and you ask them all consistently the same way and 10 go well that’s either 200 or 400$ at my club. And then you must consistently focus on going back to the 10 who didn’t go.
Everyone finds their own ways of conversation and how they ask and how they get dances but you have to get your rythem and a quicker paced one when it’s busy or you have about 2 hours left til close is better. You have to somewhat create a sense of urgency when it’s packed and your trying to make money. You can’t stop and sit and try to have a full on conversation when it’s money making time. You also can’t lose your focus when your watching girl after girl get a dance. Let yourself be happy for that girl even if you don’t like her she’s your team mate. Without her working there you’d have to be on stage more which cuts into you making money so try to stay positive, don’t let the frustration show on your face. If you keep this attitude that fuck this dudes money I already made all the money I needed last week you’ll seem more carefree and it will reflect better to the customer.
Focus- focus on how long your talking to a customer, which ones are spending and where they are, always know what’s going on around you. Focus on using words that make him feel like you wanna have a good time with him too not just for the money. Such as “we should have some fun.” Or “You look like your ready to have some fun.” Because you gotta keep it all fun and flirty. When your on stage and you ask for a dance say “when I get down I’m going to come get you for some fun, ok?” Always end in ok. Everytime. Because when he says “ok.” Back that is him agreeing to a dance. You really don’t want to give him any other form of responding you jus want him to say ok. Not a yeah sure after another beer or blah blah blah bullshit. Lol jus ok. And when you come to get him you take him by the hand and pull him up outta the chair and you walk slowly** to the dance area.
I say slowly because it’s not a rush, at least not at my club bc we have to wait for a new song anyway. So you want to take your time walking with him holding his hand letting the other guys see you and wonder where your taking him and watching your body move and think to themselves “I want her to take me” you may not be on stage anymore but it’s still all a show.
Once your in the dance the focus is on trying to get a second dance. If you consistently try for a second dance from every guy let’s say a 20 dollar from the 10 that took your earlier and 5 of them go for it then you’ve made 200 of 5 guys. So most of us know basically every ending of a song or know when a new one is about to start so if your doing a grind dance in their lap you always want to end facing them. You want to make those last grinds the best and the sexiest and when that songs jus about finished you should say “I wanna do another.” You want him to feel like you actually like him, your feeling him, you don’t want to get out of his lap. (As a side note this is a tip I’m currently working on bc I have a hard time with the wording it’s honestly all about the look and how you say it and I have a hard time saying it without feeling cheesy or ridiculous but it does work I promise you that). So if you keep it consistant like that and stay focused then you should have no problem getting a dance or more dances from a single person. Then as you leave the dance you should always say thank you and take him by the hand and lead him out of the dance area then once you’ve walked out you give him a hug and then continue the hustle. If your uncertain where to go.. go to the guys you make eye contact with while your smiling. And if it’s that crunch time hour you put your arm around him and say “you look like your ready for some fun we should go for a dance.” And hopefully you’ll be turning right around and going back to work trying for that second dance.
So it’s late and now I’m forgetting everything else but the main points are consistency and focus. Like I said this is also for me to get my mind right and get back up my game the summer season will be over before I’m ready for it to be. But I hope there’s something here that helps anyone even jus a little bit!!
“Make them like you.” -my owners key advice.
