PSA
"heteronormative" does not mean "M/F"
it means "promoting or conforming to a worldview of heterosexuality as the norm/default"
a relationship between a man and a woman isn't "heteronormative" because it's about the two individuals in the relationship, not about the views of society re: sexuality and romance. it's just heterosexual (or M/F or male/female, if you want to allow a bit more leeway for bi or pan people)
Tapping the sign again! Heteronormative and heterosexual mean two different things!!!οΏΌ
With the utmost respect, that is still not what it means, and this is exactly what I was talking about
Heteronormative means the assumption that heterosexuality is the default. It's a belief; it does not mean "conforming to conventional gender roles" or simply "heterosexual"
There's no such thing as a heteronormative relationship because a relationship cannot hold or promote beliefs
okay well then I'm completely lost
How so?
"Society is heteronormative" = society assumes heterosexuality is the default. Correct usage
"her boyfriend totally calls the shots; that's such a heteronormative relationship" = this person means to say "a relationship with conventional gender roles." Not the right usage but I see it a lot
things that are heteronormative; parents talking about their little girls future husband or boyfriend (not even considering that she could be gay(this inr is also amatonromativity, girlie could be ace or aro or both!)), pamphlet about domestic abuse in the therapy clinic talking about the reader as a woman and the abuser as a man (cant account for women abusers in wlw or guy victims in mlm relationships (or even a woman abuser and man victim in this case.)) Sex ed in school only explaining how to have safe and protected hetereosexual sex (not how to have safe sex between two men or two women), only heterosexual marriage is legal (why should others get the legal benefits of marriage if only m/f couples exist right???)
Things that are heterosexual but not heteronormative: a guy saying that girl over there is hot. A girl having planned her dream wedding since childhood and finally getting to have it with the perfect guy. A woman making a stan account for a member of a boy band. A teen boy putting bikini model posters up in his room. A girl and a boy going for a date.


















