Advice from a Bro

That is absolutely possible and in a lot of cases, how pretty much every trans person starts out. 

Listen, even if you end up deciding you’re a cis girl, there’s no reason to think the only reason you went though all of this just to be a special snowflake. That’s just a shitty rhetoric handed to you by gate-keeping cynics and transphobes. 

Experimenting is healthy and about the only way to know for sure how you feel. Physical dysphoria despite what some will tell you is not a mandatory requirement for transness. I’d instead consider how you feel on the social dysphoria front, since that’s where I’ve noticed most people find their problem. It’s all about how you’re perceived by people that causes you discomfort with your gender. 

It all goes back into the idea that biological sex is a social construct that make there no real such thing as a “female body” which means any body can be a female body, depending on the person who’s using it. I won’t get into it.

With ALL DUE RESPECT, have you tried fingering your ass.

Okay okay, seriously though, imaging your anatomy to be different is a common trans thing, but it isn’t necessarily so, either. It may just be a fantasy, something different or new that you want to feel.

If you are questioning your gender then all the power to you, but I don’t think I’d say wanting different anatomy to jerk around should necessarily be considered  catalyst for that. You know?

Not to be blunt, but uh, maybe you should start by dropping that entitled attitude? 

Just because she knows that you love her doesn’t mean she has to drop her entire romantic life to soften the blow for you. She’s her own person with her own feelings. If you love her this much why would you want her to hold herself back for you when you know she doesn’t feel the same? Sounds pretty caging. 

But, to answer your question, I pretty much always say the same thing for this sort of issue and it boils down to focusing on yourself. Find a flaw in your personality that you could work on (I think I gave you a pretty good suggestion) or pick up a new hobby you want to learn or finish something you haven’t finished yet.

If how you’re feeling changes instead of just what you feel like wearing, it is in all likelihood an identity issue over expression. But don’t fret, because I have a few gender switching labels to offer you.

Genderfluid refers to a fluidity of genders. Imagine being in a big pool, except the water is a psychedelic clusterfuck of gender. Demigirl refers to identifying as female, but not completely. This may not apply because you are switching between girl and boy, but it’s something to consider. Demigirl is opposite demiboy and is more or less exchangeable with nonbinary girl.bigender/trigender are possibly the most fitting, they refer to being both one gender and another, possibly at the same time though not necessarily. That’s actually where I fit on the lovely gender spectrum. I’ve been bigender for quite some time, though I still present male for the most part. 

What you’re thinking of is sex repulsion. It’s super common, especially on the asexual spectrum, but can be found with loads of other sexual identities, too. 

Sweet messages don’t mean much if they don’t come from your heart and aren’t personalized to the dame.

Your brother is wrong, incorrect, go straight to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. 

I’ve brought this up before but I’ll reiterate, identity does not always line up with the social acceptable gender expression. 

You can be a dude with long hair, wearing dresses as much as any trans woman can still be a woman without giving up jeans and constantly shaving. 

Getting injections takes a lot of spoons and a lot of guts, especially for someone who has a fear of needles. Hormonal transitioning is also not at all required for your to have your identity and use it too. 

Your brother is working off archaic standards that have been ingrained in him since birth, and while it might take him some time and some educating to unlearn those, you can convince him otherwise. It sucks that he’s choosing those over family, and it’s not fair. 

Not sure I’ve ever heard of that being done, but as long as it’s stretchy enough to let your lungs expand and you take breaks from wearing it every few hours, I can’t see why it wouldn’t be. Too much stretch though of course will leave you as significantly unbinded. If you haven’t held a binder before, they are sturdy and tight.

I don’t bind, though, so I probably am not the best person to cover this. I’d suggest a quick search for trans resources to find someone with a bit more know-how than I have to double check for you. In the meantime, I gotta recommend GC2b, a company that has glowing reviews. A bit of an investment for someone who may not have an income, but worth while in the long run for how long they last.

I think the theory I read about in regards to this feeling had a lot to do with heteronormative power imbalances. The reason behind wanting to be with a guy "as a guy" is basically that, you want to be loved and respected as a guy would be loved and respected.

Girls get the short end of the stick thanks to a lot of shitty standards society sets out for them. They're seen as the passive partner, even if it's not in such outright ways as being a housewife.

I think the general rule is to never do anything extraneous while binding, just because it puts a lot of strain on your lungs as it is to be overworking them. That being said, I'm sure you can pull it off so long as you take very, very frequent breaks during which you take the binder off and take a few moments to work on your deep breathing.

I'd say it's the same as getting over anything else. Lots of time, lots of heartache, and lots of personal growth. I've mentioned before in situations like this that focusing on yourself is a vital tool. Work on your individuality to avoid thinking too much or relying too much on the feeling of being in a relationship. Don't look at their Facebook page, delete their number so you aren't tempted. Do something nice for you, set an athletic or artistic goal for yourself to focus on while you pass the time. Be constructive and don't dwell.

As weird as it sounds, I have personally met a lot of platonic friends on OkCupid. Gives you a chance to meet people locally while having it stated off the bat that you are only looking for friendship. Getting to know someone online was always easier for me, considering I intimidate everyone I approach.

Getting comfortable with them in a more safe environment might help calm your nerves when you eventually decide to go see a movie or something. (Age of Ultron, anyone?)