let the vagina have a monologue

“I say misandry is not feminism. Misandry is still centering men. Misandrists come to the comment section to say “misandry is a response to misogyny. I am entitled to my rage.” I hear you. And what if it’s a snake eating its own tail? What if participating in misandry perpetuates misogyny? What if participating in the misandry perpetuates TERFism, perpetuates racism, upholds other terrible ideology? When you’re saying I hate all men, kill all men, all men are evil. All of them. The transgender ones, the ones that are also suffering under systems of oppression, the black, brown, indigenous, every single man. Every single man. It’s not lost on me historically how extremist rhetoric is used tactfully to make oppressors aware of how dire the problem is of the oppressed. And maybe because when we stay in our rage for too long, because we feel justified and righteous in our anger and our hate, we actually start contributing to the systems of oppression that we’re trying to break free from in the first place. Maybe there are a bunch of little boys on the internet right now that are coming into their existence in a time where manosphere and red pill ideology is widely available to them. While also women are saying things on the internet like alll men are evil and I don’t want to be around them. Maybe boys feel confused about that. Maybe if we’re realistic about actually valuing humanity, actually wanting to protect women and children, we are mindful of how that hateful rhetoric gets in the way of keeping boys out of that red pill ideology.”

Life kills!

I suspect this is because whenever men want to reduce the damage of their rape and violence, they don't know how to do it outside of highly restrictive societal construction. As they are incentivised to ignore the root of the problem, they will always 1. project it onto women, 2. deflect with scapegoats, and 3. create strict social rules in the hope that they can at least make the violence happen elsewhere, or have it hidden from view, so they don't have to look bad, or feel bad, about what they are doing to women en masse.

Conservatives, for example, oppose pornography because they, like the pornographers, believe that sex 'corrupts' women, and they don't want their own female relatives to be corrupted. Meanwhile, feminists oppose pornography because of the material violence committed by men against women within it. But men cannot percieve that women have our own reasoning, so they assume we must align with the male 'conservative' viewpoint. They do the same thing the conservatives do and deflect a male problem - belief that sex, interchangeable with rape, is sinful - onto women, who recognise that there is a difference between consent and rape and simply wish to not be raped.

Women's recognition of moral horrors and our desire to minimise them/be shielded from them is considered 'pearl clutching' because men do not take our claims or morality seriously. They have decided that the violence is a necessary evil, and that morality is not simply a recognition of material harm, but some ethereal and symbolic 'greater good'. The horrific damage caused by men is a nuisance that must be stratified and organised. When this damage is criticised by women, it is understood to be a roundabout way of addressing the same concerns that the conservative man has - and the very fact that women care about actual harm, and therefore we have an emotional investment in the topic, is used as further proof that we are frivolous, unserious, and incapable of making the hard decisions required for leadership. Men, you see, already know that their violence is a problem, and conservativism has its ideological solutions, so everything women say and get upset about is not only redundant but either hysterical or manipulative. The idea that women simply care is never taken into account - because we're all raised to conceptualise the world from a male point of view.

wondering: why are they all men? i want one with a woman?

interesting. “rubbing hands men” comes up with similar results to the initial search, but “rubbing hands women” brings up five gifs focusing on women’s fatness. i’m sure that’s normal.