whatever a moon has always meant

i ship them but in an infinitely more nuanced and aromantic way than you ever will

hmm, how to say this in a way that doesn't accidentally and incorrectly convey that I'm on any various Mad At Someone islands... it is completely #validandreal to be put off by and feel uncomfortable about discussions of sexual violence subtext in fiction, it takes no stretch of the imagination to figure out why it's not to everybody's taste, That's Fine, not everything is for everyone, I'm not making rounds on people's blogs to say Engage With This Abuse Allegory Or Perish. I also think it's completely fair to not want to engage with a lens because it paints a character you like and/or relate to as metaphorically sexually abusive and it doesn't feel good to contemplate that, you get to think about what ever you want in your own blessèd mind and you don't have to bring something into your sandbox if you don't find it fun to play with. what I think is a problem is having that subjective discomfort reaction to sexual violence subtext and then using that discomfort by itself to argue that the reading is invalid and that the people talking about it are just making craaaazy reaches. not enjoying a line of thought is fine, thinking that a particular vein of analysis doesn't hold up to strong counterarguments is fine, saying "I don't like thinking about this so it's wrong and everyone should stop talking about it" is a whole different thing and just further taboos and stigmatizes conversations about sexual violence even in fictional and abstract contexts.

and even beyond the "further stigmatizes talking about sexual violence" thing, it's also simply not good analytical practice. if your goal is fully considered litcrit rather than playing in a sandbox then you cannot dismiss something as invalid just because the vibes are off. usually if a take's vibes are off but you can't pinpoint any actual flaws in its argument then that's a flag that you should focus on that area and figure out what the text is doing to make you uncomfortable, the paper cuts are almost always markers of the really interesting stuff.

"Doomed yaoi" this "doomed yuri" that what about doomed found family. What about finding comfort in these new people after going through so much on your own—a community, a solace, a home to come back to. Caring for them with all you've got, only to realize that it wasn't going to work, ever, no matter what you tried. Only to have it ripped apart, no matter how much you tried to hold them close. Found family that becomes lost family. Found family that takes your heart with it when they go.

Yknow not getting annoyed with the like/reblog ratio is a lot harder now that they've put it front and fucking center

The first rule of fandom is have fun. The second rule of fandom is find an enabler and become an enabler. Yes you should write that fic. What if it was even hornier? What if it was angstier? What if you wrote it just for me?