Being with my boyfriend has been one of the most humbling experiences of my life.
I realized that the things I call “problems” have always existed inside a safety net. I’ve never had to wonder how rent would be paid, how groceries would be bought, or whether I could afford to stay in university. My parents carried those burdens for me without me even noticing — the housing, the bills, the tuition, and even the small luxuries that are essential to me like clothes, jewelry, makeup, skin care, and my gym membership.
the extent of my worries has always been finishing my lectures and what outfit to wear the next day.
But he wakes up every day carrying the kind of weight I’ve never had to carry. Thinking about money, responsibilities, survival — and still finding the discipline to study and keep pushing forward.
Loving someone whose life looks like that forces you to see your own life clearly. It makes you realize how quiet privilege can be. How easily comfort disguises itself as struggle.
I’ve had a cushion under me for years now. And I realized how small my problems when I finally saw the difference.
