Love Languages
As little kids, the romantic comedies we watched taught us that love is loudâ it is jewelries bought in velvet and suede boxes, buses ran after, and boomboxes held outside our bedrooms. As we grew older and entered this little bubble called âfirst love,â it was further proven to us that it should be loud, otherwise it isnât real. Photos were posted up on everyoneâs walls, long messages became a trend, and bouquets became bestsellers.Â
Personally talking, growing up, Iâve always loved love. I loved the grand gestures, the cheesy handwritten letters and good morning notes, the poems, the songs, I can go on and on and youâll think of me as one giant ball of cheese which eventually grew to a person. But I guess somewhere along the way, I lost that. Donât get me wrong though, I still love love, art and words, but if you come to think of it, how difficult could it be to write a letter or two? How do you know if itâs true or not? I have witnessed enough pain and lies to make me stop believing in them, but Iâve never stopped doing so in love. As much pain as Iâve witnessed, the love Iâve felt is twice as much; just more than enough to make me hold onto it tightly.
Oh well, if we keep on talking about the whole idea of love, weâre going to be here for a while, so instead of babbling about all the cheesy things I used to like, I would like to share with you the kinds of love Iâve witnessed and stories of it Iâve heard over the yearsâ the ones that made me hold onto it tightly.:Â Â
Look at how much love a look can hold. Our lolo was in his last years when this photo was taken. He was often sick and he didnât have enough strength to work. But when his first grandson was born, he used his pension money that was intended for his medicines to buy him that red toy car. Â
This photo isnât even enough to describe these twoâs relationship. The love they have for each other only grows stronger as they grow older. They look out for each otherâs children, and even reprimand each other when they arenât taking care of their health.Â
Most of the time, love comes in the form of an aunt who loves her nieces and nephews as her own, from the time when they can still fit in a make shift crib/boat/tub (?) âŚâŚ
âŚ.to when they can barely do in this photoâs frame.Â
There are many kinds of love and more plenty ways of showing it. Iâve downloaded a lot of pictures for this particular piece but none of them captured my tita driving all the way from Las Pinas to Zambales at night to provide us supplies of diapers, only to drive back again the next morning.Â
They didnât show my tito bringing his daughter foods every other day at her momâs placeâ or how my dad rushed to the church when he heard the door shut while we were having our personal prayers because he knew mom was scared of the dark.Â
Sometimes, itâs difficult to look for it. There can even be times when you feel like it doesnât even exist, which makes the looking even more difficult than it already is. But hereâs a promiseâ love will never be gone. It is always there. It may not be at your home, but it could be with your friends who support and accept you, your teammates who push you to do better, and all the other people who arenât used to loving loudly. Theyâre there, I promise. All you have to do is look a little more closely.Â
More importantly, aside from it always being there, it is unconditional and accepting.Â
So if you love love and gestures as much as I do, why not show someone you love that youâre thinking of them? We know just the perfect gift.Â
written by: Jullia Nicole SantiagoÂ















