Every time I see posts where people blame straight girls for bad BL content, I roll my eyes so hard. Itâs usually just that, straight girls, fujoshi; they ruin everything. Even Iâm slightly uncomfortable when people refer to themselves as fujoshi, especially given the history with them in the United States. With what limited knowledge I have over in Japan, it seemed that a portion of fujoshi were homophobic towards real men. This is also a huge issue in the U.S. Though now I think our problems in the BL community stretch farther than that.
In more of my recent experiences, Iâve encountered plenty of fujoshi who do not identify as cis and/or straight. A lot of bisexual fujoshis exist; including pan, lesbian, etc. Not ever BL fan you meet, whether or not they claim to be fujoshi, are cishet women. Given the harsh nature of fandoms on twitter and tumblr, I honestly think some people just hate dfab individuals. Fudanshi exist. I am here, real, and alive. I too am problematic, but most of the time you just hear people bashing on straight women. It feelsâŠincredibly misogynistic to me, but it should go without saying that no one is absolved from criticisms.
There is a lot of beef I have with bad BL, from real shitty romanticized rapey tropes to just poorly written stories and bad art. At the end of the day, itâs just personal preferences and Iâm a very particular and picky individual. Thereâs more so an issue I have with people not always understanding the behaviors and main ideas of a story, i.e; âHe apologized for the rape, itâs true love!! Happily ever after!â Things like that. It really gets on my nerves, though I find most of us who had this phase tend to grow out of it as we get older? No one really told me what to do, or what direction to go in when it came to being more of a decent person in the community. I just got older and thought more of what I said online. There are just some things you shouldnât say in public, because you donât know whoâs a survivor, easily squicked, etc.
When it comes to IRL shipping, why would you do that? Iâm talking about band members, actors, people you may not even know personally, etc. Unless you have their consent, I find it odd and creepy that people would do such a thing. With that being said, most of this post is primarily about BL and fujoshi + fudanshi.
I feel like people give fujoshi too much shit. Again, like I said beforeâ it feels misogynistic. Go ahead and critique BL all you want, because there is some serious shit out there thatâs incredibly ???? But I also want to throw in the fact that /fluffy/ stories exist in this pool. Thereâs literally all sorts of kinds of works you can find. Not everything is everyoneâs cup of tea, and I feel like people need to respect that too. Iâm saying this because somewhere, somehow, people want to condemn all BL? Jesus people, whereâs your critical eye?
Not everyone who reads those fucked up Gintama DJs by Harada is a straight woman who fetishizes gay people. Hello, yes, I am right here, looking you in the eyes. I am by no means a ciswoman. Reading this, you should already know me, my name and my pronouns. But yes, I am dfab and itâs hard to continually read posts where people like me are assumed to be straight and cis. A lot of said posts are under the guise of trying to protect gay men, who write just as much poorly created mlm content. No one is exempt from writing piss poor bullshit online, Iâm sorry. Have you read homoerotic novels written by gay men? That shit is hilarious (and cringe worthy at times).
Do I even need to bring up hentai and lesbian porn made for cismen? But Jun, what does this have to do with fujoshi? A LOT of dfab individuals go to BL as a form of comfort, escapism, etc. Fuck, some didnât even realize they werenât straight/cis BECAUSE of BL. And in general? BL can be a whole lot nicer than your typical run-of-the-mill hentai series, yuri, rando lesbian porn, etc. I have another blog dedicated to good yuri/hentai, but trying to find good content is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Since you guys are giving fujoshi so much shit, why not go after people who consume hentai where the dude fucks his little sister? Or obnoxiously written yuri where you DEFINITELY know this is made for dudes. Huh? Well???
Honestly? NONE OF THIS MATTERS; Besides silencing voices of those who have a problem with it, and by voices I mean the ones being critical and not attacking people for it. Respect all voices, even if you donât agree with them (and I am not including people who are purposely being inflammatory, condescending, insulting, etc). This includes; gay men who do have issues with BL, straight womenâs perspectives, trans peopleâs perspective, etc. It literally doesnât matter who you are, be a decent human being, and maybe try to understand why people would be upset or have differing views. You donât even need to agree with everything Iâve said so far. Iâm just throwing it out there that not every shitty fujoshi is female. Not every fujoshi is a gross straight woman. I know most of us are tired of straight people, but uh, shocking news but we ourselves can be pieces of shit too. Internalized homophobia, racism, etc. No one is absolved from being a person who does/says shitty things.
That is why it is important to call people out on their shit (forget the callout posts, just message someone and be like, âHey, this comment you made was kinda??? Iâd like to understand your stance/positionâ etc. Callout culture is generally unhealthy most of the time) Understand why they wrote it, and see if they are worth engaging. If not? Then move on, because some folks are serious assholes without any remorse. If the person is genuine and literally does not understand, then maybe point some things out to them? The point is, stop making shitty assumptions about people (who you donât even know); stop flying off the handle. Think about it for a second. T h i n k.
And stop blaming straight women for everything wrong in the BL community. Stop erasing LGBT identities. Itâs pissing me off.
Additionally, your hurt feelings arenât a justification for being a condescending shithead. Too many times Iâve seen someone trying to explain a thing to another person and the latter just flies off the handle. It doesnât matter if youâre right or wrong, itâs a matter of common level decency (especially in debates). If the person and their views really upset you, just be the bigger person and walk away before you say something stupid (and you know what follows after that; potentially getting dragged, humiliated, etc.).Â
Make use of tumblrâs features and xkit. Block, blacklist, etc. Theyâre there for a reason.Â
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