Our Sexiness

Ways to Tease Him

Tease Your slave to get him to the point where he’ll “Do Anything to please You”

Make him strip naked while You keep Your clothes on.

Have him kneel before You and kiss Your feet.

Have him address You as ‘Mistress’

Have him kiss Your ass…make him beg to kiss Your ass.

Tie his hands and have him undress You with his mouth/teeth.

Don’t let him masturbate or touch his cock without Your permission at any time.

Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while You read or watch TV, occasionally nudging his balls or penis with Your shoes.

Either order him to stay erect, or don’t give him permission to have a hard on… either way, punish him if he fails!

Use some strong string (kite string), tie a slip noose in the end and tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever You please.

Show Your slave Your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching without permission.

Tie Your slave spread eagle to the bed and tease him for hours. Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it when he needs just a little more encouragement, don’t let him cum.

Put on his favorite lingerie and tease him with Your beauty.

Scratch him with Your finger nails.Tickle him. Pinch his nipples.

Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss Your nipple. Let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.

Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else You might do.

Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste the crotch of Your panties…get more promises

Blindfold him and make him lick You to several orgasms. Take a break, cum back and do it all again.

Rub his face against Your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with Your panties or a gag so that he can’t lick You.

Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss Your ass…stay just out of reach.

Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.

Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it. Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He’ll be Your little brown noser and love it.

Make him lick the dildo clean.

Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.

Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.

Make him wear a cock ring (a watch strap or cat collar works well)

Ways to Humiliate Him

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid.

Make him do housework naked or dressed in women’s clothes.

Have him pamper You, have him:

give You a foot/back/full body massage

give You a pedicure/manicure,

paint Your finger/toe nails.

bathe You/shave your legs.

cook and serve You a nice dinner.

Make him hand wash Your panties and lingerie.

Make him polish Your shoes with his tongue.

Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash, like a dog.

Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that.

Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.

Ride him around as Your pony boy…spurs? a riding crop?

Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him. (don’t forget the fuck-me red lipstick!)

Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.

Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don’t let him, punish him if he does.

Make him screw himself with a dildo.

Make him earn his rewards; for example:

Allow him to kiss Your ass after the dishes are done.

1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of Yours. 5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes You cum 5 times. Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to make You cum.

If You think he’s earned an orgasm, make him cum on Your feet or Your ass and then make him lick You clean.

Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until You give him permission. When You give the command he must cum within 5 seconds or he will be punished and/or not allowed to cum at all. (keep him that way for 30 minutes, an hour…or as long as You want)

If he’s really horny and bothering You, You may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 5 or 6 times in a row. Use it as skin conditioner… 3 times on each foot, have him spread it around and lick them clean after each time.

Always make him lick You clean after sex.

When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.

Lock a padlock on his balls.

Give him a golden shower.

Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him. Punish him if You don’t think it’s good enough. Make him post it to the net (and send it to me to add to the list)

Ways to Discipline and Punish and Torment Him

Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hair brush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle, riding crop, switch, cat-o-nine tails…)

Tie him in an uncomfortable position.

Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.

Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)

Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.

In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders – good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable.

Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly. Do each ball separately. Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs.

Make him wear a chastity belt or cock cage.

Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.

Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.

Enema.

Double up on his domestic chores, make them more difficult: tie his hands; make him use a toothbrush to clean the toilet, tie his ankles with a short chain and make him wear extra high heels.

Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.

Have him lick You clean after you pee.

Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples.

Drip candle wax on him.

Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats, aerobics, yoga…)

E-book - Lessons For A Female Led Relationship

Dear Lover,

I couldn’t go to sleep tonight without saying this to you:

This key. This new sexual world you introduced me to almost a year ago. All of this has done so much good to our marriage. Our level of communication. Our level of intimacy.

Today I felt we reached a new level. We are just starting to get back into your chastity. You being my sub. Me finally fulfilling the role of the domme.

And yet, this morning. You and I discovered something new that we have never fully tried out that was not the traditional form of you being my sub and my being the domme.

I asked you to deny me. Over and over again. Fucking me right until my edge and I said stop. And you did exactly as I said. Over and over again. Until I started to pant and whimper and beg. Until you got our largest strap on that I haven’t been able to cum with before. I was so desperate for release that you put it on over (my) cock and slid inside me and begged me to cum and I did. Violently.

And then I cried. Tears of absolute broken down release. Happy tears. Tears of relief.

Tears of the most intimate and trustworthy acts that two people get to share when they are each other’s persons.

Thank you for being my person and supporting our sexual explorations. Wherever they take us.

I love you.

Xo

What makes Caging your man so special is the resulting energy dynamic between you.  The interaction is key for both partners, it is what enriches the experience and the relationship.  For the Keyholder to maximize the pleasure (both ways) and control (one way), it is important for her/him to understand what her sub is experiencing.

I think many assume that Day 1 is like Day 3 is like Day 7 is like….except more horny.  My experience has been much richer than that.  Like anything in life that takes days or weeks, a Caging session is a journey. Day 1 is different from Day 3 is different from Day 7 is different from Day 21….

My perspective includes a decade of Caging and Denial sessions of three weeks or more. Throughout these sessions I have noticed a recurring cycle of emotions and physical challenges that each one brought to me. I assume each caged sub experiences something similar and, as his Keyholder, your working to understand his unique cycle will significantly amplify the experience.  And every Keyholder wants her sub to crave being caged. 

In this blog, I want to highlight the mental and physical journey that each locked session brings to me.  I will summarize them by ‘Day locked’ number.  For me, it is a very similar sequence each time, with some minor shifting of transition dates.  It is my hope that I can inspire Keyholders to understand her/his sub a bit better and take full advantage of him.  

I will talk about where my energy focus is at each stage, as it shifts in my body.  There may be some correlation to the Chakras of Indian philosophy, which I know nothing about. 

Full disclosure, I am moderately submissive, nothing approaching Sissy.  But I find caging pushes me to a deliciously submissive state; it is why I love it.  If left alone, I have a ‘once every third day’ sex/masturbate schedule.  If your guy needs sex more frequently, i.e. daily, I assume that will alter his cycle significantly.  But I assume the sequence of the cycle, i.e the energy shifts,  will be similar.

Day 1.  A day of possibility and unknown.  Always exciting, always special.  That first lock click always brings a smile.

Day 3.  Day three is my ‘want sex’ day and the cage seriously multiplies that urge.  Horny.  And very centered in my crotch.  This energy and feeling increases through the first week.  I am revved up horny, my groin is screaming, I feel aggressive.  I am a walking, talking cock.  Go easy on him this cycle, be sexy, touch him a little, but give him time to cool down.

Day 7.  Day 7 +/- 1 day is my first transition point.  Suddenly the energy has moved into my head.  I am horny, but my crotch is calm.  My brain is excited, full of fantasies and lust.  This is a lovely time for cat and mouse play.  Play with his mind, not his cock.  Tease his brain with scenarios, stories, porn he likes, how you will take him, etc.  This is when you sink the hook.  This period lasts about a week or more for me.  It is very excited pleasure.

Day 14.  Somewhere around the second or third week, Days 14-21, the energy shifts again, this time to my heart.  This is the ‘I love her madly’ zone.  This is what you, as Keyholder, are aiming for.  In this phase, I will do anything to please her.  Anything.  With no expectation.  I am horny but calmly so.  This is when the horny becomes submission.  I have surrendered totally to her now.  Slow, physical teasing in this phase is incredible.  Every touch is amazing.  A few nipple twists later I am a puddle.  This is my sweet spot and I could live here forever. And for the Keyholder, this is when you get full and exqusite control.  Daily oral orgasms on are the menu.

Day 21 and onward.  Eventually the energy settles in my abdomen.  I am calm, happy, subservient, devoted, cooperative.  But now is when the physical limitations of denial creep in.  My balls get sore, my nights are interrupted with massive cage crushed erections.  It becomes a physical challenge.  Big time Blue Balls.  

To go further, you have to tough it out, hope for a wet dream or take charge of it.  Prostate massage is a lovely way to reduce the pressure without orgasm.  Getting carefully pegged can accomplish the same.  I still remember the first time I dripped, dribbled and, ultimately poured myself out on the floor while Mistress slowly pegged me from behind.  If you can solve the physical needs, you can ride the wave as long as you like.  

I want to post something meaningful tonight but I find myself so sad and unable to express myself appropriately!! I’m so sad! So much has changed and so much will change!

@staff - banning porn is one thing but banning our original pics is totally different! Posting my pictures on this site has changed my life! I believe in myself in ways I never have. I accept myself like I never have before! Females presenting their nipples is not an evil in the world! I won’t be ashamed of what I did here! It was fun and it was liberating! I’m sorry you didn’t see the good in supporting regular, every day people owning their sexuality! Because of you, something special will cease to exist!!!

That being said, this is home. I’m not ready to leave the community! I hope my amazingly incredible followers decide to stick around and continue being a community with me! I’m eternally grateful for each and every one of you!!

THANK YOU SEXY PEOPLE!! You have filled this girl with so much love and support! I will carry you in my heart, always!!!!

xoxo

If anyone is migrating to MeWe from tumblr can you please reblog this with your MeWe username so we can find each other there ?

Dear Lover,

I’m going to be completely honest and say that I’m sad that Tumblr is taking our community away. I have learned so much about what is out there, so much about you, about me and most importantly so much about us as a couple through our posts and shares.

I know I was initially terrified of Tumblr. What am I going to see, what will I learn about? What if someone writes to us or recognizes us?

All of those things actually became positive attributes to our blog as it allowed us to grow as a couple further and faster than I think we ever imagined.

Posting for you through this journey has given me confidence, made me feel beautiful, made me feel daring to try new things, make me think about desires I didn’t even know I had. It’s made me smile on a shitty day, waiting for your response that I know I’ll get once you take a moment and check our blog. It’s been a quiet banter that I look forward to every day.

I have you to thank for that. For bringing this crazy and exciting and loving world to our marriage. From the day you told me you had the cage on we haven’t looked back and wished for our beautiful yet vanilla sexual relationship.

More importantly this has allowed us to learn communication skills that have affected us well beyond our bedroom. It’s

made us a better couple.

So, fuck Tumblr. We will find a new outlet to share with each other. I just wanted you to know how much I have loved this experience with you and that I look forward to the next place for me to share myself with you, and about 12,000 other people ;)

I love you.

Xo

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