♥ Aesir ♥

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

It's been a while since I drew Lotor last time...

I had a dream last night and in this dream I saw Lotor with huge soft wings. He was just like an angel. And when I woke up I realized that I MUST to draw him.

Hey guys! As some of you might already know I ended up with extra copies of the recently released MDZS manhua and so will be giving away ONE COPY! I bought my copies from 快看漫画, one of the only three stores that are selling the official manhua.

The winner of the GA will get ALL of the below:

1 x MDZS manhua book

1 x Clear acrylic/plastic WangXian card

4 x Character bookmarks

*This giveaway DOES NOT include the poster that’s supposed to come with it because I’ll have to buy a poster tube & that adds weight to shipping and the book should already be quite heavy 

*I’ll pay for shipping as always, the items will be shipped to me end of the month at the earliest, so I will ship the items out 1st-2nd week of September

Giveaway details:

To enter the giveaway, simply reblog or like this post - Each reblog/like = 1 entry

You don’t have to be following me, so please don’t feel like you have to follow my blog just for the giveaway

Giveaway ends 24 August 2020, 2359 hrs (GMT+8)

ONE winner will be picked via a random generator and announced by 26 August!

Do check the notes above on what is included in the giveaway, and when shipping etc. will be

If you are a Lotor stan, reblog!!

Lotor deserved better

Lotor deserved better

Lotor deserved better

Lotor deserved better

Lotor deserved better

Lotor deserved better

[ID: A comic panel depicting Shiro (left) and Keith (middle), with Kosmo sitting between them. All are facing a sunset offscreen but only Kosmo is looking at it. Shiro looks down, as though regretful, and Keith looks at him. The speech bubble indicates Keith is speaking and reads, “The garrison needs you. And I need you too.” End ID.]

IT’S HERE AT LAST! Episode one of our reconstruction, Rise and Atone, is now live for viewing on our website!!

Click here to watch!

Please reblog and let your friends know, we’re ecstatic to be able to share this with you! This is a labor of love, we’ve been working on it for months with an entirely volunteer team, and so we welcome any and all feedback and tips that might help us improve future episodes! This is the first project that we’ve undertaken like this, and so we’re learning as we go.

A very very VERY special thank you to the band Lotor and the Generals for providing us the music, and to @pridearts for ALL the art you see in the new scenes! Please send them all your love, and we simply couldn’t have done this without the goodwill and skills of all the amazing people helping us out.

Stay tuned for official #TeamPurpleLion commentary on our narrative choices, and we’ll be sure to update you all as we work on reconstructing “Genesis”, which is episode 3 in our lineup!

Hualian - Love Like You

spent the last few weeks painting this!! (there are spoilers throughout the books, watch only if you’ve finished tgcf) 

lotorweek day 6 - pleasure/pain