An Abstracted Collective

You’re not obsessed with them. you’re starving for something they can’t give you But here’s something no one says about limerence: it doesn’t happen to people who don’t feel deeply. it happens to people who feel so much — and have nowhere real to put it. you have a capacity for intimacy that most people around you cannot match. you know this. you’ve always known it. the conversations that…

Falling for the unavailable is a pattern, not a coincidence there’s a specific kind of limerence that nobody talks about honestly. the kind where the person is unavailable — and some part of you knew that before you ever got attached to them. emotionally distant. already in a relationship. geographically impossible. perpetually ambiguous, never quite committing, always just almost there. and…

you’re not obsessed with who they are. you’re obsessed with who you become when you imagine being near them. here is the thing about your limerence that you haven’t quite let yourself see yet: it was never really about them. it was about you — the version of you that comes alive when you imagine being near them. think about what the obsession actually feels like. not just the longing — but…

it was never really about a person. it was about a life you quietly stopped believing was available to you. Where this particular form of limerence differs from the usual romantic versions there’s a form of limerence that doesn’t look like limerence at all. it looks like a midlife crisis. or quiet desperation. or just that persistent, low-grade feeling that you took the responsible, “correct”…

When I first started following my intuition, I didn’t even know that was what it was called. I just knew I was listening to an “internal feeling.”A quiet voice.A nudge I couldn’t ignore. It has saved me — and people around me — from some very drastic situations: • Stopped my dad from going deeper into a scam• Left a relationship that gave me massive alarm bells (he later turned out to be a…

There was a period in my life where I realised something subtle but unsettling. I had been living smaller than the life that was actually available to me. Not in an obvious way. From the outside, everything looked perfectly reasonable. My career was stable.My life looked structured.My decisions made sense. But internally there was a persistent signal I couldn’t ignore. A quiet awareness…

I spoke to someone last week who said something that many people quietly believe. She said: “I just want certainty before I make my next move.” She wasn’t asking for perfection. She just wanted enough clarity to feel safe making a decision. A career move.A relationship change.A shift in direction. From her perspective, the problem was obvious. She lacked certainty. But as someone who…

We are in the year of 2026. In numerology, 2026 adds up to 10 — the Wheel of Fortune in tarot. Add 1 + 0 and you get 1, which corresponds to the Sun and the Magician. These are powerful forces shaping this year. Combine that with the fiery energy of the Horse, and this is a potent time to make things happen. If you’re completely clueless about tarot — don’t worry. I’m going to break this down…

You assume you have time. Until suddenly you don’t. When we’re young, life feels endless. You worry about toys.Exams.Crushes.Jobs. You procrastinate because there’s always “next year.” Until something shifts. The Awakening In recent years, I’ve watched: A healthy man in his 40s die suddenly. A retiree pass in an accident just as life was beginning to slow down. A young child die of…

What if confidence isn’t just inside-out — but also outside-in? I used to believe clothes didn’t matter. “Confidence comes from within,” I’d say. And while that’s true… it’s incomplete. Before I wore things that looked good “on paper.” Chiffon blouses. Structured pieces. Trendy styles. But I’d spend the day subtly uncomfortable. Shrinking. Waiting to go home and change. I didn’t realise…

What if money doesn’t belong to you — but flows through you? Lately, I’ve been thinking deeply about how I spend. Not just “can I afford this?”But: Is this wise? Is this aligned? Is this energy well-directed? As someone who tracks expenses meticulously, the data told an interesting story. Before I used to spend like many of us do: Beauty packages every 6 months Layers of skincare Takeout…

Not every room you enter is meant to be a room you stay in. Recently, I quietly left a social group I had been part of for some time. Nothing dramatic happened.No conflict. No fallout. But something inside me felt… misaligned. The conversations no longer nourished me. The energy felt slightly off. The spiritual lens leaned heavily Western new-age, while my own practice has grown more rooted…

When I first started following my intuition, I didn’t even know that was what it was called. I just knew I was listening to an “internal feeling.”A quiet voice.A nudge I couldn’t ignore. It has saved me — and people around me — from some very drastic situations: • Stopped my dad from going deeper into a scam• Left a relationship that gave me massive alarm bells (he later turned out to be a…

We are in the year of 2026. In numerology, 2026 adds up to 10 — the Wheel of Fortune in tarot. Add 1 + 0 and you get 1, which corresponds to the Sun and the Magician. These are powerful forces shaping this year. Combine that with the fiery energy of the Horse, and this is a potent time to make things happen. If you’re completely clueless about tarot — don’t worry. I’m going to break this down…

If self-care feels like another full-time job… it’s not self-care. When I hear people talk about self-care — especially in the West — it often sounds like this: Yoga. Pilates. Cold plunges. Green juices. No sugar. No carbs. No “bad” foods.5am routines. 10-step skincare. Hour-long rituals. And I used to think…“Okay. I guess I have to do all of that to be a ‘regulated’, evolved person.” But…

Most people come to personal growth work already aware of themselves, their “stuff” and what they need to do next to heal. They’ve analysed their patterns.Read the books.Named the wounds.Mapped the trauma. They still: freeze in the same moments override their intuition stay too long in toxic situations leave too late overthink themselves out of clarity This isn’t because they’re doing it…

Most people think attraction is chemistry. You hear it often – “We don’t have chemistry”, “I didn’t feel the chemistry”. People also talk about fate, luck, timing or “having a type.” But if you look closely — really closely — most attraction is patterned. You don’t randomly attract people. You attract people who feel familiar to your nervous system. Life and the universe has a very…