🇩🇪Amiee🇬🇧

Tasks are often part of a D/s relationship and can be used to create a routine or used in a more casual manner.  

I am of the belief that a task should have a purpose.  They should be something the sub can achieve and they should be something that has significance to the sub.  Tasks can be a great way for a sub to learn something new, change bad traits into good ones, or provide arousal for both the Dom and the sub.  I don’t believe tasks should be used to set a sub up to fail, they shouldn’t  cause stress or  anxiety and they shouldn’t be something that is just a list ticking exercise for the Dom..

The setting of tasks carries responsibility. Just as following up on these tasks is important. Subs carry out task because they want to please their Dom. The Dom setting tasks has meaning for a sub and makes them  feel the Dom cares about them, otherwise why set them tasks. Therefore ignoring tasks a sub completes is like telling them the task carried no importance to you and you don’t really care.  The flip side of this is the sub also needs to be honest in their carrying out of tasks. Having a task set  and simply saying, yeah I did that, when they didn’t shows a lack of care towards the Dom.

This is why understanding your sub  is so important, Understanding how your sub feels about tasks being set and whether there are any types of tasks they feel they couldn’t carry out. Subs should also be honest and  speak up if a task is something they honestly feel they can’t do. Not just don’t want to do but have a valid reason  for not carrying it out. I have had online so called Doms set me ridiculous tasks that have the potential to land me in jail for indecent exposure.  Firstly exhibitionism is not my thing and if any of them had taken the time to get to know me they would have learnt that. Hence them losing any respect I may have originally had for them.

Tasks can be extremely helpful to a sub. I am terrible about eating at decent times. I have a task that I must eat by a certain time unless Sir agrees otherwise. I don’t like the task but it has a point and it has been set for my own good so I do it. But the other side of this task is that if Sir doesn’t acknowledge my completion of it I feel it has no meaning to him and he really isn’t that interested in whether I do it or not.

Edging isn’t for you.

Denial isn’t for you.

Pain isn’t for you.

Anal isn’t for you.

Oral isn’t for you.

You’re also not a bad sub if you need to safeword, if your limits are different today, if you have chronic conditions or mental health struggles that limit you more than you’d like.