addicted parent(s)

my dads been an alcoholic ever since i was a baby, i'm 15 now. he's been to rehab he's had medicine we've taken him to AA, nothing's worked. 1 week he's drunk 1 week he's not it's on & off & its exhausting. my brother had college in a few months so we are leaving it for now. but what happens when my brother leaves & i need to focus on my junior/senior year? i have depression & anxiety, my mom is depressed & can't take anymore, my dad doesn't even have a job. we're out of options:/

After about 3 weeks of being sober, my mother started drinking AGAIN last night. Me and her got in a pretty heated fight. And like always made herself the victim. She made my cry because my grandfather has cancer and he's very old. Her brother died a few years back, so she's using all this to make everyone feel bad for her. She's figured out that I hate her with my entire being, so she's trying to make it seem like my dad is someone terrible. How do I get back my old family?

Both of my parents are alcoholics. I'm terrified every day because of March 27th last year when that one fight got physical. I'm scared I'll never be able to get away, that I'll still have anxiety attacks nightly because when the sun is gone that's when it all starts. I have major symptoms of ptsd and I can't do anything about it because my parents would laugh and say 'from what?!' I'm scared that I'll never be able to leave. That I'll never know what normal is.

im scared to have kids because even tho i won't ever drink im worried i'll fuck up in some way and fuck them up in some way.

I don't know who to turn to. My mother believes people with depression are lying and just want attention. My 'best friend' never really seems to listen when I tell her my father was alcoholic. I'd like to mention I told many times before he became sober and she always ignored it. She only talks about boys and how they broke her heart. I'm ALWAYS there for her. Her shoulder and support but she never lets me talk. I just want someone to know and understand I'm not always happy. Any advice?

2/2 she says she's trying to quit but i only kind of believe her. also, ive been drinking semi-regularly for a couple years. it's fun and helps me feel better, but im terrified of becoming an addict like my mom. shes pathetic and disgusting and i dont ever want to be like that. (dont get me wrong, i love her, we're usually friendly..) i just. idk. any tips for me? - r

My mother is an alcoholic and it's been hard for the past 6 months (harder than usual) because I'm planning my wedding and my fiancee is in the military so he's living 800 miles away. It's so frustrating that I can't do anything except try to support her in her recovery, but right now she doesn't care. She doesn't want to get better because when she did get better about a year ago, she still wasn't happy. It's just really overwhelming because it seems like I'm never going to get her back.

my mom only stopped drinking when she got fat. it hurts to think that would affect her more than all the times i begged her to stop

My dad is an alcoholic he lives with his mother (81) as has no money and due to chronic liver cirrhosis no job or life. I view alcoholism as a disease and am constantly conflicted as I hate but love my dad and pity him. He has asked me for money and I know it's for alcohol. My worry is he will steal or borrow from horrible people (like in past) if I don't. we are waiting for him to get bed in rehab programme but if he doesn't drink his body shuts down (been to A&E many times) what should I do?

My dads been an alcoholic my whole life, I'm 22 now and it's effecting me more than ever he constantly comes home absolutely abliterated and comes in to my room shouting abuse at me calling me a bitch and im selfish and I don't help him. This year I sacrificed christmas with my mum to stay with him because I didn't want him to be alone and he left me all day to be drunk. I'm sorry for rambling on I just needed someone who understood

dear friends: I don't drink because my parents do and im scared that if I start to drink I will never stop. after all, the only examples I have are a 52 yr old who cant go a day without finishing a few bottles of whine and a litre of whiskey, im sorry to be a party stopper but i want to be a parent for my children and not an adult child for them to look after and worry about

(In response to your filling the void of the alcoholic parent with love thing) I've always done that too... While my father has had his alcohol issues, I've always become attatched greatly to my mom's husbands, basically treating them as my dad.

I attent Alteen meeting weekly, I know everything you could possibly tell me but I still wonder what it would be like to mean more to my father than alcohol does.

Hi Chelsea! I'm currently working on something for school regarding the effect of having an alcoholic parent on children and I was hoping to get some insight from a few people on tumblr, among other sources. Please respond back if you'd like more details or are willing to help! It would mean a lot to me because I want this to be more meaningful than just a school assignment. Have a great day! Can't wait to hear back from you - Sophie xx

I can't do it anymore my dad makes me so unhappy.he doesn't hit me or get angry at me but he has never been there and when my grandad died it hit me harder than I thought it would because he was like my dad. And now I feel so alone. I walk downstairs every morning to see him drinking he's either angry because he wants a drink or drunk and so pissed that he doesn't think about what he's saying and is just a twat there's never an inbetween and I want to die i can't live like this anymore