I know this is a generic question, but can aroflux folks date others? Like, them dating someone who isn’t on the aromatic spectrum?
Can they be in a romantic relationship, or eventually would they just grow uncomfortable with it?
I have a…friend…who asked me out and things were going well, then about 3 weeks later they said that dating me literally sickened them. Should I take that personal? Or is that a normal feeling an aroflux person feels?
Now I’m conflicted as it’s been about 3 months since then and they wanna get back together…but idk. I don’t mean to be rude, I’m trying to be sympathetic, but it’s hard to be when you don’t exactly understand what’s going on.
I ask this so I can further educate myself and see what I can do to understand them better.
It really depends on the person. There are completely aromantic people who never feel romantic attraction and perfectly happy to date. There are people who are not aromantic at all and don't like dating.
I know this isn't really the advice you came here for, but there really is no other way to know how this specific person feels about things unless you ask that person.
It's absolutely fair to be frustrated and confused when this person doesn't seem to be explaining themself all that well.
At least for me, I have a lot of confusing feelings about romance and relationships that do often change and are inconsistent. I don't know this person, but I think there is a chance that they might not understand what is going on either.
If they want to get back together with you though, I think it's worth talking more in-depth about where this person is at on the idea of a romantic relationship and where they think that might be in the future, as well as what they plan on doing if they do feel repulsed by being in a relationship in the future again. Then you can decide if that sounds like something you want to try out or not.
