Indulge...

It’s not very often you see rules for Daddy Doms! It is always in relation to the Little. And whilst I can see why it is that way, I truly believe DD’s need Rules too, to ensure they are providing their little with the best care possible. Below are only 10 simple rules I believe to be of high importance for DDs. Yes this is only MY opinion and I have only written 10 when there are about 500… so feel free to comment below and add any rules that you see important for a DD to adhere to! 🎀

1. Say Good Morning and Goodnight EVERY SINGLE DAY - via text message if long distance. Not doing this can trigger abandonment fears.

2. Set your Little a task or a request, every day. It can be something small like; write me a note and send me a photo, colour me a picture, wear blue underwear etc or something bigger - go to the gym for one hour, send me photos doing ‘x, y, z’, write down your monthly goals and send them to me.

3. Have a code word for when your little feels like they need some therapy punishment. This will help to alleviate any extreme bratty behaviour that ultimately leads to mass arguments and your little shutting down because they feel like they can’t communicate properly.

4. Buy your little a stuffie - I am not usually one to condone needing to purchase anyone anything. But giving your little something that will remind them of you when you’re not around (whilst may seem trivial and insignificant to you) is almost as romantic as getting down on one knee to a little! They need that constant comfort and feeling of security in times when you can’t be there or they can’t get a hold of you.

5. Never, ever, EVER take yourself away from your little as a punishment! For example - DO NOT stop talking to them, ignoring texts and phone calls, not seeing them for a length of time etc ALL of these things are abandonment. Abandonment is one of the most common fears and anxiety triggers for a little. Using this horrible tactic will only cause anxiety, potentially depression and will ultimately lead to the trust being broken down.

6. NEVER say things like - “grow up”, “stop acting so immature”, “you’re acting ridiculous”, “you’re being a baby”, “grow up”… I would suggest never saying these things in an argument, as I see all of them as hurtful but ESPECIALLY so if you know they are in little space. This is like telling a cat to stop acting like a cat. It’s hurtful, impossible and makes them feel like their space is no longer safe.

7. Know the names of their stuffies and interact with her about them. Ignoring them only makes your little feel like you think they’re silly, again making their space feel unsafe.

8. Give your little - RULES! Eg (but not limited to) Bed time, wake time, clothing control, internet usage, permission to go out, alcohol limits, ‘little time’ - colouring, drawing, movie watching, no eye rolling, no raising voice at Daddy etc

9. Safe word use - always, ALWAYS ensure your little has a safe word and that they feel comfortable using it! This safeword may be used in physical play, or at any time they feel the need to stop an action, argument, discussion, activity - absolutely ANYTHING they believe is harming their physical or mental state in any way. Test your little to ensure they will use their word also to ensure they are comfortable.

10. After care - After care is not a sometimes thing. It is a NON NEGOTIABLE. A little will always require after care after physical play, but also after any kind of punishment. This shows your little the punishment is over and restores the love and makes your little understand that what happened was because you love them. Never ever punish and then let the punishment drag on. Punish, after care. OVER.