I personally am an asexual that has sex. When I tell people this they always look at me extremely confused. If this confuses you too or if you're a fellow sex-positive ace and someone is confused this is the best way I have found to describe to people for it to make sense in their mind.
Imagine you see a donut. You're not really hungry but you eat the donut anyways because they taste good. That is what having sex as an asexual feels for me. I'm not doing it to satisfy a need, I'm doing it because it feels good and I like it. There is no sexual attraction or urge there, just a desire to feel good.
I have used this metaphor multiple times and it always seems to be the thing to help people understand, so I hope it helps someone else too.



















