aromanticising your faves since 2017

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btw romance isn't real and you can't have it. just so you're aware

i was talking to friends who's main view of tumblr is that everything is sexualized on here. and when i said i do see that i also know that the most vocal groups of asexuals are on tumblr. eventually i realized how much of tumblr was de-sexualizing sex. like just saw a post of a gifset of a sexy lady smoking and tying up hands with the reblog text "me putting the little tag back on the bread bag" and so many posts are like that. just saying or talking about some sex shit in a completely neutral non-sexual manner. I was going in loops around my head trying to figure out why it was like this, something about being so used to nudity and sex and that's not shocking or even sexy anymore, until circling back to the fact that tumblr is full of asexuals and maybe the most respectful place of them. it was then a saw a poll (a post I CANNOT find again for the life of me but it was some type of sexuality poll or something) and was shocked by just how many people answering it were asexual, until I remembered this and went. oh. so yes everything on tumblr is sexualized but not even for sexualization's sake or for sexual satisfaction. its for the bit

Being annoying about being aromantic is so fun

Being annoying about being aromantic is so fun

Does it irk anybody else about the lack of nonbinary headcanons that don’t use transmasc/transfem. Can we have one nonbinary character that’s just transneutral and that’s it. Can anybody hear me

aspec identities aren't identities i guess. a lack of attraction isn't an identity in itself it's an absence that can be filled i guess. aspec identities and interpretations are the lowest tier of importance, like a blank canvas that can be painted over with something more valuable: romance and sex. did you know that you can complain about anyone who thinks of characters as "just" friends and it's well within your right, to say that platonic interpretations are boring, but if you complain about the way that shipping is frequently posited as the only valuable lens through which to interpret a relationship because "just" friendship isn't enough, or if you complain about how romantic/sexual relationships are considered automatically more deep and meaningful than mere friendship, then that's annoying. did you know that several times i've tried to propose aspec headcanons and i've been dismissed because there's no such thing as "proof" that a character is aspec because an absence doesn't count as an identity. an absence can be filled. did you know every conversation is about romance and sex and i can never participate. did you know romance and sex are the heart of the human experience. did you know it's all just for fun. why are you complaining? did you know it's just for fun, but not for you, because you don't count, because you aren't anything, because what you propose is a blank canvas that can be painted over, an absence that can be filled

they should invent a term for shipping were I don't think they should be in a romantic relationship however I believe they are each others parasite and separating them is not an option

it is of course true that you can engage with media however you like. and it is also true that if you only find something worth engaging with if it centers romance then I, as an aromantic person, will not feel comfortable around you. and aromantic people are allowed to talk about this without being shut down as the "fun police" or whatever.

pride flag for nonbinary asexual aromantic individuals that just says "not gonna do all that"

i keep having people tell me that my aroace rant posts are aggressively worded and i just wanna say my tag for those isn't called aroace haterposting for nothing ok? if you want it to be aroace niceposting you should perhaps make your own posts then because mine are essentially like vent posts because i've gotten tired of being the bigger person lmao

i will stand by this forever btw we should be hitting people with hammers

occasionally i'll see people bring up the so-called "ace discourse" like some sort of past historical event and it's like. you mean the rampant aphobia and exclusion and bigotry? you mean the bigotry that never really stopped and is still alive and well? that ace "discourse"??

"discourse" is in quotations because i don't consider it discourse btw. that was a hate campaign that impacted people's lives and continues to have an impact on people to this day and i think reducing it down to just internet discourse, something that generally isn't considered serious, is another form of aphobia that surrounds the whole thing. people just don't take aspecs and aspec issues seriously and once you start noticing it you never stop

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