Ah, yes, Snopes has it. Textbook is from Canada.

She is for the girls who accept mistreatment from a toxic lover because they confuse toxic love for true love as it was the only form of love they ever experienced. She is for the girls that have never been in a relationship because they know they will accept mistreatment and confuse that as love because it’s the only “love” they experienced growing up and it’s scares them to even think about it. She is for the girls that only dream small because they feel they’re not worthy of something better, yet somehow that small dream seems like the biggest achievement to them. She is for the girls that are in constant survival mode even when they don’t need to be.

She is for the girls that pray they will find a man like Rhysand so they can grow, heal and love in a way they deserve. She is for the girls that learned strength and resilience through themselves without even realising it until years later. She is for the girls that need constant reassurance that everything will be ok and that they can relax every now and then!!!

Mom & Dad

And the “it was one of the few times she and Feyre had been allies.” Is so pathetic. They weren’t allies when she saved her life for years??? When Feyre gave her unearned money?? This one-sided weird resentment towards Feyre would make so much sense of Feyre did something to her. Or if n.esta hated her but didn’t also take from her all this time. N.esta is jealous of her ability to get up and fight for herself, and reading acosf was a headache

Also, like why the fuck are they making excuses for it. I thought they adored flawed characters but why are they in return sanctifying them? I'm not saying the IC is a saint either because they all have showcased their flaws but the main issue is the double standard that IC = automatically evil because of SJM and Anti-IC = victim of SJM writing. I agreed on one post that anti-ICs consisting of Nesta, Tamlin, Lucien, Eris, or maybe Tarquin are mostly joined together because most of these stans just think these are the characters that didn't "hate" their beloved Nesta/Tamlin. And notice that these are the people that hurt Feyre? But they want to downplay her experience of abuse with these characters because apparently, Feyre is an 'unreliable' narrator or she's a bad communicator. It's so stupid. On top of this, they want to victimize these characters so much. The fanfics consist of them being the victims and banding together like deluded underdogs to overthrow the IC and it's actually embarrassing how these antis dig this. Then they come up with these grand names for them like Lucien as High King or Tamlin finally getting revenge or Nesta as high queen while IC jail happily ever after. No amount of "they're just fictional characters" excuses would convince me because they themselves throw in too complex and out-of-touch issues in a fantasy romance book. But when we complain, they get all nerdy and protest that we're gatekeeping intellectual' discourse. Lol be fr.

"sHe wAs aN eNaBleR"

Yes, the 14 year old kid going into the forest to hunt in her desperation to save her starving family was an eNabLeR.

The food ran out and NONE OF THEM DID ANYTHING that's a fact?? Trying to paint this into feyre having a savior complex (I actually wish she did) is insane. Feyre isn't painting herself some kind of hero, this is n.esta talking about her here:

If Feyre hadn’t returned home with meat that night, they either would have had to starve to death or beg in the village. -Nesta in ACOSF

The kid going to any length to feed her family so they don't fucking die isn't her being an "enabler". The father sitting on his ass and never trying to put an end to n.esta's verbal abuse of feyre IS enabling her behavior. The 20/21 something sister siding with the abusive one and only talking to feyre when she needed something IS enabling her abusive and selfish tendencies.

Yeah I never got that either. The narrative paints n.esta as this martyr saint just because she was generally protective of her younger sister......which is how most siblings, especially older siblings are towards their younger ones?? What's so special about it? That's a very normal thing (n.esta only caring about feyre when she is in extreme life and death situations is what's NOT normal!) the fact that sjm tries to portray this as something extraordinarily heroic just shows how she doesn't have the first idea how sibling dynamics work.

Why am I expected to cheer on n.esta for waiting for feyre to get eaten by the wolves to finally step up and get a job? Also why is prostitution her only option? She was educated at a time when literacy was rare and valued. She couldn't teach some kids in the village or offer to teach something to the young women she was friends with for some coins? it would kill the whole "woe is me" storyline so it's not even considered a possibility

And yes the whole "n.esta would do anything for elain" is just telling but not showing. Her stans who always belittle elain for being a gardener and behave like n.esta singlehandedly brought up, clothed and fed elain and that elain should kiss her feet for that are forgetting that elain is the reason n.esta (& her mate) is alive and got to brag about killing the king "WiTh luCk aNd rAgE".

ya lit meme: a court of thorns and roses by sarah j. maas

To simply put it: she's different.

Feyre is not written to be this obnoxiously epic main character who behaves perfectly in all situations and always takes the right decision neither is she a damsel in need of rescue. The narrative recognizes her weaknesses and strengths and doesn't paint her to be a perfect know-it-all. I like a heroine that is allowed to make mistakes and be vulnerable without being too fragile, who is allowed to be strong and tough without being too brittle.